In the book, “Shrier argues that the focus on therapy and trauma is making kids feel unwell. She believes that several factors have combined to ruin American childhood, including the overdiagnosis and medicalization of normal growing pains”. Meanwhile I was never diagnosed with anything and never stayed on psych meds for long because I get really bad side effects. And I was never in therapy for long either. I don’t get why she cares about reading the book because she doesn’t like Shrier’s other book
I'm sorry, your MOM wanted you to do drugs to "cure" you from being trans? Nah man, that woman is beyond saving. My mom isn't supportive either, but that is a step too far. I don't know if the 5g is a high dose, but that doesn't really matter imo. It's extremely messesd up to make your child take drugs to "cure" them from anything. Kinda gives me "make your kid drink bleach to cure their autism" vibes.
To make matters worse that was when I was 17 haha. 5g is a high dose and you’re supposed to get ego death and be completely disconnected from reality. She thought it’d help me find my repressed memories too which I don’t even have. The ego death part was supposed to make me realize I was cis but when I actually got ego death, I realized that I’m a banana.
I’m gay and pass as cishet. Voice is a big thing. A lot of guys probably have the trans voice but you can get rid of it with voice training. I did voice training pre T and was able to pass as cishet.
They are fucking stupid and the people who use nounself pronouns don’t know what a pronoun is and have either never taken an English class in their life or are too fucking stupid to understand basic English
Ok but actually I would never have kids but I would call them what they ask (if it’s neopronouns I will say they instead). I think still using their birth name and pronouns will just make them angry at you whereas if you do what they ask to a certain extent, they may be more willing to listen. I will try to have calm conversations and ask them why they feel like that and propose logical explanations. If their therapist supports them, I get a new therapist.
A guy I follow did something similar, his daughter was identifying as gender fluid and going by a masculine name, he respected the name and pronouns she wanted to use, had friendly conversations with her about it and about a year later she went back to identifying as a cis girl. It can be a lengthy process but I think that's a better approach than being outright unsupportive of it
Yeah, I think being outright unsupportive will lead them to be more stubborn in their identity. With the tucute narrative, if you don’t do exactly what they want, no questions asked, you’re labeled transphobic and they will not listen.
You can put vodka in a plant-mister, spray inside the binder and hang it up to dry. Vodka kills the bacteria that would live on the sweat and keeps the material smelling good and then evaporates away.
Have you been to the doctor about your stomach? The problem with antiemetics (other than causing changes to your EKG if you take too many of them) is that they are less and less effective over time. I was having a really hard time with eating, and my doctor put me on a proton-pump inhibitor (makes the stomach less acidic) and I’m finally able to eat again. You could try OTC Prilosec to see if it’s helpful, and then go to the doctor with that information (helpful or not, it’s still useful info)
I’ve been to the doctor and I’ve been diagnosed and treated. I haven’t had to take antiemetics everyday in over a year. My stomach problems are better now, but overeating still makes me sick
I’ve been to the doctor and been diagnosed and treated. I haven’t had to use antiemetics almost daily for over a year. I just didn’t want to get back into it just so I can eat.
It reminds me of drug addicts. Cause we do it for the euphoria even if we enjoy the other effects like the nods, it’s mainly for the euphoria. And that’s not a natural state to be in all the time. It’s not sustainable. And there’s tolerance too so you have to keep doing more and more to achieve the same effects but you can’t. You can take tolerance breaks but you’ll never be able to feel the same as you did in the “honeymoon period”. I suspect that these people transitioning solely because of gender euphoria will stop feeling euphoric and detransition eventually.
I don’t personally experience gender euphoria. It’s just a relief of dysphoria and finally feeling normal. But I do think that other people may feel a more intense happiness for things. What bothers me is when people say that the relief of dysphoria is euphoria. No it isn’t. That’s not what euphoria means.
How long did it take for them to get back to you? I just filed my documents today and I’m hoping to get my name changed by June but I’m wondering if that’s too optimistic
I honestly don't remember, but I'm sure they had to mail me something at some point. The major document, the signed order, however, I picked up at the courthouse.
My mom’s address is my permanent address, but I’m moving there soon and won’t have my dorm address anymore. I was thinking that I get my sister to open a PO Box for me or I just suck it up and let them mail it to my moms and hope she doesn’t open it
What material are your ties? Sounds like they’re not snug enough so they come undone. Pinching under the knot and tying it tighter at the final step should fix the issue.
