Oh my god, at first I read it like OP has to work hard to convince them that they ARE boring and it made much more sense because as a person with masters in humanities I find all types of humans immensely interesting, the more different their background is the more curious I get, so much to learn!
This is their filter to find people who are prepared to be in a cycle of trying to prove their worth. They're not targeting the OP, Twitter is a drift net.
Why do so many people on OLD want you to be their dancing monkey? Obviously we all want to be with someone that entertains us. But starting off an interaction like this is just so cantankerous and unnatural.
It took me way longer than I'd like to admit to figure out what OLD was..... I feel like there's GOTTA be a joke about me actually being old here... Damn you, 40!!! š
It's part of the human psyche when you have hundreds of options clamoring for your attention. How to choose? You start devising little tests to find the "most perfect" one. You feel like you can use the strictest criteria to eliminate options. It feels like there are always more matches, so it's not going to hurt your prospects. You get to play your own personal version of the Bachelorette.
E-mail/text is the lowest form of communication and the easiest to misinterpret. Women typically like to banter and test your strength (do you like history, art and literature is what she's saying.) Men attempt to lead with this as well, but it usually doesn't work and now she's offended.
And people that think like this always have the most tired-ass takes on their "humanities" bullshit. Like they read specific works just to bring it up later in conversation in an effort to look "interesting"
when I was dating, a surprising # of people had "no tech workers" in their dating profiles on OKCupid. Guess they had one too many experiences with boring tech bros, lol.
Listen it was already a handful understanding the LGBT community. Now there are NON-HUMANITIES PEOPLE AS WELL? Surely we are living in a sci-fi fever dream
I mean as somebody who switched majors from engineering to English, I will say that on average my fellow humanities people had a lot more personality. Not usually in a good way. Also, I think the red flag here isnāt that she stereotypes STEM people as boring so much as the fact that she felt the need to point that out off the rip. We all have biases but you donāt go around shouting them at strangers.
For sure, everyone has their own interests and biases but only a truly entitled POS would tell you they're prejudiced against you and then demand YOU overcome THEIR prejudgment of you. The audacity of this bitch is really out there.
actually, i kind of get the intent/humour of the first message but it couldāve been phrased better. but they lost me in the second message as they sound considerably more boring themselves!
Great counter would be to say, "well I don't think I'm that boring, but you're really gonna have an uphill battle to convince me you're not a conceited, self-absorbed bitch."
I hate this but Tinder has made average looking ass chicks feel like Greek goddesses and have like thousands of likes from other guys thus them asking for you to be extra special to get their attention fuck that shit Iād drop it
Due to preconceived notions of humanities people youāre gonna have to work hard to prove me to you arenāt poorā¦? Probably better to just bow out than get snarky though.
Humanities majors having a high horse to begin with is the wildest take Iāve heard in a while. Regardless, this person sounds like a tool, if someone is in their own little exclusive club you clearly donāt want to intrude on their fantasy.
What in the actual hell does she think she is? If she only finds her own niche interesting, she has no social antennas, which that message kind of suggests as well
Its a lot of unfounded hostility right off the bat. You should not have to dig yourself out of a hole you did not dig in the first place. Especially one that silly.
I think sheās trying to be funny. āPreconceived notionsā is kind of a dig at herself for having them, you know? Also itās such a silly opinion to have. And then she followed the joke with an answer to the question. This is not a red flag to me. I think yāall are reading too much jnto it.
I imagine this is how modern horror film villains date. āI also run after my victims and the occassional human steakhouse bbq. Btw you cute, can I eat your heart?ā
I think it's an off color joke or her attempt to set up some sort of banter. She matched and then responded to you after all. At the very least, it does leave a lot of room open to transition out of small talk.
Massive red flag. She's already laying the ground work for you wanting to please her. It'll give her power, while you're trying to not "bore" her. Manipulative right at the gate.
I often feel the way your match does, but you need to put your best foot forward if you want to be dateable. She should be considerate enough to know this experience is boring and unpleasant for all of us, so, both sides have to do the work of conversation.
Be over-the-top interesting and enthusiastic in whatever they want to talk about. When they finally quit being a douchenerd hit em with the "Sorry, you're a little too boring for me. Good luck tho!"
Yep. Move on. I'm not really one for small talk either, but you were clearly just trying to open a dialogue for them to share. Opening with that? Yikes.
