"28 na ako. Pwede na ako mag asawa at anak."

  1. And to answer your question directly, one of my tita's siblings, or my other tita technically, married a seaman. They live in his house now together with their mom.

  2. Kids as 'blessings' / retirement plan mentality + Conservative kuno society + educational crisis = bad sex education and unending stories of unprepared parents.

  3. As a creative writer, may I just say your storytelling skills is AMAZING. It's been quite a long time since I last read a well-written piece. Damn. No words.

  4. Hala thank you for appreciating! I wrote this on a whim out of years and years na galit and pighati hehe ପ(๑•ᴗ•๑)ଓ ♡

  5. F*CK I didn’t even realize that I’am reading an english story. Hindi ako magaling mag english lalo na’t sa verbal pero nung binasa ko ito KAKAIBA pwede ka po sigurong maging writer hehe

  6. Really good story telling right there! And damn... I pity your Tita's parents. They sacrificed so much for her! And you actually acknowledged that in this post.

  7. Hindi ko talaga maintindihan yung mga ganitong tao na parang walang direksyon sa buhay. Walang ipon, mapili sa trabaho, at hindi kumikita ng sapat para tustusan ang pangangailangan ng sarili at pamilya, pero nakukuha pang mag anak. Nakakalungkot. RIP to your tito..

  8. Hello! I'm glad that you can find humor in my misery 🤣 Sorry I don't think I was able to clarify it, I graduated college when I was 18 or 19 I think. I wasn't "fresh out of college" when I was 22 hehe

  9. as i read your post, inaabangan ko yung part na magbibigay ng hint sakin na this is just a creative writing but as i reach the end and go through the comments, legit pala talaga. can’t leave this post without complimenting your writing skill.

  10. Common na common sa pilipinas yan. Bilib na bilib ako sa mga taong ang hirap ng buhay at walang stable job, pero nagagawa mag anak. 🙉

  11. My God, your tita is the exact counterpart of my younger sister. I just don’t get how someone who was given a lot of opportunities to thrive in life can still manage to make the worst choices even with proper guidance. Lagi nalang yung mga tao sa paligid nila ang sasalo ng consequences ng failure nila.

  12. The paragraphs I typed for her sa fb messenger (in all those years na nag trauma dump sya sakin) is sooo long it could probably rebuild the bridge I burned between us. Pero wala po talaga. She won't ever listen.

  13. Helloo hindi po ako writer. Siguro nadala nalang ng pent up emotion. Honestly nasulat ko to now kasi kakakita ko lang ng FB post nya (tita ko) about sa husband nya. Nag init ulo ko then suddenly may naka type na 🤣🤧

  14. Thank you for appreciating and listening to my rant 🤧 Feel ko kaya hindi ako tumangkad tangkad may involvement sya eh. Super stressed ako sa kanya for YEARS na 🙃

  15. Hindi po ako writer 😅 I majored in English lang when I was in college. I find na deep thinker siguro ako kapag inis na inis ako sa topic 🫠 Thanks for appreciating!

  16. Commenting to say that you write well! Are you a copywriter? If not, nako pwede ka magfreelance. Haha! Anyway, I pity their kid and their parents.

  17. Hello thank you!! Hindi po ako copywriter, frustrated writer lang 😅 Kasi literal na naffrustrate ako then biglang madami na pala ako na type 🤣

  18. Helloo again sorry if I wasn't able to clarify it. Hindi ako naabutan ng k-12. I went to college in June. 14 ako. My birthday is September, so I technically turned 15 nadin by the time na freshman ako. Graduated when I was 19 😊Sorry I'm really bad at computing ages 🥲

  19. Agree with everyone, you're an amazing writer. I hope your tita's negative energy and lack of planning /knowledge in life doesn't rub on you. Condolences regarding Tatay. At Sana gumanda na buhay ni Tita. I hope she takes inspiration from you. Thanks for the good read OP. Good night!

  20. Thank you so much for appreciating it :( Actually I'm at the point in my life right now where I don't think I want to have kids, not because of what happened with my tita, it's just my personal decision hehe

  21. Narcissism fears nothing. Anyway OP, you are one hell of a story teller. I read the entire thing, very engaging.

  22. Hellooo sorry just like what I mentioned in my early replies on this post, I'm really bad at summing up my age :( I turned 15 when I was freshman in college :) Sorry I was not able to explain it in detail as I was trying to keep the "tone" and stay in topic of my discussion :'(

  23. na hook ako haha! Ang galing mo magkwento, OP! Kahit ako napatanong din ng "anong plano mo?" nung nalaman kong 15k palang ang ipon ni partner.

  24. I see myself in your tita, and you in my niece. She's 7 at the moment and she knows about my ex. She met my ex and she loved him, but as soon as him and I broke I kept crying and she was there to fend for me.

