The absolute best thing you can do to begin with is accept that you aren’t going to be able to just “make him stop”. You can only encourage him to do it as safely as possible. It’s effectively a high on the endorphins.
honestly I can deal with the small number of ads, but we all know they are going to find SOME monetarily extractive way of making this platform miserable to use; it’s just inevitable
isn’t that the funny thing? it actually IS stimulating to be in conversation with people on here because, despite the assholes and trolls, it’s mostly thoughtful people that appreciate the mild aesthetic and deeper, nuanced conversation.
I just rescued an abused dog that came from a drug house, chained up for the first part of his whole life, bits of his ears missing due to frostbite from freezing out in the cold. At first he was so traumatized he was shaking in the corner 24/7. Now after a few months of loving rehabilitation, he is becoming one of the best dogs I have ever owned.
right, and he’s better because you showed him different. He didn’t do that on his own. He didn’t “give” his way to feeling better. He received. He was taken care of. No one is coming to do that for me, and there’s not enough time for life to just work out better and for my feelings to change with the little time I actually have left.
I love the gaslighting title “THE PEOPLE WORKING 3 JOBS TO KEEP A ROOF OVER THEIR HEADS AND WHOM WE’VE BEEN OVERCHARGING ON THEIR MEAGER BREAKS BETWEEN WORK HOURS ARE STARTING TO CRACK! WHAT COULD POSSIBLY BE THE FUCKING PROBLEM? GREEDY SHAREHOLDERS AND A PROFIT-OVER-PEOPLE PHILOSOPHY? NOOOOOO”
thanks. Still trying to wrestle with the idea that she thinks completely differently of me now because of something stupid I said and self sabotage. Won’t dive into it, but it hurt her and I think I’d give anything for her to call me and talk. But I don’t see that happening.
obviously I’m just some asshole but you’d have to replace, one by one, every neuron in the brain along with every present connection with synthetic ones capable of every function already present in the original while the brain is still effectively active to maintain anything approaching continuity. This is completely assuming that there is nothing “external” about the “soul”.
I feel you bro, I’m going through something like this myself tbh, but we ended up with different mindsets somehow. I’m torn between having the feeling of knowing my dreams could come true with effort and all this other positive stuff. But the other part of me the inner child that was hurt And abused still feels worthless and believes nothing will work out for me. I’ve been severely depressed with a suicide attempt. But idk even tho apart of me feels worthless and unloved there’s a part of me that believes it’s all a lie. But I’ve only just started feeling hopeful. I used to feel hella hopeless but I just said “fuck it imma do me even if I feel differently” Shits hard when you don’t have a support system and don’t have belief in yourself.
not sure if it’s the same thing you’re talking about but I can basically turn loud, obnoxious noises into background white noise in my mind, to the point where if loud music is too repetitive or boring to me I can “filter” it from my perception. My sister was on the phone because one of our smoke detectors was malfunctioning, and I could tell how frustrated she was every time the thing went off. I was cool as a cucumber and the noise was obviously audible but I was playing with the dog to keep her calm and occupied
if by “a while” you mean “the dawn of civilization an probably before that” then I agree
The absolute best thing you can do to begin with is accept that you aren’t going to be able to just “make him stop”. You can only encourage him to do it as safely as possible. It’s effectively a high on the endorphins.
No, I totally get it. (And if you run an adblocker on the desktop version of Reddit, there are no ads.)
honestly I can deal with the small number of ads, but we all know they are going to find SOME monetarily extractive way of making this platform miserable to use; it’s just inevitable
Yeah, probably. At which point I'll hopefully be driven off, haha. I spend too much damn time here anyway.
isn’t that the funny thing? it actually IS stimulating to be in conversation with people on here because, despite the assholes and trolls, it’s mostly thoughtful people that appreciate the mild aesthetic and deeper, nuanced conversation.
The terms one uses are subjective.
it seems like the whole concept is subjective to the point of being either meaningless or purposely vague.
Each person's ability and level of those abilities are uniquely different from person's to person, but ultimately have the same outcome.
