You’d be surprised how many serious runners drink regularly or run on a hangover. This is from a personal experience being in many running groups, many threads on
I was also wondering why the would they post this request for validation in the Indian subreddit. Is it just to show and have Indians validate how bad Indian men are to date?
So you dated a tool for a year and a half, why are you posting here and not the actual relationship advice subreddit? With the exception of the first point (Hindu weddings take days and you are expected to meet/help with your family in the lead up to the wedding) nothing you've said could apply to his Indian citizenship so why ask us?
If it was just spending time with fam friends cousins, it'd be fine IF he included you. It makes no sense to ask tou to stay behind 🤷🏻♂️ I mean you could have probably enjoyed those barbeques 😂
OMG you dodged a bullet. No loving person will do that to his partner be it Indian. Even if they prioritise family he will respect his partner if it was serious for him. Be happy.
Wow.....you just exactly described my toxic Narcissist ex. Just like your ex, mine also financially abused me. He never had money for us and I used to take care of his many expenses while he spent his money on his friends and frivolous things. Good riddance I say.
Lol what a post, apart from the fact that the guy is Indian this has no purpose being here. He’s a man child and just happens to be Indian, and you’re here looking for people to tell you you were right. No shit you’re right but that’s not gonna be enough is it?
As an Indian- It's him. He's not going to change. Congratulations on dodging that bullet 🥳 Dodged a similar kind of bullet once, it was the best thing that could've happened to me even though i couldn't be sure at the time.
You did dodge a bullet. This dude embodies a typical self entitled guy (I'm a guy btw). Quite a few Indians regard family has the most important thing in the world and I guess this guy took it too far and plus asking you to take care of his family? Thats BS.
Wow. This dude is a champ. Im thirty years old and now with all my friends married off and nobody else to go out with, im only left with an option to sit and vine all day about how i missed few good girls in my life: could have married any one. I am not great at new relations as i feel at this age it’s only materialistic. And now… i don’t know how i can do solo to gym, trek, clubs or even movies. To top it all up wfh is taking me to newer lows. I hardly interact with anyone now
Why did you like him? Is it because of looks or personality or education qualifications or job or a lot of things combined? It depends on what ur looking for. Some girls I've seen don't really care much about spending time with their boyfriends but I really don't understand how girls think in general cuz I'm not one
Kutti is not bitch😅, I think it's a Malayalam word for saying "baby girl", Kutti - baby girl, kuttan - baby boy. He might not have intended anything bad. I myself am dating a malayali guy who gets called "she's now a malayali kutti mol" - "she's a malayali baby girl". But again, idk if that friend meant it bad or smtng.
Asian and Indian men will always keep family as their first priority. Outliers can be there so don’t start in replies but what I am saying is family is very important here . Rest Only you will know better .
For me, it's all about hypocrisy. If he cared so much about his family, why is he in Europe and plans to stay here? Why did he work in another city far from his parents? Oh yeah, he is free to party and get drunk as much as he wants without caring about his family.
On a post specifically trying to highlight the negative stiff about the guy, if this is the best you could come up with, then i don't think he's that bad. So he loves to spend time with friends and family, didn't split bills once, had a passion for running, and decided not to wait in line on one occassion?
Well there is no doubt white girls are better in every department whether it's looks or personality. Don't get insecure. So it's better to work on yourself rather than calling someone "SOB" and maybe you can get out of your pathetic existence. And OP always remember most brown girls you meet will be jealous of you.
He is just a prick, nothing about being a Indian. If anything clubbing is just really unpopular here. He just wants to look cool and most probably doesn't thinks what he did wrong. You dodged a big poisonous bullet, move on from him.
Well, sounds like you were never the priority. When he had to go to meet up with his friends why didn’t he invite you? Or you didn’t want to go along? All on all, I think you’re very lucky the relationship didn’t work out.
You dodged a trainwreck. He will never change. The problem is always him. He might eventually marry an Indian woman and make her life miserable till he breathes.