  25. Hellooo hindi po I'm no genius 🤧🫠 I started college when I was 15 technically kasi nag birthday ako. I graduated when I was 19 po hehe

  26. Pls kung walang pambili ng PT man lang o condom, wag na haharot. hahahahaHAHAHAHAH kung yun lang ay di pa afford, what more kung magkaanak pa 🤧🥴

  27. This is a good read. You will just see how people make bad decisions that they think having a kid and getting married while not being financially and mentally prepared is gonna save their asses.

  28. Nabitin pa ko ate. Anyways, bat parang ikaw yung confidant nya since sayo siya nagkkwento mga ganap nya sa buhay, close ba kayo?

  29. This is why I hate to see my relatives. The last time I encountered with them I rebutted with "ok lang manging single forever at may pera at least di ako katulad mong matandang mahirap ka siguro nagtagal ang ninong sayo dahil naaksidenteng binuntis kang SAHM ka!"

  30. Fuckin piece of shit. Napaka irresponsable. 28 rin ako lalake medyo maaga nag asawa pero never ko ginawa yan sa parents ko.

  31. You have pretty good knee-jerk responses at every step of her increasingly infuriating lack of common sense and sense of entitlement. Did you ever say any of those out loud, aside from the last one? You only have 6 years between you two, and based on how she's been trauma dumping on you anyway, I think you've earned a few hurtful jabs to wake her up.

  32. I was writing paragraphs after paragraphs, spent a crap ton of my college allowance buying drinks pa para lang makapag taruma-dump sya sakin ng kung ano nanamang bad decision nya omg. And yes I did went off on her countless of times already :'(

  33. I remember a friend back then. 28 din siya nun at gustong gusto na niya magka anak kasi daw may expiration daw mga babae. She even cheated on her bf kasi si bf niya gusto pa mag-ipon before kasal and magka anak. Ayun nabuntis siya nung lalaki na months palang niya nakikilala.

  34. I don't even know why I'm surrounded by these types of people in my life. I used to have a friend, within 2 months of knowing each other, nabuntis sya. They've broken off now and I just feel sorry for the kid :'(

  35. Love your story writing OP. Reading your posts and I can imagine you are more mature than your tita. Anyway how's your tita today? Did she finally find a job or remain a tambay?

  36. I am genuinely glad that I stumbled upon this post. I am happy that your heart is with Lolo Teng. We join you in celebrating him as a good father.

  37. Hellooo sorry just like what I mentioned in my early replies on this post, I'm really bad at summing up my age :( I turned 15 when I was freshman in college :) Sorry I was not able to explain it in detail as I was trying to keep the "tone" and stay in topic of my discussion :'( And again I attended school a bit early than the typical age

  38. Greatest example of "youll never get something you never had, if you are not willing to do something you never did".

  39. Honestly, mas naawa lang ako dun sa bata kesa sa struggles nung parents niya. It wasnt planned, it wasnt in the budget, even his parents (your tita and his husband) cant take care of themselves.

  40. Nakakagigil yung ganyang kabobohan! ISANG BUHAY na naman ang masisira dahil sa kabobohan ng magulang nilang di nagiisip! Putangina talaga na panay pasarap kasi di nagiisip ng consequences.

  41. Hayz i remember that almost similar reply from my kb when she went home for vacation. I jokingly told her baka mabuntis ka na naman. Sabi nya ma’m may asawa naman ako. And yes buntis nga sya pag-uwi. Have to resign after 4 months. In the last 5 years several times humingi ng tulong🙄🙄🙄

  42. I really admire your maturity. You are really raised well by your parents. Truly, Ang ibang mas nakakabata ngayon Ang dapat nagtuturo sa mas nakakatanda.

  43. Galing mo magsulat, I can feel the emotions. As for your tita, I pray for her maturity, for her, and her kid’s sake. As for you, you do you as long as you're happy. Btw, try writing more, you’re good at it.

  44. Bukod sa good storytelling, kudos to you for sharing this and the releasing all of the pent-up anger. Grabe ginawa kang dumpster ni ateng ng trauma niya. You deserve better op, i hope you don't feel guilty if your relationship with her becomes more distant, it just means you grown so much more in life than her. You shouldn't be her dumspter, it would totally affect your mental health if her dumping on you continues.

  45. Long read but I really enjoyed it. As a pioneer of K-12 program, nakakainggit na graduate ka na ng college by 18-20 years old. I'm 22 and still studying 😭

  46. Wait shet 14, freshman in college?? Wait sorry ayun yung take away ko ha. Hahahahahaha pero did you really go to college at 14????? Got damn. You hella brainy.

  47. Hello I explained this already in the comments. Sorry if I was not able to explain it dun sa post, I technically turned 15 that time. I graduated at 19 :) And I'm not "smart" po maaga lang ako pinag aral 🥲

  48. high maintenance tita mo na hindi afford ang pagka high maintenance. dahil sa may itsura ata siya? tama? magiging collector lang yan ng anak sa ibat ibang tatay hanggang sa meroong mayaman na makaka tanggap sakanya which is highly unlikely.

