To my best (drinking) buddy

  1. This made me terribly sad. I'm so sorry for your loss, but I am seriously impressed with your perspective on it. May you find an even better sober friend, and may Bee find sobriety.

  2. Losing friends is hard. I’ve just learned to accept that I don’t have the same connection with a best buddy anymore too. You gotta move on I guess… you sound like you’re doing so well though. Congratulations.

  3. I'm sorry for your loss, but I can tell you that I lost contact with my best friend for over thirty years when I stopped drinking, but he reached out to me when he too decided to stop. I referred him to this subreddit, he has over 4 years clean now and our friendship is stronger, and more memorable, than ever. Here's hoping.

  4. Thank you for sharing. I’m dealing with a similar situation between myself and a friend of over 20 years. A friendship that started in grade school and morphed into drinking buddies. Said friend was directly involved in the events that finally led me to change my life and now I find myself realizing that we stopped having anything meaningful in common beyond the veil of boozy laughs and hazy memories that day over fifteen years ago that our friendship transitioned from nerdy high school kids to party animals who didn’t slow down. I can’t even put into words how the sting felt when I told this friend, this person I whole heartedly claimed as a brother, that I was no longer drinking and in response was told “well that’s no fun.” I guess in hindsight I’m not sure why I expected anything else. In the time since I’ve avoided further conversations and dodged phone calls because it’s made me realize that realistically we were both pretty shitty towards one another for a long time thanks to alcohol and that our paths had drifted far and wide and were only loosely held together with the false sense of security strings that alcohol laced friendships have.

  5. I had a close alcoholic friend that I also lost when I quit drinking. It did feel pretty great when he emailed me out of the blue last week and I shared my two-year coin with him. His response was “that’s boring”. My life is going better than ever.

  6. I had the same thing happen to me. I'm sick of beating myself up about it. If they were real friends, they would've supported me. Instead, they cut me off.

  7. Thank you for posting this. It helped me a lot. This is my story exactly! Much love and respect. IWNDWYT!

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