LPT: If you're new to a neighborhood, make a point to regularly go for walks. The more people see you around, the more likely they'll strike up a conversation with you or you'll feel more confident to strike up a conversation if you've seen them several times during your walks

  1. I try to get a walk in at least a few times per week and I now have a bunch of "walk friends", with whom I've never talked, but always greeted. It feels good, especially on a bad day :)

  2. I like that about these people. If you have a set routine, you often see the same people also going about their set routines. You greet each other politely, and feel a certain comfort seeing the same people over and over.

  3. Same thing for me! I've been trying to do 3 15 minute walks a day since the COVID and I live in a neighborhood with no through roads, so even just a brief wave to people driving their cars and it seems like everyone recognizes me by sight at least now.

  4. Every time I move somewhere, I buy both of my neighbors a little $50ish gift basket with a note saying that I’m so happy to be their new neighbors and to let me know if they ever need anything and leave my cell number.

  5. Even if you don't want to talk to people (I don't either) it's not a bad idea to be seen regularly by neighbors. Maybe one day you'll need help or something. Being a part of a community does not necessarily mean you have to get involved that heavily.

  6. Headphones. It’s the key to happiness. Source: myself, currently wearing headphones in the office, so that no one will talk to me 👍🏻

  7. Haha for real. I'm down for walks to show my face around the neighborhood, but I am NEVER going on a walk because I wanna talk to someone.

  8. I walk my dogs every evening at the same time and say good evening to every neighbor I pass. After almost 3 years, I still get the side eye or just ignored by most people. It was the same in my last neighborhood.

  9. This really comes down to the city you live in and luck of the draw. We lived in a Boston suburb previously and while it was not unfriendly, we just didn't get to know a lot of neighbors.

  10. I've found its a city vs rural thing, I grew up in the country and you end up knowing most of the village whether you want to or not. But whenever I've lived in the city I know my direct neighbours, the postman, the guy who runs the local shop and thats it.

  11. I lived in Brooklyn and no one would ever say anything to me (not that I expected it) but now that I live in the country, I can’t go out without someone saying hello. I love it.

  12. It depends where you live. Suburbs or major cities tend to be like that. In small towns in Canada, random people always wake, smile and say hi to me unprompted. Never happens in Toronto though.

  13. I am in the UK where this is pretty normal but still there are a few neighbours who do want to engage, you can see it fairly early on. I know a handful of people near me but others I never see. Also once the seal is broken as it were, say you need to talk to them about a tree falling down or a car alarm going off or whatever, then introductions can get made. If they obviously don't want to even acknowledge you, just move on. I think saying hello without a response for three years may make them look at you weird!

  14. I live in West Virginia and I have and my neighbors have went over to welcome new neighbors out wives even baked cookies or pies or something light as a welcome. I routinely attempt to speak with neighbors when I see them out if only a quick hey man beautiful day or something.

  15. Lol same here. Most people act annoyed if I even make eye contact so I just look straight ahead or wear shades. If I tried to make conversations on my neighborhood walks they'd think I was crazy. I just keep to myself since 9 times out of 10 I'll get the stink eye for even acknowledging other people who are out.

  16. Yeah it’s the opposite in my neighborhood in FL. I know most of my neighbors on my block and at least a dozen more, a lot of neighbors hang out weekly, but there’s the couple people like the enormous guy who never mows his lawn and walks his poor dog twice a year who I don’t think has met anybody in 5 years.

  17. I went to Europe a couple times about 10 years back. Neighbors and strangers alike thought it strange to strike up a conversation. It was paradise. The USA should learn from Europe.

  18. Where are you from. I am as extroverted as they come. Noone wants to talk with strangers. I still try but even in settings where it shouldn't be strange to talk with people (neighbours, sports courses) without exchanging more than a few words I feel they want to be left alone usually

  19. I used to be this way. As I've gotten older I've come to see the value in knowing your neighbors even just so that someone could potentially spot suspicious behavior happening at your place.

  20. that sucks. I've made 2 good friends who are neighbors of mine. 1 I met as she walked her dog, another I met bc she lives upstairs from me. Both of these women have helped me and my family out and vice versa. My next door neighbor got my kids stolen scooters back while the thieves were riding them🙂.

  21. I just started biking my neighborhood 2-3 times a day. I have seen more and more people and they get friendlier and friendlier. Starting to have to stop on my ride to chat. Pretty neat.

  22. This is underrated LPT, and your comment as well. It's amazing how much you can observe and learn about a place being on foot or on a bike (even a motorcycle, to a lesser extent) vs. being in a car.

  23. I moved to this neighborhood in 2020... In November 2021 I got news that I had to fix some health issues so I started doing 10 loops of our street (4km total distance) every day on 99% of days. The amount of nice people I've met is very great, and the 40lbs I've lost is even more great. (I also cut back my food consumption slightly)

  24. I don't even want to talk to the people living in the same house as me, what kind of animal talks to his neighbors lol.

  25. For real. I've got a neighbor a man who is a social parasite. He literally waits in his house (lights off at night) and will pop out when you pull into your driveway. Knocks on the door to see what you're up to without being invited over. If he gets you he'll latch on telling tall tales of his military years and drunkenly brag about his semi-automatic weapons and how he "cleaned up the neighborhood". He means he harassed and called the cops on several black people living next door to him. They moved.