That depends on if you're going to college and if you want an internship while you're there. Once you have a four-year degree employers generally dont care - the only exception I can think of is maybe if you're working for the government or something. Before you have a bachelor's, you'll definitely be asked for it. I'm not sure if you will be asked for it if you have an associate's or a two-year certification.
If you worked under your deadname, you'll either need to leave it off your resume or disclose. That tends to be an issue since employers generally want your last 10yrs of work history. Also, you won't be able to list professional references if they only know you under your deadname. Finally, any transcripts will need to be updated; some schools will do that, some will not.
Yeah I’m reading a book on repairing, tuning, and rebuilding pianos so I can be more prepared for if I have the opportunity to do an apprenticeship. I really want to teach though and I plan the go to grad school
Currently a music student. I have dream jobs instead of dream job. I want to be a music professor, teach private music lessons, play for money (gigs and busking, though busking isn’t really a job), and fix up pianos. I just enjoy doing a lot of different things and I kinda have to cause music majors don’t make much money
YES!! I put a knife to my throat and threatened to off myself because I wasn’t born a boy. I also would bonk myself with stuff and I punched myself in the face once and gave myself a nose bleed.
Eh we’ve both done our suffering. I was in really heavy denial too. I went to Christian and Catholic schools so I had to repress and didn’t know what trans people were. I didn’t realize I was trans until I was 14 even though it was literally so obvious
I personally feel like the concept of "reverse dysphoria" can definitely be a thing in cis people, including detransitioners. Not actual gender dysphoria, but the general sentiment behind it. Apparently Amanda Bynes fell into depression after playing the role of Viola in She's the Man since she hated how she was seen as a man. I've also watched my male friend get upset by face-app gender-swap filter pictures of him being shared since he was uncomfortable seeing himself as a woman. There seems to be an inherent discomfort in most people, trans or not, with being perceived as the wrong gender, which I assume would eventually catch up to a person who is transitioning without gender dysphoria.
That’s odd. My mom recently discovered facetune or whatever and she photoshopped herself to be a man. She liked it so much that she made it her profile picture. But I think she just did it to make fun of me. She’d send me photoshopped pictures of me as a girl and said I’d look so much better like that. Except the photoshop straight up made me look a different race and changed my features in a way only plastic surgery would be able to achieve 🤦♂️
Shit country with long waiting times, went private, now the only private alternative is being taken away and where i live, DIY testosterone is genuinely impossible so i'm left with nothing
Tbh, the significant advancements that we’d see in our lifetimes already happened. I see people say this all the time, and I’m curious as to what you’d want to see? This isn’t directed towards you negatively or anything; I understand wanting the best possible results, but making a fully-functional human sex organ isn’t something that’s likely going to happen soon. We’re lucky that we live in an era where GD can basically be “cured” even if it’s not 100% perfect.
The only thing I can think of is possibly using STEM cells to grow tissue. I’m not a scientist though so idk how any of it works. I figured you wouldn’t be able to grow a whole new sex organ, so I thought they could use it to make graft sites look less gnarly and help with scarring.
Abigail Shrier is a hack.
In the book, “Shrier argues that the focus on therapy and trauma is making kids feel unwell. She believes that several factors have combined to ruin American childhood, including the overdiagnosis and medicalization of normal growing pains”. Meanwhile I was never diagnosed with anything and never stayed on psych meds for long because I get really bad side effects. And I was never in therapy for long either. I don’t get why she cares about reading the book because she doesn’t like Shrier’s other book
I'm sorry, your MOM wanted you to do drugs to "cure" you from being trans? Nah man, that woman is beyond saving. My mom isn't supportive either, but that is a step too far. I don't know if the 5g is a high dose, but that doesn't really matter imo. It's extremely messesd up to make your child take drugs to "cure" them from anything. Kinda gives me "make your kid drink bleach to cure their autism" vibes.
To make matters worse that was when I was 17 haha. 5g is a high dose and you’re supposed to get ego death and be completely disconnected from reality. She thought it’d help me find my repressed memories too which I don’t even have. The ego death part was supposed to make me realize I was cis but when I actually got ego death, I realized that I’m a banana.
I’m gay and pass as cishet. Voice is a big thing. A lot of guys probably have the trans voice but you can get rid of it with voice training. I did voice training pre T and was able to pass as cishet.