  49. Ang ganda nung story at feeling ko kinakain ako ng kaba at takot habang nagbabasa kasi 27 na ako at surprise yung pregnancy. Very vocal ako na ayaw ko mag anak but here I am. Shit happens.. Goodluck to your tita. Wag mo istressin sarili mo sa kanya. Hehe

  50. Naaalala ko pinsan ko. Di naman sya tanga, pero bakit parang ayaw nya ayusin buhay nya. Gusto nya rin gumanda buhay nya pero pag nahihirapan sya sa trabaho, eh umaalis sya. d Hindi naman ako nag-kulang sa mga payo ko since parang kapatid na turing ko sa kanya at mas matanda ako ng 2 years. Ewan ko ba. Hahays

  51. Your tita reminded me of my cousin, such ungrateful brats. The difference is yung grandparents namin yung tinake advantage ng pinsan ko since namatay na yung tita ko and yung dad nya ay nasa ibang probinsya na nakatira. Lolo't lola namin yung nagpalaki sa kanya at nagpaaral to the point na sinanla nila yung bahay at lupa mapagaral lang sya. Pero guess what she did after graduating and nakapagwork na? Kinuha nya yung atm na pinaglalagyan ng pension ng grandparents namin then she used it to buy her wants and live luxuriously sa Manila while yung lolo't lola namin sa probinsya nagpapakahirap magbayad ng utang at makakain araw-araw(btw nagbibigay yung mom ko ng allowance nila lolo monthly knowing na yung pension yung pinapambayad sa utang para di mawalan ng bahay sila lolo). She even posts sa fb about her travels and luho tas yun pala hinuthut nya yung pension ng mga matatanda. Kahit di na sya magbigay kila lolo okay lang eh, pero tangina ninakawan pa nya? Even nung reunion namin sa kanya inabot yung pamasko para sa kapatid nyang bunso since di nakapunta, nabalitaan namin never pala nya binigay sa kapatid nya. At sobrang bait kase ng grandparents namin kaya hinayaan sya. And now we're all better dahil we cut contact with her after getting the atm card back. Kaya kung ako sayo OP cut contact ka nalang sa tita mo, wag mo saluhin ng saluhin yung trauma and complaints nya. 28 na siya diba? Tell her to get her shit together and start acting like her fucking age.

  52. I felt your rage sa post mo, OP. Very well written, I wish I could express my feelings like how you’ve written this masterpiece. Feeling ko tuloy ako ‘yung may tita na ganyan.. gigil din ako.. hahaha

  53. 15k 💀 sobrang lala, sana lumaking maayos yung anak. i cant believe the woman thinks a cashier's job isn't worth shit when she literally got no savings oh mygoodness

  54. i dont understand this concept na kapag 25 plus ka na kailangan mo na mag kaanak? para bang ginawang essential ng mga kamaganakan mo yung kailangan magkaroon ng anak regardless of your life status. nakakainis pa yung mga ganitong tao na magsasabi "nagawa nga namin, kayo pa kaya?"

  55. Not a fan of reading long posts here sa sub na ito. But this one kept me interested until the end. Naiimagine ko nga scenarios sa kwento mo. OP, kudos to your story telling skills!

  56. Nakakainis, sobrang insensitive at immature niyang tita mo ang tanda-tanda na, sorry for the word, may soft spot talaga ako sa mga parents since galing din ako sa mahirap na pamilya kaya bawat desisyon ko iniisip ko kung maapektuhan ba sila or what...hayy wish her all the best nalang...

  57. The way you weaved this story was masterful. Although I’m left shaking my head at the decisions your tita has made… I’m quite delighted at your ability to write a coherent narrative.

  58. God damn, good read. I also have a cousin like this. When i was 19, she got knocked up at 28 by a guy at work. Turns out, the guy's mom owed a relative >50k-ish. Cousin didnt even notify our relative. So ayun, kantot kalimot si accla just like the 3 girls before her. Oh well.

  59. You can no longer have babies after you pass a certain age or have difficulty. Take it as a gentle concern and reminder, not as nagging.

  60. Hello! I am aware that women, at a certain age may have difficulties with getting pregnant or with pregnancy in general. I however do not support the idea to just randomly decide that just because of your age you're now "justified" to get pregnant. In this particular post, my "tita" didn't have a job, (she still doesn't have any until now), she's only been dating the guy for 3 months when she got pregnant. He's earning minimum wage with a whopping 15k in his bank (at that time she got pregnant). Their families paid for both the wedding, her medical bills when she gave birth, and even the Christening of the child which just happened a few months ago. I respect your opinion, this is just my take on "this" particular scenario :)

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