What are non humanities people?
Boring... Obviously š¤·āāļø
People who arenāt taking humanities classes as their main focus in school (art, history, literature, etc)
Employable
shudders ā¦Engineering āpeopleā
Well educated.
People whose interests might be anything other than philosophy, arts, language and literature and history!
Wow, answers to this thread about humanities subjects are as bad as the ones from OP's match.
Oh my god, at first I read it like OP has to work hard to convince them that they ARE boring and it made much more sense because as a person with masters in humanities I find all types of humans immensely interesting, the more different their background is the more curious I get, so much to learn!
Employable
People pursuing degrees in areas other than "advanced barista techniques" and "aura interpreter"
People with jobs, people that contribute to society
People who arenāt engaged in hedonistic bullshit I guess
People that are into subjects that aren't 99% made up nonsense
Do you even want to be stuck in the cycle of trying to prove your āworthā to this entitled prick? Move on
Yeahhh, imma do that, absolutely.
What does ānon-humanities peopleā even mean?
This is their filter to find people who are prepared to be in a cycle of trying to prove their worth. They're not targeting the OP, Twitter is a drift net.
Itās a manipulation trick to make you feel like youāre not worthy, run
Maybe you're on to something with this one
Negging
Yep sheās clearly saying her time is more important than his.
Not boring? Babe, I think my emojis speak for themselves š
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Why do so many people on OLD want you to be their dancing monkey? Obviously we all want to be with someone that entertains us. But starting off an interaction like this is just so cantankerous and unnatural.
I fear its the product of a saturated market online, snowballing weirdness tbf
It took me way longer than I'd like to admit to figure out what OLD was..... I feel like there's GOTTA be a joke about me actually being old here... Damn you, 40!!! š
It's part of the human psyche when you have hundreds of options clamoring for your attention. How to choose? You start devising little tests to find the "most perfect" one. You feel like you can use the strictest criteria to eliminate options. It feels like there are always more matches, so it's not going to hurt your prospects. You get to play your own personal version of the Bachelorette.
What's funny to me is I'm sure she didn't start off this way, but we slowly become what we hate lol
Maybe the people who can get a relationship have moved on.
Negging, the negger wants OP to feel compelled to prove themselves and therefore want approval from them. OP should unmatch and wash their hands.
E-mail/text is the lowest form of communication and the easiest to misinterpret. Women typically like to banter and test your strength (do you like history, art and literature is what she's saying.) Men attempt to lead with this as well, but it usually doesn't work and now she's offended.
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Moonwalked my way RIGHT out šŗ
That flag is so red that you can take it, fling it around your neck and have your own cape.
This made me laugh šš haha, alright, thanks
NO CAPES!
Haha grab it and put it on the ground, your exit will always be classier on a red carpet !
She sounds insufferable.
Seriously
Well, sheās a guy.. so
non-humanities people?? wtaf
Right? Ok, I'm glad it's not just me here
How is it about sexual orientation? I think youāre wrong
People who will pay off their student loans
Justifying degree choice in online dating since their career didn't I guess?
Uh. Whatās that even mean?
How on earth did you even get to that conclusion?
And people that think like this always have the most tired-ass takes on their "humanities" bullshit. Like they read specific works just to bring it up later in conversation in an effort to look "interesting"
when I was dating, a surprising # of people had "no tech workers" in their dating profiles on OKCupid. Guess they had one too many experiences with boring tech bros, lol.
Listen it was already a handful understanding the LGBT community. Now there are NON-HUMANITIES PEOPLE AS WELL? Surely we are living in a sci-fi fever dream
Lmfao!! Bruh tell her she is insufferable and unmatch š š¤£
They sound way more boring than you straight off the bat. Definitely a red flag unless they were trying to be funny ?
Unfortunately she wasn't joking ^
What's ott mean?
Over the top im assuming
I mean as somebody who switched majors from engineering to English, I will say that on average my fellow humanities people had a lot more personality. Not usually in a good way. Also, I think the red flag here isnāt that she stereotypes STEM people as boring so much as the fact that she felt the need to point that out off the rip. We all have biases but you donāt go around shouting them at strangers.
For sure, everyone has their own interests and biases but only a truly entitled POS would tell you they're prejudiced against you and then demand YOU overcome THEIR prejudgment of you. The audacity of this bitch is really out there.
