It's sad that alot of ppl don't understand this. Thanks for pointing this out I was shoved into a situation I wasn't comfortable in bc the person I was with didn't understand thie.
Communication is 90% of it all. If you and your partner are not communicating on what each other like and being honest. The sex will never be as good as it could be. Communicate!
Guys, women donāt actually need you to last forever in terms of penetration- thatās the least stimulating part of sex for many women. Use that time in the front end for foreplay. If you can get her excited enough and keep some kind of clit stimulation going, she might actually cum quickly from penetration
True. Also, if you both just keep laughing your butts off - it's okay to stop and try again later. Watch an episode of your favorite show together, cuddle, talk, whatever. If it's late, maybe even go to bed and if you're comfortable with it, have some lazy morning sex. Sex is something enjoyable, not a high performance sport.
If you're a couple who has saved sex until marriage (like a lot of people still do - im not judging), a great way to get over the wedding night jitters would be to shower together. You get used to seeing each other naked. You get more comfortable with being together in such an intimate and vulnerable way without getting overly sexual. You get used to each other's touch. You relieve a lot of stress. You get cleaned up. You get mentally prepared for what's to come (lol).
My husband did this for me. Can confirm - helped a lot to get over my fear and nerves. He was so sweet and the whole shower just spent rubbing me down and kissing me and touching me gently. The sex was awesome. Really thankful he made my first time memorable in a good way.
Always move stuff from the bed that is a pain in the ass to wash. Iāve ruined the mood before not wanting to wash and dry a king size comforter that was washed recently.
On my honeymoon my husband ordered mango habanero wings that were VERY saucy, he didn't wash under his thumb nail enough. I spent the night in the shower with the shower head at my crotch set to ice cold water.
After having kids, baby wipes are a staple by our bed next to the tissues. Baby wipes are one of the most useful things I discovered to be carrying around.
The #1 weirdest part of all pornography is just how dry it looks. Some dude whips out his thunderous cock and the chick is like āyeah daddy, give it to me!ā while rubbing her pussy which is drier than the Mojave. At this point I am usually concerned, but then, with all the awareness of a troglodyte, the dude will inevitably just jam it in dry over my protesting screams and the chick gets to pretend like its the best thing ever while smiling away the smell of cooked meat emanating from her ferociously rugburned pussy.
This! So many people don't understand the point of lube. And not everyone produces enough lubrication naturally, especially anyone on meds like antidepressants. Even if you think you are wet enough, lube would make it so much better.
I know itās irrational and stupid but I feel like a failure when Iām not wet enough. It doesnāt matter how into the moment I am, I feel like Iām letting my bf down by not showing it enough or something and heāll think Iām a liar when I say it feels good ugh
When she says/yells "Oh yes! Keep going", "I like that, I like that", "right there, yes", or some variation of that, she doesn't mean for you to: thrust harder, faster, sucking harder, or whatever. Do not become a fleshy jack hammer all of a sudden. She means for you to keep doing exactly what you're doing! You've established a rhythm, things are working, just maintain until you get a signal.
I remember seeing something around 10 years ago that said 20-30% of women orgasm from PiV sex. With 20 minutes of good foreplay that number jumps to around 70+%. Wish I could find the specific study but can't, it's just shitty Cosmo articles. But pretty sure it was something from the Kinsey Institute.
Never noticed any benefits from psychiatric meds doctors tried on me, but I did notice side effects like difficulty orgasming. A few of the meds made it so it could take hours to orgasm. Not fun, especially if taking care of things alone
It's nothing like porn. It's awkward, a lot of "famous" positions can be uncomfortable, some people are really quiet. Beds are squeaky. Animals will jump up on the bed. There will be weird smells and sounds. Laughing is okay.
Could you explain this a little better if youāre comfortable please. Iām a virgin but Iād also like to not be completely horrible for my first time so knowledge is always useful
Itās not as clean as they show in movies/shows. You donāt go from having sex to getting up, putting on a skirt with no underwear and getting back to the office. If I did that, Iād be leaving a cum trace like a slutty snail
Between lube, sweat, and cum, both people are going be sticky south of the border. Peeing after sex helps prevent UTIs, and is a good time for a quick wipe and tidy up.