The amount of "trans men"/lgbtqiabcnsjdbd "queer" artist I've block at this point is ungodly. And it is never ending too which is infuriating.
What part of the art community are these people in? I’m an artist and I’ve never really encountered these people
But you told us to assume ur gender
I’m a man not a “transmasc” 😐
Then why r u on a trans subreddit
I’m a trans man but trans is my circumstance not my gender. My gender is male/man. Also there’s some cis people on this subreddit anyways
YTA if you actually cared about your cat, you wouldn’t let your husband abuse her
They are fucking stupid and the people who use nounself pronouns don’t know what a pronoun is and have either never taken an English class in their life or are too fucking stupid to understand basic English
I’m a gay trans man and I’m throwing hands if anyone calls me queer
I don’t watch horror films at all, but going through puberty definitely felt like I was in a body horror film
This isn’t even relevant but I’ve met the what would you do guy
Ok but actually I would never have kids but I would call them what they ask (if it’s neopronouns I will say they instead). I think still using their birth name and pronouns will just make them angry at you whereas if you do what they ask to a certain extent, they may be more willing to listen. I will try to have calm conversations and ask them why they feel like that and propose logical explanations. If their therapist supports them, I get a new therapist.
A guy I follow did something similar, his daughter was identifying as gender fluid and going by a masculine name, he respected the name and pronouns she wanted to use, had friendly conversations with her about it and about a year later she went back to identifying as a cis girl. It can be a lengthy process but I think that's a better approach than being outright unsupportive of it
Yeah, I think being outright unsupportive will lead them to be more stubborn in their identity. With the tucute narrative, if you don’t do exactly what they want, no questions asked, you’re labeled transphobic and they will not listen.
You can put vodka in a plant-mister, spray inside the binder and hang it up to dry. Vodka kills the bacteria that would live on the sweat and keeps the material smelling good and then evaporates away.
Would isopropyl alcohol work? My vodka got taken away and I’d rather drink it than waste it on my binder anyways 💀
Wait, binders can’t be put in the dryer? I’ve been putting mine in dryers for years and haven’t had any problems
I put mine in the dryer and it’s been fine
Have you been to the doctor about your stomach? The problem with antiemetics (other than causing changes to your EKG if you take too many of them) is that they are less and less effective over time. I was having a really hard time with eating, and my doctor put me on a proton-pump inhibitor (makes the stomach less acidic) and I’m finally able to eat again. You could try OTC Prilosec to see if it’s helpful, and then go to the doctor with that information (helpful or not, it’s still useful info)
I’ve been to the doctor and I’ve been diagnosed and treated. I haven’t had to take antiemetics everyday in over a year. My stomach problems are better now, but overeating still makes me sick
there's ginger-based anti-nausea meds but also persistent nausea may be a medical issue that I hope you're being looked after on.
I’ve been to the doctor and been diagnosed and treated. I haven’t had to use antiemetics almost daily for over a year. I just didn’t want to get back into it just so I can eat.
My lips are too fat. My mother used to say women pay a lot of money to have my lips. Great take them. I don't need them lol.
If it’s any help, I have thick and plump lips, but I got them from my dad. My mom has thin ass paper lips
Me and my knee dysphoria
I experience a fair bit of euphoria when I like what I see in the mirror or am correctly gendered in public.
It reminds me of drug addicts. Cause we do it for the euphoria even if we enjoy the other effects like the nods, it’s mainly for the euphoria. And that’s not a natural state to be in all the time. It’s not sustainable. And there’s tolerance too so you have to keep doing more and more to achieve the same effects but you can’t. You can take tolerance breaks but you’ll never be able to feel the same as you did in the “honeymoon period”. I suspect that these people transitioning solely because of gender euphoria will stop feeling euphoric and detransition eventually.
I don’t personally experience gender euphoria. It’s just a relief of dysphoria and finally feeling normal. But I do think that other people may feel a more intense happiness for things. What bothers me is when people say that the relief of dysphoria is euphoria. No it isn’t. That’s not what euphoria means.
My court date was two days later over Zoom
How long did it take for them to get back to you? I just filed my documents today and I’m hoping to get my name changed by June but I’m wondering if that’s too optimistic
I honestly don't remember, but I'm sure they had to mail me something at some point. The major document, the signed order, however, I picked up at the courthouse.
