Yep. First time I made a martini for a daytime regular at a dive I asked if he wanted vermouth, as I had been taught at my upscale restaurant previously. His face told me everything I needed to know. I only did a swirl too. He tried to choke it down, I took it, tossed it, and made him a chilled vodka shot in a fancy glass with two olives. He loved it. “Sooooooooo much better than whatever that was before!” Bitch I asked you if you wanted it and I even told you I don’t like vermouth! I gave him multiple outs! But nooooo, we gotta go waste kettle one at 3pm. I told my night bartender who had previously had days for years and she said “oh yah, never give them vermouth unless they specifically ask for it and tell you how much they want, otherwise they’re bullshitting and they’re gonna hate it.” She was so right!
Absolutely true. I definitely had a good chuckle in the liquor room when I had to go for more kettle. I should have known when I said “do you want vermouth?” and his response was “uhhhhhhh, sure!” Tell tale sign that he’s only saying yes because that must be the way it’s done since I’m offering it. He usually drinks kettle and SF redbulls, and Michelob ultra. So fucking random. I think he just wanted to play bougie because I had come from a mid-swanky place.
Are you sure they still expected to be tipped? I worked at a restaurant that had an 18% service fee, but we told all customers that that was the tip so they didn’t need to add anything else. It made it easier to breakdown for tip outs for the kitchen, and most people were fine with it. A manager could remove it if they caused a stink, and they’d be asked was the service bad etc., but I only experienced that once, they said everything was great but they were just protesting the autograt basically.
The worst part of it was the gist of her argument was she would have tipped, but because she was being forced to tip she didn’t like that so had them remove it in protest. She also didn’t get that servers tip out the kitchen and thought 100% went to the server, and seemed really enraged about that, which is totally standard.
I had a horrendous nurse with my first baby who said with the most snark imaginable “I don’t know why you’re making all that noise”. I had been pushing for 2 hours, awake for 44 (induced but he still didn’t want to come out), exhausted, emotional (he was an oopsie baby with a guy I’d only been dating for a month), and STARVING, so everytime they told me to push from then on I forced myself to make absolutely no noise but stared her down with a death glare for the next hour until he finally made his appearance.
Like, I understand some of it, I get the reason for no eating, I understand continuous monitoring, there’s just no way we’re ever going to sleep, and yah, our bodies are designed for this, billions of women have given birth, but it doesn’t have to be so sterile. We don’t have to become BFFs with our nurses but fuck dude, let’s play nice while we’re here!
Maybe Rads adopted and we’ll get a lovely story about how different families come to be in the future. As an adoptee I would love that. My kids know I am, and unfortunately they’re starting to phase out of Bluey but I’d made them watch it with me.
10 PM?! Definitely not in the city I live in the Bay Area. In residential areas construction is M-F 7-7, and forbidden on the weekend with the exception of emergency work.
40 grand? I gave birth twice and wasn't charged even half that, combined. I was in NC, in the research triangle where we have some of the best hospitals in the country like Duke and UNC, even Wake Med and Rex are very nice. Sure if there are difficulties or surgeries or NICU needed it could climb, but 40k isn't a normal starting price for an average healthy birth in America, let's not freak out any expecting mothers.
I live in the California Bay Area and I expressly remember looking at my bill for my first baby: $78,000. I didn’t have a c section, no NICU for the baby, the things that inflated the cost were that I was induced with pitocin (didn’t work), then my water was broken (did work), epidural, in the delivery room for almost 48 hours, and then 2 nights in recovery which is normal for my hospital, no nursery. Absolutely nothing out of the ordinary, this wasn’t at Stanford or anything, just a standard hospital. Of course insurance paid nearly all of that thank god, but I didn’t even open the bill for my second kid, I just called them up and asked for the balance.
Well the not showing thing could very well be due to her size, I was about her size during my second pregnancy and honestly didn’t start to look pregnant until I was 7ish months. Before that I could have told people I was pregnant and they would believe me, but they probably wouldn’t have assumed right off the bat, I could just be fat.