He is a shit head for sure and you're lucky to be rid of him. But I don't know why you have to draw attention that he's an Indian. I don't see how his nationality has to do with him being such a selfish bastard.
You did dodge a bullet. Keeping aside the family bit, the way he left you hanging on multiple occasions, when he could and should have been considerate of you, speaks volume about him. It seems you were a convenient adage to his life and not a priority. You deserve better. Much love. 💕
You def dodged a missile, but one common rumour is not to masturbate/sex before any major physical activity (dance/race/sports), not sure about scientific backing but wayy common hearing.
Wow, not a bullet, you seem to have dodged a freaking cannonball. The antics you described are truly repulsive. It seems you met one of the worst kind.
Definitely dodged a bullet. But the marriage thing, everyone in india is like that. Indian marriages are a BIG thing, ik it's big in Europe too but it's even more in india. But seeing how he didn't fulfill his promises, goos riddance
where do biodegradable garbage belongs in the the dumping pit, no need of carrying garbage around, it's better you ended up things with him sounds like a man child who only cared for himself.
Spending more than the stated time with buddies is normal and not really an issue; often times, we have got to provide our time to them as well and it is not something like prioritizing them over you but the other stuff that you mentioned just puts the impression that he isn't that interested in you. Dogded him for the better, I guess. Wish you peace and happiness.
It is beyond my comprehension how people can be so shitty and pathetic, thank your lucky stars it wasn't for more than 1.5 years (still a long ass time imo), you dodged a nuke
So msny red flags. My gf will leave me without a second thought if I do any of the things listed here also things not listed here. I will also do the same if she ever does anything.
1.Forget about your ex what ever he is doing, who ever he is dating just forget . 2. Start focusing on your life / your carrier 3. You will definitely meet someone who is perfect for you ,who ll respect you and love you .
Brah, how entitles guys like him can get such caring girl is something that puzzles me. Being an introvert and a shy person who has never been in a relationship, I could only dream of spending quality time with a loving person. IG we value something we lack the most
You dodged a tank. This is the kind of guy that ensures all of us are perceived as a bunch of entitled, man children in the eyes of European/western women. His new girlfriend is going to find out as soon inflation catches up with his lifestyle (which is gonna be soon considering the crisis in Europe) You are fine. Don't put this on yourself. In the land of 1.3 billion you'll easily find a thousand better guys, but that's going to consume a lot of your time. So chuck it and watch some Netflix. Go to Barbeque Nation and stuff yourself with some good food.
This man sounds like an absolute nightmare. It seemed like he expected everything in the relationship to be about him, you were pretty tertiary in your own relationship. Glad you’re out of it, there are better Indian guys out there I’m sure (if you would still want to date Indian men).
He is the definition of asshole. He's not even a bullet, a canon or missile or something huge ass like that. He probably brags to his friends for having foreigners as girlfriends and will definitely end up marrying someone his family arranges for him.
I was thinking in part that is what immature teenagers, early/mid 20s might do but when I read he was 30, you not only dodged a bullet but dodged the asteroid that wiped out the dinosaurs.
Yup!! It's one of those free spirit people case ... Even I ..as 20 yr can see that he his relationship with this girl is what we casual...the guy doesn't see her as a potential future wife
i guess when it comes to a relationship we must think about how the other person makes us feel. if that is bad and that you dont like them you must and should break up with them for your own good.
Thank yourself on two counts , one for ending that relationship and the other for speaking it out here , it's out in the open and you are so done with him.
You are lucky OP. From what I figured out from your post, he was just using you as a sex slave. He wasn't serious about you nor he was serious about his life. I can assure you he lied about multiple things and is still lying to you. Please move on and don't waste your time on him.
Indian men make Blue eyes blonde girls or asian gf only for segs, at the end will only marry beautiful modest IND women who look beautiful without makeup. You westerners or Asians are only for temporary pleasure.
You ever got your socks wet while in your shoes? This guy sounds like a human equivalent. A relationship is supposed to be mutual and equal, and a guy in his late 20s fails to understand that?