My mom’s address is my permanent address, but I’m moving there soon and won’t have my dorm address anymore. I was thinking that I get my sister to open a PO Box for me or I just suck it up and let them mail it to my moms and hope she doesn’t open it
How do I get a tie dimple to stay? I try and dimple my ties but they always un-dimple themselves after a while
What material are your ties? Sounds like they’re not snug enough so they come undone. Pinching under the knot and tying it tighter at the final step should fix the issue.
They’re kinda silky. I tried that and it fixed the issue, thanks
That depends on if you're going to college and if you want an internship while you're there. Once you have a four-year degree employers generally dont care - the only exception I can think of is maybe if you're working for the government or something. Before you have a bachelor's, you'll definitely be asked for it. I'm not sure if you will be asked for it if you have an associate's or a two-year certification.
I am going to college but I already submitted my high school transcript and got accepted so I didn’t think I’d need it again
If you worked under your deadname, you'll either need to leave it off your resume or disclose. That tends to be an issue since employers generally want your last 10yrs of work history. Also, you won't be able to list professional references if they only know you under your deadname. Finally, any transcripts will need to be updated; some schools will do that, some will not.
Is high school transcript important enough to need to be updated?
my mom knows a pro piano tuner/tech and he makes bank. that’s a real market dude
Yeah I’m reading a book on repairing, tuning, and rebuilding pianos so I can be more prepared for if I have the opportunity to do an apprenticeship. I really want to teach though and I plan the go to grad school
Currently a music student. I have dream jobs instead of dream job. I want to be a music professor, teach private music lessons, play for money (gigs and busking, though busking isn’t really a job), and fix up pianos. I just enjoy doing a lot of different things and I kinda have to cause music majors don’t make much money
YES!! I put a knife to my throat and threatened to off myself because I wasn’t born a boy. I also would bonk myself with stuff and I punched myself in the face once and gave myself a nose bleed.
…I think you win
Eh we’ve both done our suffering. I was in really heavy denial too. I went to Christian and Catholic schools so I had to repress and didn’t know what trans people were. I didn’t realize I was trans until I was 14 even though it was literally so obvious
I personally feel like the concept of "reverse dysphoria" can definitely be a thing in cis people, including detransitioners. Not actual gender dysphoria, but the general sentiment behind it. Apparently Amanda Bynes fell into depression after playing the role of Viola in She's the Man since she hated how she was seen as a man. I've also watched my male friend get upset by face-app gender-swap filter pictures of him being shared since he was uncomfortable seeing himself as a woman. There seems to be an inherent discomfort in most people, trans or not, with being perceived as the wrong gender, which I assume would eventually catch up to a person who is transitioning without gender dysphoria.
That’s odd. My mom recently discovered facetune or whatever and she photoshopped herself to be a man. She liked it so much that she made it her profile picture. But I think she just did it to make fun of me. She’d send me photoshopped pictures of me as a girl and said I’d look so much better like that. Except the photoshop straight up made me look a different race and changed my features in a way only plastic surgery would be able to achieve 🤦♂️
And here I am nervous that my single sock stuffed with a paper towel is too noticeable lol
I stuffed my sock with another sock
I be feeling like that’s too much cause I wear super thin gym shorts 💀 it’s probably just in my head
I use ankle socks so there’s not as much volume
What instruments do you play? What kind of music do you write?
Yep i felt the same when i started a year ago, and now that it's being taken away and i'll probably have to stop, it's getting worse like before
Why is it being taken away? Can you get it back?
Shit country with long waiting times, went private, now the only private alternative is being taken away and where i live, DIY testosterone is genuinely impossible so i'm left with nothing
I’m sorry :( good luck I hope you can get on it again soon
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Tbh, the significant advancements that we’d see in our lifetimes already happened. I see people say this all the time, and I’m curious as to what you’d want to see? This isn’t directed towards you negatively or anything; I understand wanting the best possible results, but making a fully-functional human sex organ isn’t something that’s likely going to happen soon. We’re lucky that we live in an era where GD can basically be “cured” even if it’s not 100% perfect.
The only thing I can think of is possibly using STEM cells to grow tissue. I’m not a scientist though so idk how any of it works. I figured you wouldn’t be able to grow a whole new sex organ, so I thought they could use it to make graft sites look less gnarly and help with scarring.
I did watch dominion, I was just talking about what the humane slaughter act said.