I think it would have been just fine. She was/is a wonderful woman. But I wouldn't trade the 40 years I had with my late wife, including all the ups and the downs, for anything in the world. And when she left me, she left me with two wonderful sons and two fantastic grandchildren.
Same here. I was with peron i loved and if it would go on it would be nice. We split because love didn't last and if it would, it should be just fine. Now I am in relationship i wouldn't trade for the previous big love. I'm happy where I am. No regrets.
Same here, but glad he is ex. My first real relationship as a teen, and I didn't really know how to stand up for myself at the time. He was 20 and a jerk to me a lot. He cheated on me right before he broke up with me and then bragged about it when he dumped me. He got her knocked up and married her less than a year later. When I heard about the upcoming nuptials, my first thought was "that could have been me" and was so relieved it wasn't. From what I was told she miscarried but they still got married. I was told he didn't really want to tho. I would have been miserable. Absolutely miserable had I been stuck with him.
Mine was a stay at home wife that had five affairs that I know of in the space of two years in the early eighties, she wanted to aggressively argue every day over nothing, thankfully she ran off with a loft insulator, if I were still with her I reckon the affairs tally would be a 100 by now, I'm the type that would never cheat in a marriage, just one of those mugs that have to pay out thousands.
Me and my wife can fairly say we are each others first and last. We were each other's first during highschool. Broke up. Got thru college and adult life. Got back together and got married this time. Our story went full circle.
Exactly, the same. Only ever had sex with the man who is now my husband. Together since we were 16. Got married at 19. We're both about to turn 24. Good jobs, our own house, just had our first child, he's still my best friend. There have been hard times, but I would do everything over again to be here with him.
Not good. He was a sweet down-to-earth dude who turned into a massive asshole after he landed an amazing job opportunity and his dad got him a flashy car. It's like he turned into the biggest douche overnight and then dumped me over the phone probably because he thought he was now out of my league. My heart was broken but life goes on. I learned many years ago that he lost this high profile job, and because he got this job through nepotism and not because he actually knew what he was doing, he couldn't find the same type of job or at least work in the same field. He got recommended by a company to get a degree (which they would sponser) so he could return to the industry but he refused because he was under the impression that he knows more than everyone yada yada. He did nothing about the situation and ended up working at a gas station where he still is now, all these years later. I can't imagine how someone with this attitude could be a good partner in life. I would have been miserable.
It might be ok, but not nearly as good as it is now. He’s a great person and I’m still in contact with him, but we weren’t meant to be together forever.
This is how I feel too. He was/is a great guy. His family is awesome and all my family loved him. Sadly I didn’t! I got a lot of flack for breaking his heart, but after me, he met his now wife and they’ve got a lovely family. I met my now husband around the same time and we’ve got 3 kids. I think we both thought we were happy together but I’m glad we got a chance to realise we were simply contented.
Yeah I can second this, similar story. We were in love back then but we were very young and still had lots to learn about ourselves and life. I still think highly of him, but we developed in different directions.
Yeah, I mean, we would have made it work. He’s grown up a lot since we broke up, as have I. I think we would have made the best of it, but even that best wouldn’t be as good as it is now.
Sounds about right. She was lovely, her family was great, we had an amazing time together growing up into adults, but we wanted different things, so broke up after school. Went to different universities and both met someone that made us happy and the contact naturally dried up.
Probably would have been awesome for a year or two - she was a legit Penthouse centerfold girl. Guarantee she would have got bored with me and moved on pretty quickly. Then I probably would have gravitated back to the path I've been on for the last 40 years and ended up right where I am.
Oof sorry. So fucked up that that’s a reality for a lot of girls around the world - being forced to marry someone who raped them. Anyways I hope that person gets a ton of massive kidney stones and then dies from sepsis after being unable to pass one 🙏
I’ve thought about this from time to time. She ended up getting engaged a few times but never married. Ended up getting pregnant from a sperm donor and has been a single mom by choice for the last decade. Recently she came out not exactly as transgender but more like non-binary. Seems to be happy. I honestly have no idea what would have happened if we’d ended up together. I didn’t and still don’t want kids so that may have been a stumbling block. Also I had severe wanderlust after graduating from university and ended up on the other side of the country. Not sure if I would have been interested in staying in our home town and I’m pretty sure she never had any interest in leaving. So… either things would have hit some major roadblocks and we’d have split up after a few years. Or maybe I’d end up comfortable and lose the desire to move away and maybe settle down and have kids. Unlikely though.
It wouldn't be terrible, he's a good dude and we agree on a lot of life stuff. We'd have a fun lifestyle except in the bedroom, we stopped being sexually compatible and that's why I broke up with him.