I think he probably used u....n now with a German girl...he has been using u bcs i guess u are white ...now he is using german bcs she is white too ..the fetish for white women is for real ...damn
Holy shit. This guy is an entitled manchild. Be glad he is gone for good
Writing is my therapy
Yeah I thought he'd be like 20-22 years old from how OP described him. Then she mentions his age, and yup you dodged a bullet OP.
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I want karma to do its job and I'm wondering whether this girl will be as stupid as me to accept his behavior. Poor soul.
Good riddance.
Yeah lmao. This dude is a nightmare with just half the stuff here
U didn't dodge a bullet, U dodged a missile!!! I hope u find someone who truly loves and cares for u!!
This reminded me of that Ajay Devgan scene in sooryavanshi where he literally dodges a rocket
Thank you so much <3
This ++
How the fuck is he so regularly drunk and yet so serious about running
Maybe that's what he was telling her? He could've lied about "running buddies"
You’d be surprised how many serious runners drink regularly or run on a hangover. This is from a personal experience being in many running groups, many threads on
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Hello 4 month old karma whoring guy who's definitely not a European girl.
I found this story to be way too weird and specific too, the writing style appeared to be way too Indian.
Yeah the “purposely” gave it away immediately lol, can’t believe people are falling for this
I was also wondering why the would they post this request for validation in the Indian subreddit. Is it just to show and have Indians validate how bad Indian men are to date?
Shiiiiiiiiiiiiit
Hey girl,
The only sensible comment here
Our values didn't match? According to me, he doesn't even have any value.
So you dated a tool for a year and a half, why are you posting here and not the actual relationship advice subreddit? With the exception of the first point (Hindu weddings take days and you are expected to meet/help with your family in the lead up to the wedding) nothing you've said could apply to his Indian citizenship so why ask us?
Ok but why were you dating Ranbir Kapoor's characters from his movies?
U don’t sound European at all
Entire subreddit is circlejerking each other 💀💀
Just read by yourself like a third person here, you’ll get the answer
U dodged a bullet
That's like dodging an asteroid. These are the same people who marry girls from conservative family and abuse them till she dies.
If it was just spending time with fam friends cousins, it'd be fine IF he included you. It makes no sense to ask tou to stay behind 🤷🏻♂️ I mean you could have probably enjoyed those barbeques 😂
OMG you dodged a bullet. No loving person will do that to his partner be it Indian. Even if they prioritise family he will respect his partner if it was serious for him. Be happy.
You dodged a bullet for sure!
Wow.....you just exactly described my toxic Narcissist ex. Just like your ex, mine also financially abused me. He never had money for us and I used to take care of his many expenses while he spent his money on his friends and frivolous things. Good riddance I say.
What amazes me the most is how did this even last so long?
He was not behaving this way because he's Indian. He was behaving this way because he's an ass.
It's better to leave him Definitely did dodge a 12 gauge bullet
More like
You didn't have to ask this to Indians. Any person with that behavior irrespective of gender and nationality is someone to avoid.
Lol what a post, apart from the fact that the guy is Indian this has no purpose being here. He’s a man child and just happens to be Indian, and you’re here looking for people to tell you you were right. No shit you’re right but that’s not gonna be enough is it?
Yes, you had a terrible experience and he sounds like a terrible match for you.
As an Indian- It's him. He's not going to change. Congratulations on dodging that bullet 🥳 Dodged a similar kind of bullet once, it was the best thing that could've happened to me even though i couldn't be sure at the time.
You did dodge a bullet. This dude embodies a typical self entitled guy (I'm a guy btw). Quite a few Indians regard family has the most important thing in the world and I guess this guy took it too far and plus asking you to take care of his family? Thats BS.
