Don't want to go to med school and never really wanted to

  1. I think a lot of people default to medicine because it’s “safe,” but I would say it’s definitely not worth it unless you are 100% dedicated (and even so it’ll be hard and you will have doubts). That being said, it is absolutely not too late to switch to a different field, and you don’t necessarily even need to change majors. Many people I know defaulted to premed since I went to a STEM heavy high school, but now a bunch of them are in CS, which has really great opportunities. With a biotech degree and just a little bit of experience coding, I’m sure you could find internships in that field.

  2. Now is the right time in your life to explore and figure this out, not half way through medical school after a nervous break down.

  3. I have a friend who was in a very similar position to you. She's an Indian immigrant, did the pre-med thing, took the MCAT, and hated every minute of it. She realized she had a passion for public health, though.

  4. You really, really should change careers. It will not get better. You will dig yourself into a mental, financial, and time hole by continuing. Take time off and focus on what you want to do, which sounds like what youll do anyways. Its the best and perfect time to start figuring it out.

  5. First of all, I just want to say that I think it’s really important and wonderful that you’re being honest with yourself about this. I feel like this is something you’ve known deep down for a while, and acknowledging this is a major step in the right direction. I don’t know what exactly would be best to do next, but the other comments here seem to have pretty good advice. You got this; if you have the discipline and brainpower to make it through a tough degree you don’t even like, then you can do literally anything. It wasn’t all a waste, and your investments WILL come back somehow.

  6. That’s a really difficult situation you’re in and I’m sorry you’ve had to put up a facade for this long. I’m glad you’ve taken the time to self-reflect and come to these conclusions. That, in and of itself, is a huge thing. Most people in your shoes would kinda gaslight themselves into believing medicine is their true calling and just ignore the symptoms of hopelessness. It seems you’re going to take the best next steps, which is to live independently from your parents. Not to disparage them, but it seems a lot of your anxiety and hopelessness can be traced to your thoughts about their expectations of you so being able to isolate yourself from that environment is essential. From there, I would probably recommend working in a field that can sustain you and you are trained for (biotech, consulting, clinical research coordinator, staff research associate), just to be able to become more self sufficient. From there you can either see if that career is right for you (there are a loot of biotech positions that make for great career by themselves), and maybe pursuing higher degrees in that field (masters, PhD). Or, save up enough to be able to change fields into CS if that is an interest of yours. You can start by taking some community college courses or online courses to test the waters. Or even cold email/shadow some software engineers to see if that’s the life for you. Once you’re at that stage of your life you can begin contemplating bringing this all up to your parents which I know will be a difficult conversation that may take months or years to resolve. Also, by the time you’ve worked full time and saved some money, I highly recommend seeking some therapy in general to resolve your feelings and be the best version of yourself. I’d also recommend checking out a professional career counselor (perhaps you can even ask the one at your current university) for some advice. Best of luck!

  7. I think this is great practical advice. Just having a Bachelors may make it more easy to be employable if you want to get your foot wet in even non-related fields you're in. Mostly a Bachelors will mean "I can work hard and am capable enough to get a degree."

  8. Try UI/UX or graphic design. Creative work that pays similar to a tech job. Also you don’t need a college degree to get a job. You can learn online and create a portfolio to use to apply to jobs.

  9. You can always tell who's in med school for personal, well thought out choice (majority) and who's here for money, parental pressure, didn't fully think it through (looking at you non gap year takers). You can tell because as soon as classes start, these people are fucking miserable.

  10. Yeah that was wild to see the person on the medical school subreddit who quit after 1.5 MONTHS. That was mind boggling how someone could lack such self awareness, must be pressure/snowball effect that prevented them from stopping before they got accepted

  11. I didn’t take a gap year and I would say it’s gone fine. There was nothing one more year could teach me about my goals, passions, etc. that 20 prior years of life hadn’t already, though of course that might not be everyone’s experience.

  12. I'm Indian too - let me offer my perspective. I really don't think you can just "power through" a career in medicine. Yeah maybe you can buckle down and graduate med school with no real passion but then you have to also grind through 3+ years of residency and then spend the rest of your life in a career you already know you have no passion for. It's not feasible to just suck it up for the rest of your life.

  13. There are a lot of jobs you can do with a Biotech degree! Maybe look into going into industry or consulting. Now is truly the perfect time to pivot before you find yourself feeling like this again in the future but in thousands of dollars of debt.

  14. I can relate to a huge part of this. Fortunately, I did end up deciding that medicine is what i wanted to do and I've been financially independent from my parents (or rather, they've been at least partially financially dependent on me) since I was 18 so my situation is a bit different here. I think it's worth finishing out your biotech degree, especially since it can help you find a job and be financially independent. I've personally found that financial independence helps when it comes to deciding what you want to pursue, not what others want you to do.

  15. Get out of it while it’s easier to do so. It’s way easier to do something else right now then when you’re 200k in debt in the middle of med school with no other options

  16. How many lives do you have? What’s the life expectancy currently? Do you really wanna do something you hate for the rest of your waking moments now? The answers are one, short, and hell no.

  17. While my sister did CS, she definitely said the certifications (which you self study for) mattered more than the degeee. Same thing for most jobs, people care about experience and certifications, and that you have any bachelor’s. You’ll just need to do more self study if it’s too bothersome to switch schools to one with a CS program but absolutely doable. I’d drop the EMT if you already have a year’s experience (definitely) or a few month’s (still good) and use that free time to rest for a few weeks and then explore new avenues to happiness. Don’t burn bridges, backup plans are gold, you got this.

  18. Hello! It's expected that you decide to change your profession. Only 1/3 of Americans are happy at work. The rest are looking for a new job or dream of finding one. It is possible that medicine is not your calling. Take the Menteora test and find out what professions you have a talent for.

  19. Holy crap. Ur like my twin. Im in the same exact situation except 2nd year college now. Honestly idk what to tell u but i hate this route to. If gotten this far, i say go for it, but i find something u do enjoy like a hobby or such which will allow u to let ur frustrations go. At least kinda. If u really have no things u like about this field, then u need to confront ur family. On god that will hard af. But once u go through that, you will hopefully be in a better mental state at the very least. Good luck.

  20. You could always just get a CS masters :) Which might be expensive initially unfortunately but there’s so much money in tech that loans shouldn’t be a problem!

  21. I relate to this very much. I snapped during the application process on my gap year because the questions like “why do you want to be a doctor” really started to grind my gears. I turned down med schools and I’m doing a Masters in CS right now. So far I’m really enjoying it, was definitely a move. It feels amazing forging my own path and taking classes I’ve really been wanting to take for a long time. Feel free to dm me

  22. Would you be interested in becoming a mid-level? PA, Perfusion, Nursing etc are all good careers to consider and you would not need to go back to get another degree.

  23. If your heart is not in it don’t force yourself into medicine. This path is hard enough for people who are truly passionate about pursuing it and going into it because of family pressure will make it incredibly hard to push through when it gets tough, which it will. My parents are Indian immigrants so I understand your perspective, but at the end of the day it’s your life and you need to do what makes you happy. Medicine is not the end all be all and there are so many other career paths where you can find fulfillment.

  24. CS bootcamps exist for certain companies where you're either guaranteed or highly likely to get an offer to work for the company afterwards if you're interested in looking into that!

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