Right?! For the longest time when I was younger, I was "jealous" of women that could just jump up and slip back into their thong and negligee without any wet, sticky mess afterwards. Until I realized those women don't exist, lol.
It's always the washcloth thrown towards me, to wipe up, then tossing it back at them to clean themselves up. Noting that we need to wash the sheets soon. Laying beside each other and maybe holding hands but not too cuddly cause one of us is probably sweating, and it's fucking hot in the room. Click on the fan to cool off for a moment, then it's the walk to the bathroom to pee and hit myself with the bidet. Then wash hands and swig some mouthwash. Fix the sex hair, probably reapply some deodorant and body spray. Then back to the bedroom to either cuddle a bit more or get dressed.
Intimacy isn't getting naked. It can include being naked and appreciating the nuisances of their body and being made to feel comfortable in your own skin. Its also holding hands, being close and comfortable silences
Foreplay. Don't be afraid to use too much lube. If you know you cum fast finish her first, that way you're both satisfied. If you don't know what to do, ask. It can be awkward. Sometimes you laugh. If it hurts, TELL THEM. Pee before and after sex. (!!!!!!) Penetration isn't the only thing to do. When she says harder, if doesn't mean faster, it means what they're saying. Thrust harder. Toys don't mean you're bad, they make things more fun.
Just because your last partner liked how you did it, your next maybe won't. All women, and all men, are different. Many of us men think we are good at licking pussy, that we have found the secret of making women cum. You have, if you understand that everyone is different. If you are doing the same on everyone, which most men do, the chances are, you are shit at licking pussy.
I've heard about eating pussy "Start like a kitten drinking milk and finish like a bulldog eating oatmeal." It's also not universal, but it has served me well.
Pro tip from your local neighborhood lesbian: hold her hand or have her hold your head or something while you go down on her. If she squeezes, keep doing what you're doing.
It doesn't have to be serious. You can be playfully and have dumb conversations during. You should be comfortable with your partner and not be worried about wether or not they think youre doing it right or youre putting in enough effort or if you're stomach looks fat on that position. With my ex sex was all about sex and that's it. 9 times out of 10 he would wake me up in the middle of the night and I was half awake. And we'd just do it to get it done. At least that's how I felt. With my curent guy we can start and mid way through bust out laughing or have dumb conversations during. We're just comfortable with eachother on a level I never thought I'd be with anyone.
Low libido it's not a bad thing, especially if you're a guy, the stereotype that men are always horny and sex obsessed it's not true, and it can be harmful.
For menā¦ slooooooowww lingering thrusts in and out may not do much for you, but itās fucking AMAZING for women. Itās not always about in and out as hard and fast as you can. Iāve only had a few men fuck me this way and they are easily the best Iāve ever had.
Queefs happen. If she laughs you can laugh. If sheās embarrassed ignore. Under no circumstances is it an ok reason to be disgusted. Please do not make her feel self conscious about it.
One of my exes looked at me weird and disgusted the first time this happened. I said āwell YOU put all the air in there, youāre going to have to live with this if you want sexāā¦? Like buddy it doesnāt happen on its own.
My partner loves queefs! He actively tries to make them happen, apparently they turn him on. In the beginning (and with other partners) I laughed at the occasional queefs and a little embarrassingly said that air must have gotten in there. So you can imagine my surprise when this guy was all "I love those! Let's see if I can make it happen again!"
WHEN A GIRL SAYS YOU NEED TO GO SLOW WHEN PUTTING IT IN THAT IT DOESNT MEAN SLOWLY PUSH IN IT MEANS SLOWLY GO BACK AND FORTH AND GET THE WHOLE THING WET AND GIVE THE VAGINA TIME TO ADJUST.
Ohhhh yes this is fuckıng GOLDEN. It applies to just about everything (from touches, to kisses, oral, vaginal, anal). if a guy starts with a controlled tease of sorts I'll be drenched before my panties ever come off.
It is SUPER easy to get pregnant. You can risk it by raw dawging it and pulling out... but all it takes literally one slip up and you got a baby on the way.