Wow. This dude is a champ. Im thirty years old and now with all my friends married off and nobody else to go out with, im only left with an option to sit and vine all day about how i missed few good girls in my life: could have married any one. I am not great at new relations as i feel at this age it’s only materialistic. And now… i don’t know how i can do solo to gym, trek, clubs or even movies. To top it all up wfh is taking me to newer lows. I hardly interact with anyone now
Muze laga tha foreign couple s jyada liberal honge !!
Puri duniya me chutiyon ki kami nahi hai mere dost
Yeah, dodged a bullet.
Why did you like him? Is it because of looks or personality or education qualifications or job or a lot of things combined? It depends on what ur looking for. Some girls I've seen don't really care much about spending time with their boyfriends but I really don't understand how girls think in general cuz I'm not one
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The positives are written in the last line :)
May you find a good partner. Seems like many people takes things and people for granted 🥺
Kutti is not bitch😅, I think it's a Malayalam word for saying "baby girl", Kutti - baby girl, kuttan - baby boy. He might not have intended anything bad. I myself am dating a malayali guy who gets called "she's now a malayali kutti mol" - "she's a malayali baby girl". But again, idk if that friend meant it bad or smtng.
Asian and Indian men will always keep family as their first priority. Outliers can be there so don’t start in replies but what I am saying is family is very important here . Rest Only you will know better .
For me, it's all about hypocrisy. If he cared so much about his family, why is he in Europe and plans to stay here? Why did he work in another city far from his parents? Oh yeah, he is free to party and get drunk as much as he wants without caring about his family.
That doesn't mean that you can a pos to your partner.
On a post specifically trying to highlight the negative stiff about the guy, if this is the best you could come up with, then i don't think he's that bad. So he loves to spend time with friends and family, didn't split bills once, had a passion for running, and decided not to wait in line on one occassion?
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100% the problem is him. Why is that even in doubt?
How old are you? Are you more than 5 years younger than him? I think something is missing.
dude...."kutti" is hindi..........
I'm glad to hear you don't have to put up with him anymore.
Also how the fuck did he managed to keep you for that long.... Would have dumped my partner's ass months ago if he/she did that.
Don’t blame a whole country just coz he was a self centered prick.
Average guy seems like. Not of the highest calibre.
Yes u did right. What a prick he is, why did you fall for him in the first place?!
Sorry dear…….
Well there is no doubt white girls are better in every department whether it's looks or personality. Don't get insecure. So it's better to work on yourself rather than calling someone "SOB" and maybe you can get out of your pathetic existence. And OP always remember most brown girls you meet will be jealous of you.
This. Totally agree with you.
He didn’t dodge a bullet but nuclear warhead and congrats on that.
Bruh even if you dodge nuclear warhead you are going to die.
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Ugh, good riddance!
A tip: If you want to date Indian guys date the ones that live outside India. There is too much crowd in India.
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Lol. You are not getting one anytime soon.
I would be super clingy
He is just a prick, nothing about being a Indian. If anything clubbing is just really unpopular here. He just wants to look cool and most probably doesn't thinks what he did wrong. You dodged a big poisonous bullet, move on from him.
I don’t think you dodged a bullet. Sounds more like a grenade though
Some of it is red flags, so leaving him is good
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Take care of yourself!! You got this <3
Heyy... How u doin?
You dodged a Missile.
Sigma male : 1
Stop watching Andrew Tate.
He sounds like a POS.
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Did she say she went for looks? Or did you assume that because you are deeply insecure about how you look?
"here we see the famous Manchildus Indicus in his natural habitat..." read in Attenborough voice.
Ek aisi caring foreigner bandi toh mein bhi deserve krta hu 🤌🏻 /s
Dodged a bullet? You’ve dodged a nuclear missile with a chain saw attached to its head.
Ew.
I didn't even read the whole thing and i can't say you didn't dodge a bullet but you dodged a bazooka!
Omg. Some dude.
Well, sounds like you were never the priority. When he had to go to meet up with his friends why didn’t he invite you? Or you didn’t want to go along? All on all, I think you’re very lucky the relationship didn’t work out.