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Good news though! She can find plenty of her āhumanities peopleā at the local McDonalds for prime date candidates
Unmatch her, red flag
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Fuck that noise.
Narcissist lit. major go brrrr
My brain immediately "THEY DONT HAVE TO CONVINCE YOU OF SHIT, JACKASS" That's such a rude thing to say to somebody
She doesnāt care about your interests unless they are her interests. Could Talk to her some more but donāt feel bad when you rightfully bail
That flag is the deepest of reds. So deep there's a friggen bull running towards it š¤£
Only boring people call other people boring.
Gross.
big..HUGE
The Donald has spoken
Runā¦.
How do we know sheās not the boring one here?
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Red flag. Seems straight up rude.
What a knobhead. To the left
actually, i kind of get the intent/humour of the first message but it couldāve been phrased better. but they lost me in the second message as they sound considerably more boring themselves!
It gives me āgo on, wow meā vibes and Iāve never liked that. Iām not here to do performing arts. Just my take on it though
Try get the digits simply so we can all prank call them
The narcissism is strong with this one. Unless you want to constantly suffer through implications that you are āless thanāāRun fast and far. š©š©š©
Yeahhh, this is a good point
and what is their job? what are their interests?
Wow! You assume they actually have a sallaried employment?
Sheās in humanities. She isnāt going to be making much money anyways.
I would try to match her energy by first sending a message such as:
Haha, omg, yes! I'll learn from this message! š
Harvey Danger in Flagpole Sitta āIf youāre bored, then youāre boringā
Send her the song āDance Monkey by Tones and Iā and see her reactionā¦ for science
This is a red flag. This person is fast too impressed with him/self.
Itās not a red flag, sheās being ignorant and stupid. Since thereās so many fun girls who are into nerds, I say just move on from her.
100% has blue hair
Red flag
Negging. Huge red flag.
That flag is redder than a communist flag on the ground in Tiananmen Square between April and June of 1989.
Unmatch
Major red flag. Narcissism is not attractive no matter how good looking.
As someone with three humanities degrees this person is an absolute douche bag.
Yeah fuck all that
The level of ego.. next.
Dance monkey, dance!
Jeebus I wish all narcissistic people were this blatant about their bullshi*
Right? Get straight to the point from the moment you say 'go'. Good for them for showing us the narcissism š¤£
"My starting salary is gonna be 150k. I'm gonna be boring on my yacht with my boring friends"
lmao people like this are only on the app to bring others down and be bitchy. imagine meeting them in real life. they would be intolerable.
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It's funny cause they sound kind of boring.
people that usually start out like that are the boring ones
Not your job to entertain them, leave the self entitled fucker in the dust.
Read a comment that you moved on, wise choice šÆ
Itās all fun and games til Catwoman shits in a litter box and coughs up a fur ball
Great counter would be to say, "well I don't think I'm that boring, but you're really gonna have an uphill battle to convince me you're not a conceited, self-absorbed bitch."
They sound like a total pain in the ass. Pass.
"Thanks for the warning! All the best :)"
This is my favorite reply so far tbf
It's pre-emptive judging. They've been through a lot of the same so they're telling you they're looking to be impressed.
Whatās OTT?
Over the top
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I find it playful. Theyāre taking a dig at your hard sciences/maths/engineering degree. Just some roasting.
I hate this but Tinder has made average looking ass chicks feel like Greek goddesses and have like thousands of likes from other guys thus them asking for you to be extra special to get their attention fuck that shit Iād drop it
Really?! Doing humanities is probably the worst pedestal one could stand on.
Nah, there's no reason to fight a silly statement with another silly statement.
Love it xD
Rude. Thatās a Red flag.
āBased on preconceived notions of humanities people, youāre going to have to prove that youāre intelligent. Good luck.ā
Haha. Or "do you have a car?"
Just say that I think you need to swim and cycle a bit more often.
Due to preconceived notions of humanities people youāre gonna have to work hard to prove me to you arenāt poorā¦? Probably better to just bow out than get snarky though.
Thatās a pretty condescending attitude to have. Just assume someone is boring because they donāt have a humanities degree?
typical 2022 response from a typical 2022 femaleā¦not boring = you better make lots of moneyā¦we are a cashsexual society
Pump and dump is best I would offer to this specimen, if something.
Iām trying really hard not to assume the gender hereā¦
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I don't even know which way you're assuming, but it's a girl.