I can confirm. I thought I was in the clear, having just gotten off the pill and just having my period. Howeverrrā¦one little guy managed to hang on for dear life for 5 DAYS before eventually finding himself an egg to party with.
Condom sizes actually matter. Men with bigger members have a horrible time with normal sized ones, it can partially cut off circulation, has a higher chance of breakage, and will make the experience overall less satisfying.
This is so true. It was my wife, girlfriend then, that told me I was using the wrong size. I thought that it was just one size fits all and had really disliked condoms. I always struggled to get it on, total passion killer, and Iād lose any pleasant sensations. We went to our local Boots (UK pharmacy chain) and spent a small fortune buying different brands, sizes and materials then had fun (and frustrations as well) trying them all out. It made a huge difference. Night and day. Note to guys, measure your girth, tape measure at the ready, around your dick. Not just the length.
And donāt speed up! It doesnāt mean do it faster. It means that rhythm, that pressure, that whatever is exactly right. Do it like clockwork til she goes off unless she SAYS āharderā or āfasterā
Please wash your hands before sticking them inside someone, and if your nails are long, DO NOT clip your nails beforehand, do it after. Long nails inside you might be uncomfortable as hell, but itās NOTHING compared to freshly cut nails inside you.
Women can smell your dick odors. Be clean. Men can smell pussy odors even when doing doggy. Be clean. Also, if you cum inside, when you pull out afterwards, it can be messy and queefs are real.
It can be messy. Make sure you have some kind of towels or wipes ready when not having a condom. Also shower sex can suck as you can be kinda cold doing it partially outside of the shower stream but your partner is nice and warm under it. Also clean yourself before engaging in sexual activities. If you didnāt plan on it, excuse yourself to the bathroom and clean up again.
if you are a straight man, take care of your lady. sex where she comes too is not a special occasion, itās the standard. if you wouldnāt be happy stopping before you finish, donāt make your partner do the same thing. and penetration is not the only way (usually not even the best way)
My flatmate brought a "friend " home one night and I could hear them getting jiggy. Then a strange krr- chet sound. Silence. Then sex banging noises .... but different. In the morning I found out their vigorous lovemaking had broken the bed!
I guess I'll say #1 would be just how different it is to have sex with different people. We make broad generalizations when we talk about sex - which is kind of just a result of limited communication, but it's still something to note.
Sex isnāt love and love isnāt sex. That took me 25 years to figure out. Also , fellas, thereās no shame in not knowing where the hole is. Donāt be a fool and grind your dong on her vulva expecting it to just slide in anywhere, sheāll touch jr and guide it into where it needs to be and that in and of itself is hot.
Iām really ashamed by this because Iāve been married for 13 years, but I thought when movies/shows said ālet me go freshen upā before sex it was to check your makeup/hair/outfit/BO smell.
If you repeatedly trigger someone's gag reflex, there is a chance that they will puke, don't be a jerk if it happens. If someone is repeatedly agitating your gag reflex and you're worried about puking, play it safe and tell them to stop. Same goes for the other end and all that entails.
If she says "don't stop" or "just like that" we literally mean exactly as you are doing it in that very moment. Don't go faster, or slower, or harder, or softer. (That said, sometimes them saying that can suddenly make your brain go "zap" and your hands or penis forget how to function because the pressures suddenly on, which is totally understandable) still a good rule of thumb, though.
If your partner requests to include a toy, donāt take it personally. I can orgasm with good foreplay and penetrative sex, but if I can include a vibe during penetration, my orgasm is 100x more intense, which is nice. Itās not an insult, itās something that helps make sex more enjoyable. Of course some people are really uncomfortable with toys (usually due to lack of knowledge about them) which is why communication and kind teaching in bed does wonders. Just, talk about your turn ons with your partners, thatās how you make sure everyone gets off.
Sex is a contest to find out who can get the other person off the best. The loser wins. So with that being said, you shouldnt be losing all the time (By getting your partner off better or first or whatever) Your partner should be doing you right too . If its all one way, it will just get worse and worse until neither party is happy.
Men have insecurities too and are allowed to withdraw consent without being emotionally blackmailed.
It's sad that alot of ppl don't understand this. Thanks for pointing this out I was shoved into a situation I wasn't comfortable in bc the person I was with didn't understand thie.