You dodged a trainwreck. He will never change. The problem is always him. He might eventually marry an Indian woman and make her life miserable till he breathes.
Just to understand what went on before you fell for him? I know it would be difficult but think about such things always helps
My heart goes out to you
He is a shit head for sure and you're lucky to be rid of him. But I don't know why you have to draw attention that he's an Indian. I don't see how his nationality has to do with him being such a selfish bastard.
You did dodge a bullet. Keeping aside the family bit, the way he left you hanging on multiple occasions, when he could and should have been considerate of you, speaks volume about him. It seems you were a convenient adage to his life and not a priority. You deserve better. Much love. 💕
Don't be surprised if he ends up marrying a girl chosen by his parents who will take care of them.
Are you talking about Cristiano Ronaldo?
So many red flags even the Indian railways dont use that many
Yes
I am sorry that you still feel like you may have been the problem OP. He seems like someone who was not willing to meet your needs.
Fuck that pos! Good riddance!
Yes you did. A MASSIVE bullet. I am happy you left him. I feel kinda sorry for his current gf though.
You def dodged a missile, but one common rumour is not to masturbate/sex before any major physical activity (dance/race/sports), not sure about scientific backing but wayy common hearing.
Jeez you did good to get rid of this guy.
Delhi☕
Yes you’ve dodged a bullet. Be happy about everything that happened. Good riddance!
For sure dude wanted to date a white women just to look cool in front of his friends once that was done nothing matters to him
Wow so many red flags in one post! He is a walking nightmare.
Two words for your ex: ASSHOLE. SELFISH.
You dodged a nuke
Wow, not a bullet, you seem to have dodged a freaking cannonball. The antics you described are truly repulsive. It seems you met one of the worst kind.
Just sounds like a plain vanilla Delhi dude to be honest. That's the standard package.
There is red flags and then this communist parade.
This is certainly a one sided story but even then if I assume half of it is wrong, I think this is good riddance and you certainly dodged a bullet.
Run, my love. Run for your life and never look back.
Definitely dodged a bullet. But the marriage thing, everyone in india is like that. Indian marriages are a BIG thing, ik it's big in Europe too but it's even more in india. But seeing how he didn't fulfill his promises, goos riddance
You were only his western toy i think :( probably bragged a lot about his white gf when he was with his friends.
You’re safe now 😌🥃
where do biodegradable garbage belongs in the the dumping pit, no need of carrying garbage around, it's better you ended up things with him sounds like a man child who only cared for himself.
Bad days have gone . Now you can live happily and peacefully.
Ask him to marry his bois
You dodged a nuke not a bullet.
OP don't look for validation here.
Spending more than the stated time with buddies is normal and not really an issue; often times, we have got to provide our time to them as well and it is not something like prioritizing them over you but the other stuff that you mentioned just puts the impression that he isn't that interested in you. Dogded him for the better, I guess. Wish you peace and happiness.
This guy spends a lot of money for an indian.
He's a total dick, seems to lack basics on how to treat other people and you were his gf!!!
You literally did a matrix out here! Good for you! Hope you're doing okay
Sorry but is it me or anyone else laughed on the कुत्ति part
Sex nahi to kuch nahi,Leave that bitch
Good riddance
You didn't dodge a bullet; you dodged a friggin missile! Good riddance OP; hope you find a companion who treats you right!
It is beyond my comprehension how people can be so shitty and pathetic, thank your lucky stars it wasn't for more than 1.5 years (still a long ass time imo), you dodged a nuke
that's just a genuine human bullet, nothing to do with being indian lol
He sounds extremely inconsiderate and baby like.
He was texting another women on tinder while he was dating you? I’m sure that’s enough of a reason to leave him lmao
Yeah...red flags all over..like literally red guy
Yeah, dodged a big one for sure!
So msny red flags. My gf will leave me without a second thought if I do any of the things listed here also things not listed here. I will also do the same if she ever does anything.
You dodges a bullet, big time.
All I say is a wrong match.