At 50lbs that dog wouldn’t be able to be in the cabin anyway. Only service animals of that size would be allowed to be in the cabin, otherwise it would have to be something that fit under the seat (in a carrier).
This isn’t very Montessori, but what about getting a special build a bear with moms encouraging voice for him during potty time? Maybe it just stays in the restroom on a special shelf.
OMG, people, calm the fuck down. Has no one here read "Little Women"? There's a famous scene in Little Women where an older sister, Jo, neglects her younger sister, Amy, in favor of friends, and, in retaliation, Amy burns Jo's novel manuscript. In the 1860s, when paper was expensive and there were no backup hard drives.
And Amy remains a snot nosed brat for the rest of her life. She marries Laurie because he has money AND to shove it in Jo’s face. That sweet little scene where she boohoos to Jo asking for her blessing after they’ve already gotten married is a total farce.
Not a Witness, but also not Jewish which would have made more sense for the verse she quoted, imo. I’m not a Christian, so I don’t know what she thinks it’s about, but it seems to me like it’s about Jews taking back Jerusalem?
Grew up going to catholic school, we also have some instances where Jehovah is used. I removed myself from religion 20 years ago but if I remember correctly especially around Easter and other special holy days it is used in certain prayers, songs, and hymns.
Maybe she doesn’t. She’s on lunch, she shouldn’t feel pressured to communicate with people she’s spending the rest of the day with. I started eating my lunch in my car because I needed a break from people. I need that 30 minutes with my sammy and my chips and my cookies and just…not talk and not listen to someone.
That doesn’t mean you can’t block his number. Also, why are you go between? He should be directing this question to your mother, not using you to avoid her. This is awful and I can only imagine what else you’ve had to put up with. Absolutely bonkers. Sorry, your dads a dick. Both of mine are too though, it’s not uncommon.
Taking zero responsibility. You can be sorry that you MADE someone feel that way and still explain your position. It probably would have been much better received.
YTA and I’m going to add this perspective. Just because you’ve washed it and stored it in a tote or whatever doesn’t mean she shouldn’t wash it. I’m very sensitive to smells and many detergents, I use a specific bath soap, detergent, etc., otherwise I could have an allergic reaction, including a migraine if things are scented with certain scents. Maybe the smell of your detergent was bothering her. That doesn’t mean she thinks you’re unclean. That’s why you’re upset, and you tried to be rude to her and tell her it was a stupid waste of time for her to wash everything because she hurt your feelings.
The baby is supposed to be with you until at least 3 months, many people say 6 months minimum, and preferably a year. I understand instagram mommies want to make it seem so wonderful that they have a 25’x25’ nursery for baby from the get go, but unless they had a live in night nurse they had a bassinet set up next to their bed like the rest of us. You get up so often to feed and diaper them and you’re SO exhausted that even those few extra steps you don’t want to do. Plus the risk of SIDS is much higher once baby is not in your room with you.
My favorite line from that song: Elon Musk is developing that kind of car, the first one failed but that’s because it wasn’t true loooove (because he was once divorced at the time and I think married to his second wife)
Ita crazy how many people don't understand they hate vermouth
Yep. First time I made a martini for a daytime regular at a dive I asked if he wanted vermouth, as I had been taught at my upscale restaurant previously. His face told me everything I needed to know. I only did a swirl too. He tried to choke it down, I took it, tossed it, and made him a chilled vodka shot in a fancy glass with two olives. He loved it. “Sooooooooo much better than whatever that was before!” Bitch I asked you if you wanted it and I even told you I don’t like vermouth! I gave him multiple outs! But nooooo, we gotta go waste kettle one at 3pm. I told my night bartender who had previously had days for years and she said “oh yah, never give them vermouth unless they specifically ask for it and tell you how much they want, otherwise they’re bullshitting and they’re gonna hate it.” She was so right!
That person gets an eye roll for ordering martinis in a dive bar & complaining that it’s not as good as they like.