Communication is 90% of it all. If you and your partner are not communicating on what each other like and being honest. The sex will never be as good as it could be. Communicate!
If you're communication outside of the bedroom is good, the sex can be amazing
A long time isn't always good š
Here for a good time, not a long time.
Guys, women donāt actually need you to last forever in terms of penetration- thatās the least stimulating part of sex for many women. Use that time in the front end for foreplay. If you can get her excited enough and keep some kind of clit stimulation going, she might actually cum quickly from penetration
You just get chafed after a while
There are lots of funny/awkward sounds and moments. It's okay to laugh and joke about it in the moment
I always remember someone's answer on a thread like this that was: "it's ok to laugh, but point and laugh not so much"
True. Also, if you both just keep laughing your butts off - it's okay to stop and try again later. Watch an episode of your favorite show together, cuddle, talk, whatever. If it's late, maybe even go to bed and if you're comfortable with it, have some lazy morning sex. Sex is something enjoyable, not a high performance sport.
If you knock on the back door. Dont be surprised to find someone home.
Fucking A. Just because the door is open doesnāt mean you are invited in.
Donāt be afraid to ask what your partner wants.
By "using your mouth more", you're referring to the part where you shout encouraging platitudes at her vagina to make her cum faster, right?
Absolutely misread this as āAlso use your mouth WHORE!ā
If you're a couple who has saved sex until marriage (like a lot of people still do - im not judging), a great way to get over the wedding night jitters would be to shower together. You get used to seeing each other naked. You get more comfortable with being together in such an intimate and vulnerable way without getting overly sexual. You get used to each other's touch. You relieve a lot of stress. You get cleaned up. You get mentally prepared for what's to come (lol).
My husband did this for me. Can confirm - helped a lot to get over my fear and nerves. He was so sweet and the whole shower just spent rubbing me down and kissing me and touching me gently. The sex was awesome. Really thankful he made my first time memorable in a good way.
Always move stuff from the bed that is a pain in the ass to wash. Iāve ruined the mood before not wanting to wash and dry a king size comforter that was washed recently.
Hijacking this to addā¦towel.
WASH YOUR HANDS
I like to dip them in spicy oil before starting
On my honeymoon my husband ordered mango habanero wings that were VERY saucy, he didn't wash under his thumb nail enough. I spent the night in the shower with the shower head at my crotch set to ice cold water.
Also trim your nails š
Your hands, your ass, your entire downstairs, your feet. Just be clean. Donāt stank. Unless your partner is into that.
If u got a curve, work with it not against it.
Women's vaginas can be curved as well!
Learnt that in my late 30s. A slight turn of her hips and Iāve hit the spot
Mine is so curved doggy hurts like hell. I'll do it if she wants but not happily.
You have to clean up afterwards
Just to clarify this, because I went a long way through my life without ever knowing:
Girls should pee afterwards - save yourself a UTI.
The Love towel should be handy.
Post sex shower isnāt a bad idea.
After having kids, baby wipes are a staple by our bed next to the tissues. Baby wipes are one of the most useful things I discovered to be carrying around.
Harder and faster, not the same thing.
But dear gawd, when they're close to orgasm, do the same thing that's working! Not something else.
Work it harder, make it better Do it faster, makes us stronger More than ever, hour after hour Work is never over
Everyone has different needs and desires and just because you're satisfied doesn't mean they are
I'm so glad my brain is so simple; I see her enjoying, I get turned on. Simple mathematics really.
It creates an inflated and sometimes artificial sense of attachment
Ohh, this is a good one. Whenever my friend has had a godawful partner with no upsides to them at all I always assume the sex is good lol.
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Oh nooooooo. I feel so called out.
Oxytocin!
One could argue the inverse, that if you don't want to get attached to someone, don't fuck them.
This needs to be taught in sex ed.
On the other hand post nut clarity can really bring about the coyote ugly syndrome in a hurry.
Make sure youāve freshened up. Nothing is as gross as a dirty b-hole
Wash your fucking balls too. I once was told I had the cleanest dick sheād ever been near and Iāve carried that with me forever.
Courtesy wipe
If it's dry there is a VERY high chance of something tearing. Or splitting. Or ripping. Or snapping.