  26. Lol, that's fair. Then you definitely can avoid them. I think being able to recognize some neighbors and be friendly with them can make it easier to feel more connected to a new place/neighborhood

  27. I’ve experienced the friendly neighbourhood experience in past year . Lots of stray kitties in my area and i started bringing food & water. They come running when they see me & the locals who walk dogs etc now ask where i’ve been if they haven’t seen me for a bit ( i travel a lot ). Been a great experience and just about all of them are locals so speaking Greek with me just managing some communication as a non greek speaker. Lived in area for 12 years but it was covid lockdown / cats that broke the ice

  28. This tip seems to be about 25 years old. Everyone is a shut in weirdo these days who barely make eye contact let alone strike up a conversation.

  29. Please be careful doing this if you're a woman. My neighbor is a fuckin creep who I avoid at all costs.

  30. Absolutely true. My work schedule combined with my very hyper dog means that (especially this time of year) I’m doing two 2-ish mile walks a day in the dark. I very consciously randomize my walks (and usually about once a week drive out of the neighborhood to walk to mix things up a bit). I had a few scares decades ago that really reinforced this.

  31. Yeah, it can depend on the culture, the people who make up the neighborhood, and the location. The covid pandemic sure hasn't helped either

  32. I walk my dog all the time and I hate how many neighbors stop me so now I do it while wearing headphones. They still try to stop me but I point to them and keep walking.

  33. I’ve seen too many serial killer documentaries… That’s how they learn your routine! 👀 Throw a curveball by locking yourself indoors with all the blinds closed for 11 days straight to be safe.

  34. My wife and I go for walks in the evening. There have been times we’ve seen one or two other people also walking around. Most of the time, unless we initiate a “Hi!”, they make no eye contact. One evening, we drove about 1/4 mile to the east side of town and got out and started our walk there. We got so much more interaction, and it didn’t feel forced. Weird town here on Long Island.

  35. That’s the worst, when u are walking your dog and some guy walking his dog seeing u just stops and waits for you… i change direction immediately.

  36. Hell to the no... the first thing that will happen is that I'll get the attention of a needy neighbor, a pesky neighbor and a freaking Karen. And I'll be even lucky enough to where they are all the same person.

  37. Why would I want people to strike up a conversation with me or try to get to know me? This seems better suited for

  38. I just moved to a new neighborhood and can confirm, everyone is always out and about talking to each other on the street. It’s great.

  39. This is good to do even if you don't want to talk to anyone. This way you can see who the neighbors are and they can see you be part of their neighborhood. They are more likely to help you in the future should a need arise, and less likely to call the cops on you for looking suspcious, and more likely to know someone other than you is peeping through your windows.

  40. True. Also, get a dog. I know the names of most neighborhood dogs but not the owners! Even though we all stop to chat when our dogs meet each other on walks.

  41. I see some people saying they don't want people to talk to them. That may be your desire. But one advantage of a neighbourhood is a network of support. I've been active in every neighbourhood I've been in and it works.

  42. This works in the netherlands. I just moved and the first time i got there my neighbour walked out to chat to me.

  43. Why do you have to be new to a neighborhood for this LPT? Shouldn’t it just be: go for walks, see and be seen?

  44. But how would you feel if they just randomly knocked at your door to get to know you? It feels a bit more intrusive than being out for a walk imo

  45. I've been in this apartment for 9 months. I walk my dog 4 times a day. I've met the lady who collects bottles and cans for refunds, and a guy who works at an auto parts store who likes to give me dog treats...

  46. I’ve lived in my home for 7yrs now and have never talked to one of my neighbors. I park in the garage, my door is closed before I leave the car. If I see someone walking the the mailbox when I am I awkwardly go back inside.

  47. This is so true. We've lived here for seven years and we knew no one other than our directly adjacent neighbors. I started walking daily while I was pregnant with our now almost-two-year-old. Healing time after birth and really frigid or sweltering days aside, we walk rain or shine. Everyone knows us, we know everyone. We've made some really nice friends along the way. :)

  48. My son is disabled & part of his daily routine with his nurses is a neighborhood walk in his wheelchair. He gets a surprising amount of attention from strangers & has gotten compliments & gifts (although I don't keep the gifts from strangers). When he was going to school we would wait outside for the bus in the mornings & several of the morning joggers & dog walkers always made a point to wave at him & learn his name to say hello. I like it.

  49. Yes! I'm new to Calgary and I walk about three times a day. It's great for meeting people. Doesn't hurt that I have a dog!

  50. We've been in a nice, friendly neighborhood for 5 years. We go on walks, but mostly would just exchange nods or "hi, good morning/evening".

  51. The first year of pandemic. I often took my barely 2 years old daughter walked around the neighborhood. She is totally not shy and always introduced herself to other people (without asking others names). So most of the entire neighborhood knows me as her name's dad instead of my name lol

  52. Also, when you move into a neighborhood, or even better, before, go to nsopw.gov and look at the local sex offender registry. Just moved into a new house and a few doors down lives a sex offender who caught a felony for sexual assault on an 8 year old girl. The more you know!