1.Forget about your ex what ever he is doing, who ever he is dating just forget . 2. Start focusing on your life / your carrier 3. You will definitely meet someone who is perfect for you ,who ll respect you and love you .
How do assholes like him even get a girl ?
That sounds like my ex,we both dodged a bullet
You dodged a nuke💀
Why are you still in contact with him?
Well you haven't dodged the first few tennis balls, cricket bats or punches but you did dodge the bullet.
Brah, how entitles guys like him can get such caring girl is something that puzzles me. Being an introvert and a shy person who has never been in a relationship, I could only dream of spending quality time with a loving person. IG we value something we lack the most
I think this has less to do with him being Indian and more with him being a self-centered ass.
You dodged a tank. This is the kind of guy that ensures all of us are perceived as a bunch of entitled, man children in the eyes of European/western women. His new girlfriend is going to find out as soon inflation catches up with his lifestyle (which is gonna be soon considering the crisis in Europe) You are fine. Don't put this on yourself. In the land of 1.3 billion you'll easily find a thousand better guys, but that's going to consume a lot of your time. So chuck it and watch some Netflix. Go to Barbeque Nation and stuff yourself with some good food.
This man sounds like an absolute nightmare. It seemed like he expected everything in the relationship to be about him, you were pretty tertiary in your own relationship. Glad you’re out of it, there are better Indian guys out there I’m sure (if you would still want to date Indian men).
You dodged bazooka......
He is the definition of asshole. He's not even a bullet, a canon or missile or something huge ass like that. He probably brags to his friends for having foreigners as girlfriends and will definitely end up marrying someone his family arranges for him.
More like dodged a missile
He sounds selfish, you are better off without him. Maybe he is a narcissist as well.
Who tf did you get, plz dont make this a indian role model though, we are way better than this shit
Sus
I was thinking in part that is what immature teenagers, early/mid 20s might do but when I read he was 30, you not only dodged a bullet but dodged the asteroid that wiped out the dinosaurs.
Did you dodge a bullet?
You already know the answer.
Yup!! It's one of those free spirit people case ... Even I ..as 20 yr can see that he his relationship with this girl is what we casual...the guy doesn't see her as a potential future wife
Both you and your Indian boy friend dodged bullets. I mean there is someone else who would be a better match for your and hopefully same for him.
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I am not sure whom to judge here since you needed to ask the question in the first place! 🗿
Oh yes u dodged a bullet. Why was he not taking u with him to all there places ywith his cousins friends breakfast, barbeque etc?
i guess when it comes to a relationship we must think about how the other person makes us feel. if that is bad and that you dont like them you must and should break up with them for your own good.
Yes . You did dodge bullet
All wells when end well!
How old is this guy? 10? Like, wtf.
Thank yourself on two counts , one for ending that relationship and the other for speaking it out here , it's out in the open and you are so done with him.
You are lucky OP. From what I figured out from your post, he was just using you as a sex slave. He wasn't serious about you nor he was serious about his life. I can assure you he lied about multiple things and is still lying to you. Please move on and don't waste your time on him.
Indian men make Blue eyes blonde girls or asian gf only for segs, at the end will only marry beautiful modest IND women who look beautiful without makeup. You westerners or Asians are only for temporary pleasure.
You ever got your socks wet while in your shoes? This guy sounds like a human equivalent. A relationship is supposed to be mutual and equal, and a guy in his late 20s fails to understand that?
How the fuck is he able to date women with that attitude!
Yeah you definitely did dodge a bullet. Good luck with moving on :)
OP dodged a bullet for sure but man does she sound bitter and needs to move on.
Let past be past , any and all discussing regarding him will bring you pain. Hope you get courage to move on .
Here's my question: why are you still in communication with him?
Find some self respect
I think he probably used u....n now with a German girl...he has been using u bcs i guess u are white ...now he is using german bcs she is white too ..the fetish for white women is for real ...damn
Every story has 2 sides would luv to hear the other side before i tell anything
Whoa, a bullet? you dodged that for sure!!