Humanities majors having a high horse to begin with is the wildest take Iāve heard in a while. Regardless, this person sounds like a tool, if someone is in their own little exclusive club you clearly donāt want to intrude on their fantasy.
The emojis are cringy asf
What in the actual hell does she think she is? If she only finds her own niche interesting, she has no social antennas, which that message kind of suggests as well
Yeahh, I fully agree. Seems like you'd miss out on so much in life like that...
Tell them if they want a trained seal to do tricks, go to sea world.
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yea that sentence comes straight outa delusions of grandeur.. believe it or not i coined that term
This looks like a nope kinda situation
This woman needs to learn about Inside Thoughts, ones that she can keep to herself, instead of always sharing.
"Convince me you're not boring"??? What sort of up your own ass mentality is that?? 100% red flag
This person belongs in
What a cringelord
Its a lot of unfounded hostility right off the bat. You should not have to dig yourself out of a hole you did not dig in the first place. Especially one that silly.
Hard pass bro
Thatās a red flag homie. Leave
Theyāre sooooo pretentious oh my god. Lmaoooo.
The common word for that person is ass hole
Iād be like sure, let me give you some excitement āunmatch ā lol
Man I'm all about boring. Give me a well adjusted, even keeled person any day. I've had enough excitement to last 10 lifetimes.
Lol this is a shit test my man! She likes you but wants to make sure youāre not a bitch!
I think sheās trying to be funny. āPreconceived notionsā is kind of a dig at herself for having them, you know? Also itās such a silly opinion to have. And then she followed the joke with an answer to the question. This is not a red flag to me. I think yāall are reading too much jnto it.
Am bored already, just read the first line...made me yawn.
I imagine this is how modern horror film villains date. āI also run after my victims and the occassional human steakhouse bbq. Btw you cute, can I eat your heart?ā
Sounds like a cyborg, be careful
I lived in Russia and saw less red flags than this, time to head in opposite directions!
Ignore her and doule the response time ,
As an engineer ā¦ I agree with them. We are for the most part boring and socially inept people.
What?
I think it's an off color joke or her attempt to set up some sort of banter. She matched and then responded to you after all. At the very least, it does leave a lot of room open to transition out of small talk.
I would say it's a red flag. I would move on.
Giant red flag. Run away now.
Move on. Do not engage
Massive red flag. She's already laying the ground work for you wanting to please her. It'll give her power, while you're trying to not "bore" her. Manipulative right at the gate.
I often feel the way your match does, but you need to put your best foot forward if you want to be dateable. She should be considerate enough to know this experience is boring and unpleasant for all of us, so, both sides have to do the work of conversation.
What makes them not boring? Neither persons messages were super exciting or mind blowing.
Wtf does she mean non-humanities? Is she talking about theatre majors? As in, people who got degrees that arenāt useless are boring?
Iāve seen less red flags at a meetup for communists.
id reply with ooh you sound like the boring type then unmatch
Unmatch. Fast.
Be over-the-top interesting and enthusiastic in whatever they want to talk about. When they finally quit being a douchenerd hit em with the "Sorry, you're a little too boring for me. Good luck tho!"
This is textbook negging. Dodge, duck, dip, dive, and dodge this person.
Yep. Move on. I'm not really one for small talk either, but you were clearly just trying to open a dialogue for them to share. Opening with that? Yikes.
Sounds like a robot, this is a red flag since their literally telling you that your gonna have to prove yourself to them
Out. Iām out.
What the fuck does preconceived notions of non humanities people even mean
Iāve seen summer tomatoes grown in Sicily that are less red than this flag
This person sucks. You need to prove to them that youāre not boring, and their first response to one of your questions is exhaustingly boring.
Sounds like a jackass full of entitlement. Tell them their bourgeois attitude has made the tiresome. Then charge your phone
Nahhhā¦ Immediately off the bat with āprove yourself to me?ā Boy, bye.
yea my next message is your personality can go fuck itself
āYes, I dodge entitled bitches. Also not super regularly, youāre like the third this monthā
EvErYoNe wHo iSnT lIkE Me is BORING š¤®
Due to preconceived notion about humanities people you are gonna have to prove to me that you are not unemployed.
I love the humanities, and sometimes Iām still pretty boring š¤·āāļø
Yeah thatās a neg, so youāll be the cool girl to prove youāre not boring. Big red flag.