The #1 weirdest part of all pornography is just how dry it looks. Some dude whips out his thunderous cock and the chick is like āyeah daddy, give it to me!ā while rubbing her pussy which is drier than the Mojave. At this point I am usually concerned, but then, with all the awareness of a troglodyte, the dude will inevitably just jam it in dry over my protesting screams and the chick gets to pretend like its the best thing ever while smiling away the smell of cooked meat emanating from her ferociously rugburned pussy.
This! So many people don't understand the point of lube. And not everyone produces enough lubrication naturally, especially anyone on meds like antidepressants. Even if you think you are wet enough, lube would make it so much better.
Yeah, I will not let anyone put their penis in me without lube. It's a must have.
I know itās irrational and stupid but I feel like a failure when Iām not wet enough. It doesnāt matter how into the moment I am, I feel like Iām letting my bf down by not showing it enough or something and heāll think Iām a liar when I say it feels good ugh
Communication is critical.
When she says/yells "Oh yes! Keep going", "I like that, I like that", "right there, yes", or some variation of that, she doesn't mean for you to: thrust harder, faster, sucking harder, or whatever. Do not become a fleshy jack hammer all of a sudden. She means for you to keep doing exactly what you're doing! You've established a rhythm, things are working, just maintain until you get a signal.
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Take a shower. Wash your hands. Brush your teeth. Trim your fingernails
Scrub your ass-crack.
Yes!! Please trim your nails before sticking them inside someone
Washing šyour šhands š
The importance of foreplay.
If you do it right, it's 70% foreplay and 30% actual penetration.
I remember seeing something around 10 years ago that said 20-30% of women orgasm from PiV sex. With 20 minutes of good foreplay that number jumps to around 70+%. Wish I could find the specific study but can't, it's just shitty Cosmo articles. But pretty sure it was something from the Kinsey Institute.
spits on it
Meds can effect orgasms.
Never noticed any benefits from psychiatric meds doctors tried on me, but I did notice side effects like difficulty orgasming. A few of the meds made it so it could take hours to orgasm. Not fun, especially if taking care of things alone
It's nothing like porn. It's awkward, a lot of "famous" positions can be uncomfortable, some people are really quiet. Beds are squeaky. Animals will jump up on the bed. There will be weird smells and sounds. Laughing is okay.
The only one of these examples that bothers me is the animal thing. It makes me so uncomfortable haha
in the middle of banging
She aint a looker but please dont call her an animal
Queefs happen and its really hard not to laugh at them.
But sex should be fun. You should be able to laugh.
A lot of people don't actually like or are ready to do many of the things that are standard in porn.
So youāre telling me my neighbor really does need a plumber?
like incest!!!
And there is nothing wrong with vanilla.
I heard someone say "porn is meant to look good, not feel good." And I think that summarizes it well.
Women are more likely to orgasm from a grinding motion, rather than thrusting in and out.
Keep your pelvis in contact with hers the whole time for best results.
Grind it till you find it.
Thatās true for some women, but not all. The reason communication is the top sexual skill is because everyone is different.
Could you explain this a little better if youāre comfortable please. Iām a virgin but Iād also like to not be completely horrible for my first time so knowledge is always useful
Vulnerable, soul to soul sex with someone you love is otherworldly
Women: it is incredibly important to pee after sex.
I pee way way too often but in this situation it has been nothing but beneficial. I do not get urinary tract infections ever.
Yea I almost got a kidney infection because my uti got SO bad in like 2 days
There are muscles that you never realized can cramp. Hips, lower back... tongue...
Itās not as clean as they show in movies/shows. You donāt go from having sex to getting up, putting on a skirt with no underwear and getting back to the office. If I did that, Iād be leaving a cum trace like a slutty snail
Between lube, sweat, and cum, both people are going be sticky south of the border. Peeing after sex helps prevent UTIs, and is a good time for a quick wipe and tidy up.
Right?! For the longest time when I was younger, I was "jealous" of women that could just jump up and slip back into their thong and negligee without any wet, sticky mess afterwards. Until I realized those women don't exist, lol.