Did your parents pressure you? My first marriage was an absolute nightmare. My parents nagged us to get married even though they barely knew him. He ended up being an absolute psycho.
The guy I lost my virginity to is Turkish, and we broke up partly because his mum hated my guts because he wasn't dating someone of their own religion, and then partly because I discovered he had a 'thing' for girls like Bella Poarch and who acted like her. So if I married him? I wouldn't know sanity if it smashed me in the head with a brick rolled in glue, then dipped in a bowl of razor blades and lemon juice.
Yikes… More than likely loveless & still be in our hometown. Definitely banging anyone else but each other, and living on her daddy’s money:under his control. Massive bullet dodged.
No different as I married him 💕 I’ve seen this comment a few times which is so lovely to see! We met at 17 and will celebrate 17 years together this coming March 😊
She married someone else. Divorced them, married me, divorced me when someone better off came along. So, if I was forced to marry her now, apart from the bigamy, it would mean I'd have to be a lot better off, financially, than I am actualy am.
We were 15 and in love (aka horny) and he said he would marry me and buy me a double wide while he perused professional wrestling. I was heartbroken when he dumped me for the hoe next door 😂 Ps- only 1 of his promises came true and it wasn’t me or the wrestling gig
No idea what she’s doing now. But if the last couple months of our relationship were any indication we would probably be in a loveless, miserable marriage.
I wonder that myself. Wish I could see the “alternate ending” version of things. He’s a sweetheart and we could’ve made a good life together but I’m happy with the way things are.
I’d be dead, in prison, on probation, homeless or raising a bunch of kids that aren’t mine
Mostly same. But no kids cos he was infertile.
Is everything alright now?
I think it would have been just fine. She was/is a wonderful woman. But I wouldn't trade the 40 years I had with my late wife, including all the ups and the downs, for anything in the world. And when she left me, she left me with two wonderful sons and two fantastic grandchildren.
Same here. I was with peron i loved and if it would go on it would be nice. We split because love didn't last and if it would, it should be just fine. Now I am in relationship i wouldn't trade for the previous big love. I'm happy where I am. No regrets.
That was really nice to read! As for my first, I dont think it would have been a happy marriage. Last I heard she is an alcholoic and hooked on drugs.
I also choose this guys wife
I'll still be single
Our time will come
Plot twist: they are dead
Philosophically, if we bestow our hands with personhood...
Same. Turned 30 today lol
Fucking great (probably) she's a multi millionaire.
RiP
Really fumbled the bag on that one I see
Is she single?
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You coulda been a house-husband.
Plot twist: she left
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I would be richer but much more miserable. Id probably be trying to drink myself to death.
Same. My ex had a good job but mentally he would've driven me to becoming as much of an alcoholic as he was if not worse.
I'd be shamed, insulted, bullied, emasculated, and cheated on all the time. Possibly have 2 kids and unable to afford divorce.
Same, but instead of cheating he’d probably be molesting our daughter, if we had one.
Same here, but glad he is ex. My first real relationship as a teen, and I didn't really know how to stand up for myself at the time. He was 20 and a jerk to me a lot. He cheated on me right before he broke up with me and then bragged about it when he dumped me. He got her knocked up and married her less than a year later. When I heard about the upcoming nuptials, my first thought was "that could have been me" and was so relieved it wasn't. From what I was told she miscarried but they still got married. I was told he didn't really want to tho. I would have been miserable. Absolutely miserable had I been stuck with him.
Same (I have never felt the touch of a women in my life)
Mine was a stay at home wife that had five affairs that I know of in the space of two years in the early eighties, she wanted to aggressively argue every day over nothing, thankfully she ran off with a loft insulator, if I were still with her I reckon the affairs tally would be a 100 by now, I'm the type that would never cheat in a marriage, just one of those mugs that have to pay out thousands.
The same. We are married
Same here. We were quite young when we lost our virginities together 15&16. Been together for 7 years and married for 2.
Same here. Married the guy 🙂
I’ll jump on this “same” train. Now married for 16 years, been together for 22.
Same here. Married almost 11 years ago. Wouldn't trade it for anything.
Same here too! We’ve known each other for 23 years, been together for 21 years and been married 18 years.
I married mine.
Same. I ended up marrying the girl I lost my virginity to (by choice, not by force as stated in the title tho, lol)
Ditto, 30 years and still a happy mother fucker.
Same. Married for almost 11 years, two great kids. Wouldn't have it any other way.
Same here … me and wife celebrated 10 years married last year. We 30. Its possible☺️
Me and my wife can fairly say we are each others first and last. We were each other's first during highschool. Broke up. Got thru college and adult life. Got back together and got married this time. Our story went full circle.
