I feel your pain. I prefer to think of myself as trying to be biblical rather than “centrist,” however, because to me that implies that the middle between the American political Left and Right aligns with the Bible. The best course, IMO, is to seek to love and serve Christ as He commands apart from political labels.
Acts 11:24 describes Barnabas as a "good man," which shows that individuals can be recognized for their goodness through faith and the Holy Spirit. "For he was a good man, full of the Holy Spirit and of faith. And a great many people were added to the Lord." - Acts 11:24
Find a way not to get angry when she pushes your buttons or gaslights you. Since you’re aware she’s doing these things, expect them. Don’t expect her to be fair with you. The manipulator sets up a “win-win” scenario in their own minds: They either successfully get you to do what they want, or they play the victim and flip the script when they set you off - “he’s just so unreasonable, he’s always getting angry, I can never do anything right, I just don’t know how to please him.”
It’s not easy at all, it takes a lot of work, because they’re so good at it and deep inside you know it’s wrong how they’re treating you. And to compound it, it’s always one-sided.
I can see it’s upsetting you that no one is giving you what you want. You say your husband is overall great and you love him very much. If this is truly how you feel about him, you should listen to what people are saying to you. If you continue to invalidate him, you’re going to end up without him. But I suspect you really don’t care about that, that you’re only interested in getting what you want… and I’m sure you will get what you want, albeit living in separate houses.
I have validated him. A few years ago he worked an overnight job that he hated so our daughter could have health insurance she desperately needed. He told me he was depressed so I moved heaven and earth to research and afford a private insurance plan just for her. The insurance deductible was 5x more expensive than the one through his job but he was unhappy and it took a toll on his health. I cashed out my 401k so he could go back to his old job that didn't provide health insurance. I have zero retirement so that he could be happy and my kid could have the therapy she needed.
This question seems to come from the perspective of “what can we get away with?” rather than “how can we honor Christ in our marriage?” I’d suggest that the latter should be the correct perspective.
If you’re wanting to manipulate, you’re not as innocent as you say. And wanting to “cancel” someone because they were rude is malicious. Take the high road and just walk away from it.
The OT sacrificial system looked forward to Christ’s sacrifice. Today, we look back at His sacrifice. So, in other words, OT saints and NT saints are all saved through Christ. God isn’t limited by time or space, and Christ’s sacrifice was ordained before the foundation of the world.
To be sure, if you hate all of those things, you’re not saved. One who’s been saved through the shed blood of Christ and regenerated to new life by the Holy Spirit demonstrates a love for Christ, His word and His people. Jesus said we know His own by their fruit.
No. You have a foreign interpretation of that verse. The “god of this world” refers to Satan, not our Creator God. Note the distinction in the back half of the verse where it says Christ is the image of God. Context.
The true God is only true to those that know truly, the default state is that humanity is under a false god, itself, it's own imagination, this god that is the imagination carnilises spirit into flesh/matter, this world is a distorted materialist copy of the true.
A Christian is someone who’s been redeemed by Christ through His shed blood and finished work on the cross, and regenerated to new life by the Holy Spirit. Jesus said we must be born again to see the Kingdom of God.
That’s not found in the Bible. Other religions claim one can propitiate God through self-flagellation, however the Bible is clear that only the shed blood of Christ can provide satisfactory propitiation for sins.
When Christ commands us to love the Lord our God with all our hearts, souls, minds and strength, and to love our neighbors as ourselves, He’s commanding us to do something, not to feel something.
Ask yourself why he used “50s English” as you described it. Why not just say “I was being abused so I cheated on her a few times.” And no it’s obviously not. Because we’re getting one side of the story who claims they’re a victim but abused their partner.
There are a lot more comments here than when I originally made my comment. Someone asked OP if he cheated and if he was abused and he said yes to both. I couldn’t tell you why he didn’t say that initially, perhaps he was embarrassed.
He admits he did it. And was even cheating on her while she was pregnant. He could have left her then right because their baby wasn’t born. Dude is such a good manipulator he’s manipulating the chumps on this sub.
As far as religious/spiritual common ground goes, none. I’m sure we could have common ground in other areas.
I feel your pain. I prefer to think of myself as trying to be biblical rather than “centrist,” however, because to me that implies that the middle between the American political Left and Right aligns with the Bible. The best course, IMO, is to seek to love and serve Christ as He commands apart from political labels.
"For he was a good man, full of the Holy Spirit and of faith. And a great many people were added to the Lord." - Acts 11:24
So you’re saying Jesus was wrong?
Acts 11:24 describes Barnabas as a "good man," which shows that individuals can be recognized for their goodness through faith and the Holy Spirit. "For he was a good man, full of the Holy Spirit and of faith. And a great many people were added to the Lord." - Acts 11:24
So you’re saying Jesus was wrong?