Slutty snail hahaha
It's always the washcloth thrown towards me, to wipe up, then tossing it back at them to clean themselves up. Noting that we need to wash the sheets soon. Laying beside each other and maybe holding hands but not too cuddly cause one of us is probably sweating, and it's fucking hot in the room. Click on the fan to cool off for a moment, then it's the walk to the bathroom to pee and hit myself with the bidet. Then wash hands and swig some mouthwash. Fix the sex hair, probably reapply some deodorant and body spray. Then back to the bedroom to either cuddle a bit more or get dressed.
Told my wife she didn't have to swallow if she doesn't want too. She says it just saves on the clean up time. Now that's a win win.
Being in love actually makes sex better
Intimacy isn't getting naked. It can include being naked and appreciating the nuisances of their body and being made to feel comfortable in your own skin. Its also holding hands, being close and comfortable silences
Like way, waaaaaay fucking better.
Well I certainly do love myself.
The hole's a lot lower than you think.
Wait stop not that low!
YES! The first time I fingered a girl I was thinking, wait... where is it? Ooooh, it's sooo low.
You should take a shower and bush your teeth beforehand. Clean sex is the best sex, IMO
Bush is what I'm trying to get out of my teeth
My wife calls it squeaky sex because you start out squeaky clean and end up squeaking.
Foreplay. Don't be afraid to use too much lube. If you know you cum fast finish her first, that way you're both satisfied. If you don't know what to do, ask. It can be awkward. Sometimes you laugh. If it hurts, TELL THEM. Pee before and after sex. (!!!!!!) Penetration isn't the only thing to do. When she says harder, if doesn't mean faster, it means what they're saying. Thrust harder. Toys don't mean you're bad, they make things more fun.
If you touch a womanās boob and vulva at the same time, she takes a screenshot
Pro tip - If you do that and touch the anus with your thumb she will reboot
Just because your last partner liked how you did it, your next maybe won't. All women, and all men, are different. Many of us men think we are good at licking pussy, that we have found the secret of making women cum. You have, if you understand that everyone is different. If you are doing the same on everyone, which most men do, the chances are, you are shit at licking pussy.
I've heard about eating pussy "Start like a kitten drinking milk and finish like a bulldog eating oatmeal." It's also not universal, but it has served me well.
Everyone is inexperienced with someone they've never had sex with before.
Pro tip from your local neighborhood lesbian: hold her hand or have her hold your head or something while you go down on her. If she squeezes, keep doing what you're doing.
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Donāt forget about āØaftercareāØ. Cuddle and have a talk.
Especially if you're into some kinky shit.
post coital cuddles are amazing, cuddles in general are good but those hit different
The last girl I dated would just jump up and go straight to the bathroom after. Which made me sad, I just wanted to hold her :(
It doesn't have to be serious. You can be playfully and have dumb conversations during. You should be comfortable with your partner and not be worried about wether or not they think youre doing it right or youre putting in enough effort or if you're stomach looks fat on that position. With my ex sex was all about sex and that's it. 9 times out of 10 he would wake me up in the middle of the night and I was half awake. And we'd just do it to get it done. At least that's how I felt. With my curent guy we can start and mid way through bust out laughing or have dumb conversations during. We're just comfortable with eachother on a level I never thought I'd be with anyone.
WASH YOUR ASS
Thatās where babies come from.
"Mrs. Krabappel and Principal Skinner were in the closet making babies and I saw one of the babies and the baby looked at me!"
If your partner is not enthusiastically participating stop immediately and check in.
Foreplayā¦most donāt get laid often, so when you get the chance make the most of it.
Low libido it's not a bad thing, especially if you're a guy, the stereotype that men are always horny and sex obsessed it's not true, and it can be harmful.
Xx
Didnāt expect the best one in here to be so low.
In pools/showers/water in general, it surprisingly dry. Just be aware of that.
Iām a tall woman, and Iāve always found shower sex disappointing. Maybe I need a bigger shower.
You should be clean and have decent hygene
The pastrami is the most sensual of all the salted, cured meats.
Bois, don't clench your ass, try to keep that whole region as relaxed as possible, you'll last longer
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Finally something useful in this thread, and this is why i cum immediately when my partner grabs my ass
Guys good with their hips is dangerously hot, for a good reason.. The friction.