  53. LPT: if you're new to a neighborhood and don't want to meet people. Don't go out on needless walks and keep yourself to yourself.

  54. We live in a city & know almost all of the neighbours on our block. We’re really friendly with 4 of them & acquainted with the rest. Hell, 2 of our neighbours flew from Canada to Ireland for our wedding!

  55. I still stick to tradition and knock on doors to introduce myself. They find that far more respectable and warming. One guy have me a six pack of beers to welcome be to the neighborhood. Another offered me a fishing trip with his buddies. All within the first two weeks of moving in.

  56. I live in a multi-family home. We when we moved, we would sit outside on the porch stairs and let the kids play. Great way to spend summer evenings! Got to meet our neighbors who ended up being really friendly and allowed for the kids to meet each other

  57. This is being quite presumptuous about the amount of conversations with neighbors that i care to have; but it is a nice thought.

  58. Even if you’re not a social person this tip is good for your life because when you know you’re neighbors, you are safer.

  59. My dog is the reason I know almost everyone in my neighborhood that I do. If it wasn’t for walking that floofy girl I wouldn’t have met all my nice neighbors.

  60. One of my neighbors has a big floofy dog and I introduced myself to them because I thought their dog was so cute. Got to meet a whole bunch of other people because of it

  61. Or you can be more like my new neighbor who moved in 2 weeks ago. So far we have played golf 3 times, I’ve met everyone in his family who came to help him move in, gone to 2 parties he has thrown and 2 impromptu drink sessions and for whatever reason he jumped the fence at 2 am into my pool in his underwear. I can’t wait to see what happens next week.

  62. Appreciate the tip. Everytime we've moved into a new neighbourhood, we introduce ourselves to our immediate neighbours. We tend to send out Christmas cards to our street and also give out treats when it's Eid or Ramadan

  63. That's fair take. I think some people though struggle with getting to know people in a new neighborhood and would actually like to, even on just a friendly acquaintance level basis..which is basically like business associates, sort of

  64. I like the intent of this advice but I have lived in several different rural and urban environments and none have happened well. I live in St Louis now and honestly going for a jog in most neighborhoods is a risk of being shot, being robbed, being hit by a car or all three at once.

  65. Some people like social interactions. Judging by all the miserable lonely folks on this website, I think quite a few could use more social interaction in their lives

  66. This doesn’t work if you’re in a white neighborhood and you’re aren’t white. Most of them will make the best effort to avoid eye contact.

  67. Is OP a child or just naive toward people's general willingness to talk to people walking around the neighborhood?

  68. Neither. YMMV with this tip. We all have different perceptions of what we think other people are like based on our learned experiences. I find that the energy you put out is the energy you receive.

  69. I’ve been in my neighborhood for over half a decade and I walk everywhere. Nobody’s ever spoken to me. Is it because I’m black? 🤔

  70. Can I get the opposite tip? Anytime I’m anywhere close to my front yard, I get stopped by 87 neighbors walking by to stop and chat.

  71. My neighbors move away too fast to even make an effort. Plus at least half or more are rentals so again short term. Plus the longer term ones are christofascist or militia types.

  72. Nah. I've lived in a neighbourhood where people "keep themselves to themselves" for the past 11 years. I still don't know anyone. Even the next door neighbour doesn't know my name despite me reminding her a bunch of times. She also forgot to tell me her husband had died.

  73. Related, if you really want to meet your neighbors, set up a chair and sit out on your front lawn/driveway (this is probably less awkward if there is at least one other person with you, so invite a friend if you don't have someone else who lives there). This gives you a much larger window of time when neighbors might cross your path, and makes it clearer that you're open to socializing.

  74. I do it for other reasons. If you're a brown person in an affluent neighborhood like me, the less likely they'll call the cops on you for pathetic reasons.

  75. Hahah no....I live in what some may call "the hood". People are nice, once they see you're not an asshole. we live in a multicultural neighborhood and everyone gets along. There's probably 2 white families, the rest are Puerto Rican & Black, and Latino.

  76. Note: Caution is advised when walking while black in a new neighbourhood. Your neighbours might call the cops.

  77. Who the fuck Talks to Strangers, Just because the Life in the Sam 5 km Radius. And why would I want that to Happen to me. Or why would they Not think that i am a lunatic or bum when i try to start talking to them on the street. People on the street normally have places to get to and No time or mind for conversation, also, Strangers.

  78. Unless you are a person of color. Being new to a neighborhood and "walking around" could be problematic, ending up with a visit from the police during your walk. Remember the guy who got arrested while watering his neighbor's flowers?

  79. Tip Addendum: this also helps with meeting single people. Pretty guy/girl has seen you a number of time over two months (long enough to see you’re not just passing through) and that the barista/bartender knows you (because you tip well) and that you’re exchanging names with the postman… that stuff shows social survival skills!

  80. Great, thanks for another fucking mental hurdle I have to jump before I get some exercise. "People will be more likely to strike up a conversation if you've seen them during walks" is like the last thing I want to happen while walking alone.

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