Sorry I didn’t lay everything I was thinking out in the post.
ngl I’m on undmployment for another month or 2 and feel like I’m suffocating, and the idea of just getting tfo and taking the risk feels appealing
nobody actually cares about mens feelings so just get stoic and get on with your life
I just rescued an abused dog that came from a drug house, chained up for the first part of his whole life, bits of his ears missing due to frostbite from freezing out in the cold. At first he was so traumatized he was shaking in the corner 24/7. Now after a few months of loving rehabilitation, he is becoming one of the best dogs I have ever owned.
right, and he’s better because you showed him different. He didn’t do that on his own. He didn’t “give” his way to feeling better. He received. He was taken care of. No one is coming to do that for me, and there’s not enough time for life to just work out better and for my feelings to change with the little time I actually have left.
I'm hoping you can find something like that, it's not over till it's over you know. I wish you well buddy.
thanks, you too
“men think it’s ok to live like this”
lmao I don’t feel nostalgic for shit and I’m not gonna start now.
WOOOOOO
I love the gaslighting title “THE PEOPLE WORKING 3 JOBS TO KEEP A ROOF OVER THEIR HEADS AND WHOM WE’VE BEEN OVERCHARGING ON THEIR MEAGER BREAKS BETWEEN WORK HOURS ARE STARTING TO CRACK! WHAT COULD POSSIBLY BE THE FUCKING PROBLEM? GREEDY SHAREHOLDERS AND A PROFIT-OVER-PEOPLE PHILOSOPHY? NOOOOOO”
This kind of maturity and understanding is immensely powerful and beautiful. You are a blessing to wield such a perspective.
thanks. Still trying to wrestle with the idea that she thinks completely differently of me now because of something stupid I said and self sabotage. Won’t dive into it, but it hurt her and I think I’d give anything for her to call me and talk. But I don’t see that happening.
I have a very similar situation but a few shades worse. Keep being beautiful, I hope your future is as beautiful as you clearly deserve
thanks stranger.. hey I’m an ear if you ever need to talk
yea I’m looking for it right now
this belongs in… nvm we’re not supposed to talk about it
oh you can definitely play Doom on that
I’m not gonna go into my whole story but holy shit yea I resonate with what you’re saying and with a lot of the other stories people are posting here.
“you can’t dislike [insert musician here] because you didn’t study music”
obviously I’m just some asshole but you’d have to replace, one by one, every neuron in the brain along with every present connection with synthetic ones capable of every function already present in the original while the brain is still effectively active to maintain anything approaching continuity. This is completely assuming that there is nothing “external” about the “soul”.
the left lane on a highway is traditionally referred to as the “passing lane”, the middle is the “cruising lane” and the right is the “merging lane”
in other words it’s more advice that’s actually useless to most of it’s target audience!
I feel sorry for you. Hopefully one day you'll realize that it really is as simple as being nice to yourself. I've been where you are.
Thanks for the utterly non-actionable advice. People like you would actually do more to help if you just shut the fuck up.
I feel you bro, I’m going through something like this myself tbh, but we ended up with different mindsets somehow. I’m torn between having the feeling of knowing my dreams could come true with effort and all this other positive stuff. But the other part of me the inner child that was hurt And abused still feels worthless and believes nothing will work out for me. I’ve been severely depressed with a suicide attempt. But idk even tho apart of me feels worthless and unloved there’s a part of me that believes it’s all a lie. But I’ve only just started feeling hopeful. I used to feel hella hopeless but I just said “fuck it imma do me even if I feel differently” Shits hard when you don’t have a support system and don’t have belief in yourself.
You are competing for people’s entertainment dollar and success depends on forming a cult either around yourself or other artists.
not sure if it’s the same thing you’re talking about but I can basically turn loud, obnoxious noises into background white noise in my mind, to the point where if loud music is too repetitive or boring to me I can “filter” it from my perception. My sister was on the phone because one of our smoke detectors was malfunctioning, and I could tell how frustrated she was every time the thing went off. I was cool as a cucumber and the noise was obviously audible but I was playing with the dog to keep her calm and occupied
sex is better