Always pee afterwards. Always.
For menā¦ slooooooowww lingering thrusts in and out may not do much for you, but itās fucking AMAZING for women. Itās not always about in and out as hard and fast as you can. Iāve only had a few men fuck me this way and they are easily the best Iāve ever had.
Gonna need you to make a sex dexterity saving throw to avoid that cramp in your hamstring.
Ohhh, I thought weed made sex better for men as well
You should communicate before, during, and after for the best experiences
Itās full of weird and funny noises
Queefs happen. If she laughs you can laugh. If sheās embarrassed ignore. Under no circumstances is it an ok reason to be disgusted. Please do not make her feel self conscious about it.
One of my exes looked at me weird and disgusted the first time this happened. I said āwell YOU put all the air in there, youāre going to have to live with this if you want sexāā¦? Like buddy it doesnāt happen on its own.
My line with my girlfriend is "I worked hard for that." She seems to get a kick out of it
My partner loves queefs! He actively tries to make them happen, apparently they turn him on. In the beginning (and with other partners) I laughed at the occasional queefs and a little embarrassingly said that air must have gotten in there. So you can imagine my surprise when this guy was all "I love those! Let's see if I can make it happen again!"
Preheat the oven.
WHEN A GIRL SAYS YOU NEED TO GO SLOW WHEN PUTTING IT IN THAT IT DOESNT MEAN SLOWLY PUSH IN IT MEANS SLOWLY GO BACK AND FORTH AND GET THE WHOLE THING WET AND GIVE THE VAGINA TIME TO ADJUST.
Ohhhh yes this is fuckıng GOLDEN. It applies to just about everything (from touches, to kisses, oral, vaginal, anal). if a guy starts with a controlled tease of sorts I'll be drenched before my panties ever come off.
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It is SUPER easy to get pregnant. You can risk it by raw dawging it and pulling out... but all it takes literally one slip up and you got a baby on the way.
I can confirm. I thought I was in the clear, having just gotten off the pill and just having my period. Howeverrrā¦one little guy managed to hang on for dear life for 5 DAYS before eventually finding himself an egg to party with.
When a woman actually has an orgasm, the confetti and music both come from within the vagina.
Is this what Eddie Murphy meant when he said "what's next, you put your dick in and it explodes?"
Condom sizes actually matter. Men with bigger members have a horrible time with normal sized ones, it can partially cut off circulation, has a higher chance of breakage, and will make the experience overall less satisfying.
If putting a condom on completely takes away all sensation, consider a larger one.
This is so true. It was my wife, girlfriend then, that told me I was using the wrong size. I thought that it was just one size fits all and had really disliked condoms. I always struggled to get it on, total passion killer, and Iād lose any pleasant sensations. We went to our local Boots (UK pharmacy chain) and spent a small fortune buying different brands, sizes and materials then had fun (and frustrations as well) trying them all out. It made a huge difference. Night and day. Note to guys, measure your girth, tape measure at the ready, around your dick. Not just the length.
This. And a drop of lube on the inside tip of the condom makes everything 10x better!
MEN!! WHEN A WOMAN SAYS āRIGHT THERE, DONāT STOP!ā, SHE MEANS EXACTLY WHAT TF SHE SAID!! ITS NOT THE TIME TO DO SOME NEW SHIT!!
Him: ā oh yeah you like that?ā Me: āFuck yesssssssā Him to self: time to remix Me to self: ffsā¦ there goes that orgasm
Yeah but when a woman tells me that I nut instantly. My wife knows not to give me a clue until she's literally right on top of her O.
And donāt speed up! It doesnāt mean do it faster. It means that rhythm, that pressure, that whatever is exactly right. Do it like clockwork til she goes off unless she SAYS āharderā or āfasterā
Please wash your hands before sticking them inside someone, and if your nails are long, DO NOT clip your nails beforehand, do it after. Long nails inside you might be uncomfortable as hell, but itās NOTHING compared to freshly cut nails inside you.
File them rounded on all edges. Makes it was more comfortable for my wife.
Fresh cut and filed? Will that be the most comfortable?