Find a way not to get angry when she pushes your buttons or gaslights you. Since you’re aware she’s doing these things, expect them. Don’t expect her to be fair with you. The manipulator sets up a “win-win” scenario in their own minds: They either successfully get you to do what they want, or they play the victim and flip the script when they set you off - “he’s just so unreasonable, he’s always getting angry, I can never do anything right, I just don’t know how to please him.”
I’m trying REALLY hard not to take the bait. She’s good at pushing my buttons and twists things.
It’s not easy at all, it takes a lot of work, because they’re so good at it and deep inside you know it’s wrong how they’re treating you. And to compound it, it’s always one-sided.
So I guess this is the narcissist sub, huh? You guys are wild.
I can see it’s upsetting you that no one is giving you what you want. You say your husband is overall great and you love him very much. If this is truly how you feel about him, you should listen to what people are saying to you. If you continue to invalidate him, you’re going to end up without him. But I suspect you really don’t care about that, that you’re only interested in getting what you want… and I’m sure you will get what you want, albeit living in separate houses.
I have validated him. A few years ago he worked an overnight job that he hated so our daughter could have health insurance she desperately needed. He told me he was depressed so I moved heaven and earth to research and afford a private insurance plan just for her. The insurance deductible was 5x more expensive than the one through his job but he was unhappy and it took a toll on his health. I cashed out my 401k so he could go back to his old job that didn't provide health insurance. I have zero retirement so that he could be happy and my kid could have the therapy she needed.
Wow, you “let him” sleep until Noon that one day? And you validated him that one time? You’re very generous to your slave.
This question seems to come from the perspective of “what can we get away with?” rather than “how can we honor Christ in our marriage?” I’d suggest that the latter should be the correct perspective.
If you’re wanting to manipulate, you’re not as innocent as you say. And wanting to “cancel” someone because they were rude is malicious. Take the high road and just walk away from it.
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Yes, 100%
The OT sacrificial system looked forward to Christ’s sacrifice. Today, we look back at His sacrifice. So, in other words, OT saints and NT saints are all saved through Christ. God isn’t limited by time or space, and Christ’s sacrifice was ordained before the foundation of the world.
Yes.
Further in Hebrews, it tells us that Christ’s sacrifice of the New Covenant provided for redemption of the sins of the Old Covenant.
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To be sure, if you hate all of those things, you’re not saved. One who’s been saved through the shed blood of Christ and regenerated to new life by the Holy Spirit demonstrates a love for Christ, His word and His people. Jesus said we know His own by their fruit.
Of course don't you? Jesus Christ saved me from god...
No. You have a foreign interpretation of that verse. The “god of this world” refers to Satan, not our Creator God. Note the distinction in the back half of the verse where it says Christ is the image of God. Context.
The true God is only true to those that know truly, the default state is that humanity is under a false god, itself, it's own imagination, this god that is the imagination carnilises spirit into flesh/matter, this world is a distorted materialist copy of the true.
No, Gnosticism is refuted in the Bible over and over. Trying to use the Bible as a proof text for occultic ideas is a dead end.
Not underrated, tbh.
A Christian is someone who’s been redeemed by Christ through His shed blood and finished work on the cross, and regenerated to new life by the Holy Spirit. Jesus said we must be born again to see the Kingdom of God.
That’s not found in the Bible. Other religions claim one can propitiate God through self-flagellation, however the Bible is clear that only the shed blood of Christ can provide satisfactory propitiation for sins.
No. Love isn’t a feeling, it’s something you do.
could you elaborate?
When Christ commands us to love the Lord our God with all our hearts, souls, minds and strength, and to love our neighbors as ourselves, He’s commanding us to do something, not to feel something.
Has she become the next Cramer?
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Ask yourself why he used “50s English” as you described it. Why not just say “I was being abused so I cheated on her a few times.” And no it’s obviously not. Because we’re getting one side of the story who claims they’re a victim but abused their partner.
There are a lot more comments here than when I originally made my comment. Someone asked OP if he cheated and if he was abused and he said yes to both. I couldn’t tell you why he didn’t say that initially, perhaps he was embarrassed.
He admits he did it. And was even cheating on her while she was pregnant. He could have left her then right because their baby wasn’t born. Dude is such a good manipulator he’s manipulating the chumps on this sub.
I don’t think it’s as cut and dried as you think.
Were you the tattler in school?
What’s the mildly infuriating part?
They say time flies like an arrow, but fruit flies like a banana.
If he made it through 4 interviews, seems he was a good candidate. Maybe someone got offended because he said “Good morning” the wrong way.