Absolutely true. I definitely had a good chuckle in the liquor room when I had to go for more kettle. I should have known when I said “do you want vermouth?” and his response was “uhhhhhhh, sure!” Tell tale sign that he’s only saying yes because that must be the way it’s done since I’m offering it. He usually drinks kettle and SF redbulls, and Michelob ultra. So fucking random. I think he just wanted to play bougie because I had come from a mid-swanky place.
I’m going to hold off on judgement until Part 2 airs.
Oh it totally was. That horrid straight short “bang” is the most spot on part of entire actor. IMO he’s too thin to play Harry.
Are you sure they still expected to be tipped? I worked at a restaurant that had an 18% service fee, but we told all customers that that was the tip so they didn’t need to add anything else. It made it easier to breakdown for tip outs for the kitchen, and most people were fine with it. A manager could remove it if they caused a stink, and they’d be asked was the service bad etc., but I only experienced that once, they said everything was great but they were just protesting the autograt basically.
Well I sure as hell don't want servers getting their grubby hands on my money. It's unamerican.
The worst part of it was the gist of her argument was she would have tipped, but because she was being forced to tip she didn’t like that so had them remove it in protest. She also didn’t get that servers tip out the kitchen and thought 100% went to the server, and seemed really enraged about that, which is totally standard.
Well, I'd say they earned the extra candy then! Changing your costume 2-3x is no mean feat, LOL.
In the 70’s the costumes were like, sheet ghost, witch, cowboy, and John Wayne Gacy clown.
That's really interesting!
I had a horrendous nurse with my first baby who said with the most snark imaginable “I don’t know why you’re making all that noise”. I had been pushing for 2 hours, awake for 44 (induced but he still didn’t want to come out), exhausted, emotional (he was an oopsie baby with a guy I’d only been dating for a month), and STARVING, so everytime they told me to push from then on I forced myself to make absolutely no noise but stared her down with a death glare for the next hour until he finally made his appearance.
It's so often that women (and birthing parents of other genders) are treated horrible by midwives or Gyns.
Like, I understand some of it, I get the reason for no eating, I understand continuous monitoring, there’s just no way we’re ever going to sleep, and yah, our bodies are designed for this, billions of women have given birth, but it doesn’t have to be so sterile. We don’t have to become BFFs with our nurses but fuck dude, let’s play nice while we’re here!
Maybe Rads adopted and we’ll get a lovely story about how different families come to be in the future. As an adoptee I would love that. My kids know I am, and unfortunately they’re starting to phase out of Bluey but I’d made them watch it with me.
How does one "phase out" of Bluey? I'm 40; I just started.
Same, more often they choose to watch Craig of the Creek or captain underpants or something though. What losers.
It looks like a tiny placenta.
I live in CA and it's 10pm
10 PM?! Definitely not in the city I live in the Bay Area. In residential areas construction is M-F 7-7, and forbidden on the weekend with the exception of emergency work.
40 grand? I gave birth twice and wasn't charged even half that, combined. I was in NC, in the research triangle where we have some of the best hospitals in the country like Duke and UNC, even Wake Med and Rex are very nice. Sure if there are difficulties or surgeries or NICU needed it could climb, but 40k isn't a normal starting price for an average healthy birth in America, let's not freak out any expecting mothers.
I live in the California Bay Area and I expressly remember looking at my bill for my first baby: $78,000. I didn’t have a c section, no NICU for the baby, the things that inflated the cost were that I was induced with pitocin (didn’t work), then my water was broken (did work), epidural, in the delivery room for almost 48 hours, and then 2 nights in recovery which is normal for my hospital, no nursery. Absolutely nothing out of the ordinary, this wasn’t at Stanford or anything, just a standard hospital. Of course insurance paid nearly all of that thank god, but I didn’t even open the bill for my second kid, I just called them up and asked for the balance.
Well the not showing thing could very well be due to her size, I was about her size during my second pregnancy and honestly didn’t start to look pregnant until I was 7ish months. Before that I could have told people I was pregnant and they would believe me, but they probably wouldn’t have assumed right off the bat, I could just be fat.
At 50lbs that dog wouldn’t be able to be in the cabin anyway. Only service animals of that size would be allowed to be in the cabin, otherwise it would have to be something that fit under the seat (in a carrier).