Women can smell your dick odors. Be clean. Men can smell pussy odors even when doing doggy. Be clean. Also, if you cum inside, when you pull out afterwards, it can be messy and queefs are real.
Women need to urinate afterward or risk getting a uti.
It can be messy. Make sure you have some kind of towels or wipes ready when not having a condom. Also shower sex can suck as you can be kinda cold doing it partially outside of the shower stream but your partner is nice and warm under it. Also clean yourself before engaging in sexual activities. If you didnāt plan on it, excuse yourself to the bathroom and clean up again.
You donāt just roll over and go to sleep after like they do in movies and tv shows. At least I donāt, thatās gross. Gotta clean up.
Pre cum can get you pregnant. The old pull out method doesnāt work. Trust me
That why Iām here today
So true! It worked for me and my husband for 6 years then out of nowhere Bam pregnant!
if you are a straight man, take care of your lady. sex where she comes too is not a special occasion, itās the standard. if you wouldnāt be happy stopping before you finish, donāt make your partner do the same thing. and penetration is not the only way (usually not even the best way)
If you are plus size you NEED a sturdy bed frame you can't buy cheap and expect it to last.
My flatmate brought a "friend " home one night and I could hear them getting jiggy. Then a strange krr- chet sound. Silence. Then sex banging noises .... but different. In the morning I found out their vigorous lovemaking had broken the bed!
Furniture-shattering sex is awesome until you realize "shit, I need to sleep on that now".
If you squeeze both your nipples, with a precise amount of pressure, you enable rocket mode.
Weird, when it do that, it takes a screenshot
I guess I'll say #1 would be just how different it is to have sex with different people. We make broad generalizations when we talk about sex - which is kind of just a result of limited communication, but it's still something to note.
The clitoris wants SOFT touches. Do not scrape, go not furiously grind like you're trying to start a damn fire.
TOWEL
Sex isnāt love and love isnāt sex. That took me 25 years to figure out. Also , fellas, thereās no shame in not knowing where the hole is. Donāt be a fool and grind your dong on her vulva expecting it to just slide in anywhere, sheāll touch jr and guide it into where it needs to be and that in and of itself is hot.
The vagina and the vulva A R E N ' T - T H E - S A M E - T H I N G
The Vulva is a kind of car, right?
Hygiene is IMPORTANT
Your cat suddenly becomes a surveillance camera
Iām really ashamed by this because Iāve been married for 13 years, but I thought when movies/shows said ālet me go freshen upā before sex it was to check your makeup/hair/outfit/BO smell.
If you repeatedly trigger someone's gag reflex, there is a chance that they will puke, don't be a jerk if it happens. If someone is repeatedly agitating your gag reflex and you're worried about puking, play it safe and tell them to stop. Same goes for the other end and all that entails.
I scrolled so far down and didn't see it but...
Thereās 2 people involved
If she says "don't stop" or "just like that" we literally mean exactly as you are doing it in that very moment. Don't go faster, or slower, or harder, or softer. (That said, sometimes them saying that can suddenly make your brain go "zap" and your hands or penis forget how to function because the pressures suddenly on, which is totally understandable) still a good rule of thumb, though.
All about the technique, not the velocity
Contrary to popular belief, you should not stimulate the clitoris the same way you played Mario Party 64. At least that's what my wife says.
Wash yer dick, you twats. -A dude
I just have to say something off topic. This thread here is exactly why reddit is magnificent!!
If your partner requests to include a toy, donāt take it personally. I can orgasm with good foreplay and penetrative sex, but if I can include a vibe during penetration, my orgasm is 100x more intense, which is nice. Itās not an insult, itās something that helps make sex more enjoyable. Of course some people are really uncomfortable with toys (usually due to lack of knowledge about them) which is why communication and kind teaching in bed does wonders. Just, talk about your turn ons with your partners, thatās how you make sure everyone gets off.
Women really donāt want you to last an hour.
Sex is a contest to find out who can get the other person off the best. The loser wins. So with that being said, you shouldnt be losing all the time (By getting your partner off better or first or whatever) Your partner should be doing you right too . If its all one way, it will just get worse and worse until neither party is happy.
Once you have your first time, you'll be exactly the same person as before. That's the biggest flaw in incel ideology