Oh yea they absolutely do. The older I get though, the less patience I have for that kind of bs so when they start complaining, I remind them that they asked me to choose and I chose. I don’t sugarcoat it anymore, I tell them straight to their faces, no minced words. They didn’t like it at first, but I just kept taking this approach until they just accepted that this is how I’m choosing to communicate with them.
I am 23. My mom thinks it's a weird quirk of my father to comment like that and says to ignore it totally. I've never once heard them have this inside joke until about a year ago.
As a guy who recently became a grandfather, this is a fear of mine. I raised my kids moving from country to country with my work and they became used to not seeing extended family. They rarely saw their grandparents growing up. My oldest son was fine with it and is very independent. His own career is somewhat international he has lived in different countries to the one I live in. Last year he and his partner had a baby boy. He was born very premature and they have had a stressful time as a result but the baby is now flourishing. As luck would have it, they recently moved to a city one and a half hours drive from where I live. I can’t imagine not having the little guy in my life as he has brought us so much joy and a renewed sense of purpose. I suspect that grandparents love their kids more than most kids love their grandparents. It would mean the world to your grandfather if you gave him a call from time to time to say hi. Tell him about your life and ask about his. You won’t regret it.
NTA. He started it which means it’s now open season. It’s not as if any rules were agreed upon before he started pranking and he can’t just make them up as the day goes on. He needs to quit being so whiny and if he wants to prank next year the 2 of you should agree on the rules before you start.
At the rate he's being, I don't know if we'll still be together until next year ._. But will definitely have rules down for anyone up to pranking in 2024
He probably goes through an identity crisis right now. I would say to let him figure out his mistake on his own, but as you say, he’s being very harsh on himself. Therefore I suggest you try to talk it out with him again and try to thoroughly explain him that he’s just sabotaging himself.
It does sound like an identity crisis. He randomly shared his IQ results to me too and wants to compare it to people like Einstein. Also, thanks for the advice.
The quiet smart one but also weird from what I heard. I didn't talk much in class nor outside of class. It was hard to make a set circle of friends around people who already clicked as groups. I was dubbed the walking encyclopedia during our prom night.
I distance myself too. There are times when I can't control myself and their anger transfers to me. I hate myself when I'm angry. I've lashed out on others and said the worst things just because of my anger.
It's tiring to entertain multiple people at once. I wouldn't want my phone blowing up with 10 notifications from 5 different dates. Well, I'm an introvert and my social battery is smaller than most.
We have different circumstances. I'm glad you managed to move out but I, unfortunately, cannot do the same thing. I have to deal with them on a daily basis so I might as well help them understand me. Even if that will cause some conflict at first.
Oh yea they absolutely do. The older I get though, the less patience I have for that kind of bs so when they start complaining, I remind them that they asked me to choose and I chose. I don’t sugarcoat it anymore, I tell them straight to their faces, no minced words. They didn’t like it at first, but I just kept taking this approach until they just accepted that this is how I’m choosing to communicate with them.
The chipping away is something I have to start doing more often. Thank you for sharing.
My mom does the same thing and I hate how I always need to put a bra on when my dad is around. I just want to be comfy while in my room and at home.
How old are you, and how does your mum feel/react to your dad saying something isn’t spicy?
I am 23. My mom thinks it's a weird quirk of my father to comment like that and says to ignore it totally. I've never once heard them have this inside joke until about a year ago.
As a guy who recently became a grandfather, this is a fear of mine. I raised my kids moving from country to country with my work and they became used to not seeing extended family. They rarely saw their grandparents growing up. My oldest son was fine with it and is very independent. His own career is somewhat international he has lived in different countries to the one I live in. Last year he and his partner had a baby boy. He was born very premature and they have had a stressful time as a result but the baby is now flourishing. As luck would have it, they recently moved to a city one and a half hours drive from where I live. I can’t imagine not having the little guy in my life as he has brought us so much joy and a renewed sense of purpose. I suspect that grandparents love their kids more than most kids love their grandparents. It would mean the world to your grandfather if you gave him a call from time to time to say hi. Tell him about your life and ask about his. You won’t regret it.
I'll be in touch with him more often. Maybe have a short video call every week or so too. Thank you for sharing your story.
NTA. He started it which means it’s now open season. It’s not as if any rules were agreed upon before he started pranking and he can’t just make them up as the day goes on. He needs to quit being so whiny and if he wants to prank next year the 2 of you should agree on the rules before you start.
At the rate he's being, I don't know if we'll still be together until next year ._. But will definitely have rules down for anyone up to pranking in 2024
NTA. But those are weird “pranks” on both sides.
I don't know how to prank people Lol
I feel you. I had someone who made fun of my laugh while I thought we were getting along well. It ruined my mood for the rest of the night.
He probably goes through an identity crisis right now. I would say to let him figure out his mistake on his own, but as you say, he’s being very harsh on himself. Therefore I suggest you try to talk it out with him again and try to thoroughly explain him that he’s just sabotaging himself.
It does sound like an identity crisis. He randomly shared his IQ results to me too and wants to compare it to people like Einstein. Also, thanks for the advice.
sleepy drunk
I second. Sometimes I get emotional or giggly, depending on what I've been pondering over.
The quiet smart one but also weird from what I heard. I didn't talk much in class nor outside of class. It was hard to make a set circle of friends around people who already clicked as groups. I was dubbed the walking encyclopedia during our prom night.
I distance myself too. There are times when I can't control myself and their anger transfers to me. I hate myself when I'm angry. I've lashed out on others and said the worst things just because of my anger.
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Lol i know this game. Na LSS ako dito dati haha
Chaka chaka pata pon
I understood that reference
Pon pon chaka chaka
We found each other. Circumstances tore us apart though.
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God this annoys me so much. And sometimes I try three times to get a word in but if they interrupt me every time, I keep quiet.
It's tiring to entertain multiple people at once. I wouldn't want my phone blowing up with 10 notifications from 5 different dates. Well, I'm an introvert and my social battery is smaller than most.
Zack Fair from Crisis Core FFVII
My APs do this too. Establishing boundaries and talking to them about it will help lessen that from happening.
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We have different circumstances. I'm glad you managed to move out but I, unfortunately, cannot do the same thing. I have to deal with them on a daily basis so I might as well help them understand me. Even if that will cause some conflict at first.
Petting cats and dogs
And it's a plus if the cat purrs or the dog wags its tail.
Bring your phone and stare at it, seems to be the trend lately
I agree. Just looking uninterested and checking my phone does the trick for some. There are just a few people I know who cannot pick up on it.
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Thank you! I'll definitely do this the next time I need to.
I have a sensitive nose so a subtle clean smell is enough. Even a freshly ironed shirt smells good already.
Yes
Great for those who don't want human interaction but only suitable for places with mostly honest buyers.