This isn’t very Montessori, but what about getting a special build a bear with moms encouraging voice for him during potty time? Maybe it just stays in the restroom on a special shelf.
OMG, people, calm the fuck down. Has no one here read "Little Women"? There's a famous scene in Little Women where an older sister, Jo, neglects her younger sister, Amy, in favor of friends, and, in retaliation, Amy burns Jo's novel manuscript. In the 1860s, when paper was expensive and there were no backup hard drives.
And Amy remains a snot nosed brat for the rest of her life. She marries Laurie because he has money AND to shove it in Jo’s face. That sweet little scene where she boohoos to Jo asking for her blessing after they’ve already gotten married is a total farce.
Are you recovering from food* insecurity in childhood/young adulthood? Because that is literally the only reason you MIGHT not be the asshole.
Not a Witness, but also not Jewish which would have made more sense for the verse she quoted, imo. I’m not a Christian, so I don’t know what she thinks it’s about, but it seems to me like it’s about Jews taking back Jerusalem?
Grew up going to catholic school, we also have some instances where Jehovah is used. I removed myself from religion 20 years ago but if I remember correctly especially around Easter and other special holy days it is used in certain prayers, songs, and hymns.
The way the bag is there it makes me feel like the person doesn't want anyone else to sit with them. That's just my take
Maybe she doesn’t. She’s on lunch, she shouldn’t feel pressured to communicate with people she’s spending the rest of the day with. I started eating my lunch in my car because I needed a break from people. I need that 30 minutes with my sammy and my chips and my cookies and just…not talk and not listen to someone.
unfortunately i can't as i'm a minor and go to his house every other weekend since my parents are divorced. otherwise i totally would
That doesn’t mean you can’t block his number. Also, why are you go between? He should be directing this question to your mother, not using you to avoid her. This is awful and I can only imagine what else you’ve had to put up with. Absolutely bonkers. Sorry, your dads a dick. Both of mine are too though, it’s not uncommon.
and she said “sorry you felt that way” as if it’s some kinda horrible thing to have a feeling. she suuuucks
Taking zero responsibility. You can be sorry that you MADE someone feel that way and still explain your position. It probably would have been much better received.
Seeing a grown ass person constantly using “2” instead of “to” is driving me absolutely insane! Does she know she’s not 13?
And constantly calling her daughter sis and sissy. Like, you’re not BFFs, your her mother.
RUN. As fast as you fucking can. Holy shit. I’m crazy, but this lady is CrAzY.
For anyone who needs context, the comment isn’t showing up, here is OPs comment
I see your link and I raise you one copy/paste:
Ty, I wasn’t gonna go on my computer just to copy paste, but didn’t want to be like some people and not even link. You’re the MVP!
YTA and I’m going to add this perspective. Just because you’ve washed it and stored it in a tote or whatever doesn’t mean she shouldn’t wash it. I’m very sensitive to smells and many detergents, I use a specific bath soap, detergent, etc., otherwise I could have an allergic reaction, including a migraine if things are scented with certain scents. Maybe the smell of your detergent was bothering her. That doesn’t mean she thinks you’re unclean. That’s why you’re upset, and you tried to be rude to her and tell her it was a stupid waste of time for her to wash everything because she hurt your feelings.
Oh yes, the world renowned Cleveland Clinic nods in agreement. WTF is that? Are they thinking it’s like the Mayo Clinic?
The baby is supposed to be with you until at least 3 months, many people say 6 months minimum, and preferably a year. I understand instagram mommies want to make it seem so wonderful that they have a 25’x25’ nursery for baby from the get go, but unless they had a live in night nurse they had a bassinet set up next to their bed like the rest of us. You get up so often to feed and diaper them and you’re SO exhausted that even those few extra steps you don’t want to do. Plus the risk of SIDS is much higher once baby is not in your room with you.
My favorite is not on there
My favorite line from that song: Elon Musk is developing that kind of car, the first one failed but that’s because it wasn’t true loooove (because he was once divorced at the time and I think married to his second wife)