Do you think the required boundaries that therapists are obligated to adhere to are too strict? Not strict enough?

  1. I like my therapist’s boundaries exactly as they are. My therapist has reasonable boundaries around self-disclosure (they’ve loosened a little as therapy progressed) and very lax boundaries around between-session communication. I really benefit from the between-session communication for reassurance and support, but it’s not an way to get advice.

  2. I personally like my therapist's boundaries and that she is consistent with them. Because I don't have contact with her outside of sessions, my mind doesn't wander around thoughts of "what is my T doing right now?". I also don't expect to be friends with her.

  3. The boundaries my therapist has work well for me. I feel safe while also supported. I feel attached but not obsessed. He is not part of my personal life, but I bring the most personal stuff to him.

  4. My therapist has terrible boundaries and I find it very challenging. I had to tell her not to text me anymore. Not that she texted me that often but I felt the interactions were too casual when we communicated by text.

  5. Having spent many years with a therapist with loose boundaries and a therapist with very firm boundaries, I definitely prefer the latter. I *thought* I preferred the looser boundaries until I experienced the firmer ones.

  6. Thoughtful question and I'm sure you'll receive a lot of personal answers and probably a few soap-boxers declaring how therapy is "supposed" to be. But the thing about therapy is that it's SO individual. What works for one person may not work for another. With that said, I think the current boundaries that therapists are required to adhere to are fine because there is a lot of room for discretion.

  7. I thought it through, and as a layman, I think that you're relationship with a therapist is supposed to be heavily modified friendship sort of thing. Like, she's your friend but you're not hers. You're supposed to be able to tell this person anything, stuff that a normal friend might baulk at or spread around your social group, that safety is paramount.

  8. I'd personally like my therapists boundaries to be least strict. I often feel it would develop the helping relationship more, and develop rapport, trust and some deeper form of understanding Although someone studying to be a helping professional I understand the reasons they are strict - it is a profession and we are working as professionals not as our personal selves, I think the boundaries are too easily blurred when we allow the boundaries to become less strict. This can in the end cause issues for both the professionals and the clients/service users.

  9. They’re good. I don’t think it’s really appropriate to expect my therapist to take care of me when they’re not being paid for it (emails etc) or do it after hours. I know it’s for the best that they don’t touch me other than a handshake. I don’t want to be their friend because our relationship is built on unconditional positive regard and not on any reasonable outside relationship.

  10. I am very happy with my T's boundaries. She doesn't share much personal information at all, and while she has a friendly demeanor she doesn't invite small talk. She's available for contact outside of sessions, I have her cell and home numbers, but primarily for urgent issues.

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