This is cultural. Here nobody knows the price of their plate and no one considers that or discusses it. I’ve literally only seen it mentioned on Reddit.
I would be REALLY hurt if my partner disregarded my feelings about an item that’s supposed to represent our union. I would consider that a huge red flag.
I have anorexia, so I relate a lot to being overwhelmed by the pain of my appearance. I think it’s almost a certainty that you’re the only one who sees the issues you see; otherwise you would have noticed before, and a loved one or the seamstress or the photographer would have intervened. I would show the photos to someone you trust to be honest with you, and get some feedback about whether your perception is accurate.
That dress is too small, especially on your hips. I would pay big money to have hips like yours, but I know from having a big butt/chest and small waist that it is so hard to find clothing that fits!! If you want to wear this dress, you’re going to need to get a size up and have the waist taken in.
Something sort of structured, no scrunchy bits, around the knee or a bit above if you’re tall enough to have a segment of leg that’s above the knee but not “short” (I’m 5’1 and it basically goes knee, mini). Smoother, thicker material usually. Not sheer, not a halter top (usually), not bodycon.
Way too casual overall, unfortunately. Even causal weddings are more formal than a crop top and a casual scrunchy skirt. You need to google wedding dress codes and just look at a bunch of examples, and then adjust that to be boho. Since the dress code has “formal” in it (bafflingly), I would look for an elegant dress (not two unrelated pieces) that has boho detailing. Think 70s but elevated.
My husband and I met on Hinge and quietly decided to get married after about ten months too, but we waited to make it official and he proposed at 1.5 years. I was 33, so around your age.
Oh boy, time to get the sweet sweet downvotes but this just feels like your friend snorts too much TERFy and "(kill-)all-men" rhetoric and internalized it, narrow-ass gender roles and all.
I live in LA. IME friends usually leave when the wedding is over or, if there’s an after-party, anywhere from halfway through that to the end. But parents of small kids leave earlier, and parents of infants sometimes leave before the wedding is over. Etiquette says you can leave after cake.
My aunt felt the same as you: she’d been married before and didn’t want a big wedding. My uncle had never been married and wanted a big wedding. They ended up doing a big wedding, and it was beautiful.
This is cultural. Here nobody knows the price of their plate and no one considers that or discusses it. I’ve literally only seen it mentioned on Reddit.
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Tough one. It depends entirely on your crowd. I’d say this is a relatively casual dress but in more casual circles it should work.
You HAVE to say nothing about gifts on the invite. It’s not an option; it’s the only option. Invites do not mention gifts.
I don’t like bouquet tosses personally and don’t see them very often, so that doesn’t seem weird to me at all.
I would be REALLY hurt if my partner disregarded my feelings about an item that’s supposed to represent our union. I would consider that a huge red flag.
I have anorexia, so I relate a lot to being overwhelmed by the pain of my appearance. I think it’s almost a certainty that you’re the only one who sees the issues you see; otherwise you would have noticed before, and a loved one or the seamstress or the photographer would have intervened. I would show the photos to someone you trust to be honest with you, and get some feedback about whether your perception is accurate.
That dress is too small, especially on your hips. I would pay big money to have hips like yours, but I know from having a big butt/chest and small waist that it is so hard to find clothing that fits!! If you want to wear this dress, you’re going to need to get a size up and have the waist taken in.
It doesn’t matter at all.
Something sort of structured, no scrunchy bits, around the knee or a bit above if you’re tall enough to have a segment of leg that’s above the knee but not “short” (I’m 5’1 and it basically goes knee, mini). Smoother, thicker material usually. Not sheer, not a halter top (usually), not bodycon.
Gifts for weddings are something from the registry or cash, always.
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Things I’m SO glad we did:
Way too casual overall, unfortunately. Even causal weddings are more formal than a crop top and a casual scrunchy skirt. You need to google wedding dress codes and just look at a bunch of examples, and then adjust that to be boho. Since the dress code has “formal” in it (bafflingly), I would look for an elegant dress (not two unrelated pieces) that has boho detailing. Think 70s but elevated.
My husband and I met on Hinge and quietly decided to get married after about ten months too, but we waited to make it official and he proposed at 1.5 years. I was 33, so around your age.
I’ll be honest. I hated reading Dead Silence so much I don’t think I could ever bring myself to read another book by S. A. Barnes.
Strong agree! Whatever the premise is, it’s gonna be used as set dressing for a romance
“Formal/semi-formal” means the wedding couple don’t know what semi-formal means.
I zoomed in and see why you thought it might be okay, but from a distance in a photo it just looks like a frilly white dress.
Truly and without snark, if I saw a wedding guest wearing this dress, I’d suspect they were profoundly mentally ill.
Far too white IMO. The blue is so delicate.
Oh boy, time to get the sweet sweet downvotes but this just feels like your friend snorts too much TERFy and "(kill-)all-men" rhetoric and internalized it, narrow-ass gender roles and all.
I’m nonbinary, AFAB, and femme-presenting.
Is it your gf’s style? Has she told you what she likes?
I live in LA. IME friends usually leave when the wedding is over or, if there’s an after-party, anywhere from halfway through that to the end. But parents of small kids leave earlier, and parents of infants sometimes leave before the wedding is over. Etiquette says you can leave after cake.
My aunt felt the same as you: she’d been married before and didn’t want a big wedding. My uncle had never been married and wanted a big wedding. They ended up doing a big wedding, and it was beautiful.