Yep, same here! Married the guy I first had sex with. Didn't "lose" anything.
Same. Married 21 years this year.
Same, over 40 years and still happy together.
I am another member of the "the same" club.
Same train. Been together 15 years, married 5. Wouldn't change a thing ❤️
Yep same.
Yup same. Married with a kid.
Same. We will be married 15 years soon.
Yep, same here.
Same
So wholesome!
Same, soon we'll cross 10 years together
Sorry I'm late. Same.
Yep. Took a decade long break. It's going... okay. Post Partum is a bitch.
same :)
Exactly, the same. Only ever had sex with the man who is now my husband. Together since we were 16. Got married at 19. We're both about to turn 24. Good jobs, our own house, just had our first child, he's still my best friend. There have been hard times, but I would do everything over again to be here with him.
Not good. He was a sweet down-to-earth dude who turned into a massive asshole after he landed an amazing job opportunity and his dad got him a flashy car. It's like he turned into the biggest douche overnight and then dumped me over the phone probably because he thought he was now out of my league. My heart was broken but life goes on. I learned many years ago that he lost this high profile job, and because he got this job through nepotism and not because he actually knew what he was doing, he couldn't find the same type of job or at least work in the same field. He got recommended by a company to get a degree (which they would sponser) so he could return to the industry but he refused because he was under the impression that he knows more than everyone yada yada. He did nothing about the situation and ended up working at a gas station where he still is now, all these years later. I can't imagine how someone with this attitude could be a good partner in life. I would have been miserable.
It’s pretty amazing what material can do to the fickle mind of a man.
It might be ok, but not nearly as good as it is now. He’s a great person and I’m still in contact with him, but we weren’t meant to be together forever.
This is how I feel too. He was/is a great guy. His family is awesome and all my family loved him. Sadly I didn’t! I got a lot of flack for breaking his heart, but after me, he met his now wife and they’ve got a lovely family. I met my now husband around the same time and we’ve got 3 kids. I think we both thought we were happy together but I’m glad we got a chance to realise we were simply contented.
Yeah I can second this, similar story. We were in love back then but we were very young and still had lots to learn about ourselves and life. I still think highly of him, but we developed in different directions.
Yeah, I mean, we would have made it work. He’s grown up a lot since we broke up, as have I. I think we would have made the best of it, but even that best wouldn’t be as good as it is now.
Sounds about right. She was lovely, her family was great, we had an amazing time together growing up into adults, but we wanted different things, so broke up after school. Went to different universities and both met someone that made us happy and the contact naturally dried up.
Completely unchanged. Wedding is in 6 months!
Congrats 🎉
Can we go to the wedding?
I'd be marrying a corpse so
at least they won't talk while you're watching tv
not sure if you’re saying that the person has died
Please tell me they became a corpse AFTER, not before.
I'd probably be a cracked out hooker living in a bush in Waikiki. Or dead.
The famous bush hookers of waikiki, they’ll sneak up on ya for sure
That sounds awful, may I ask you if things are fine now?
Ummm WTF 😳
It would be completely the same, because I did marry the person whom I lost my virginity to. Almost 22 year now and we are still in love.
Lovely!
Same here but over 36 years married.
Same here for my wife. 31 years together ❤️
Probably would have been awesome for a year or two - she was a legit Penthouse centerfold girl. Guarantee she would have got bored with me and moved on pretty quickly. Then I probably would have gravitated back to the path I've been on for the last 40 years and ended up right where I am.
Had a buddy who dated a PH model, she was a crazy, jealous psycho. Lucky for him it didn’t last.
We’d both cheat on each other every day.
Mutual agreement
sounds romantic
Probably same, since he turned out to be gay.
I would still be unmarried lol
Should I feel bad that I scrolled pretty far to find the same answer as mine?
So I’m a stepdad now...
Hmm... We seem to meet again!
I’d be looking for my wife
Surprised I had to scroll this far down to find this response (assuming you mean what I think you mean).
I’d have to fake my death and start a new life in Sri Lanka
traumatizing question
Same. Literally felt the rush of shame.
53 years after the fact and this question made me blanch. Dear gawd.
My thought was literally "My rapist. Ick."
Same
Yep
Same
damn, I'll say
Sent shivers down my spine. Yuck.
Yep,unfortunately the same
There have been so many traumatizing questions lately 😭
Same
Yep. Pretty sure I’d have been murdered a long time ago.
It would suck horrifically to be married to a rapist
Sorta same, I've just decided that since it wasn't consentual it doesn't count, so I never even count it among my experiences.
I feel that.
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Same. Fortunately he's dead, so..
I am really sorry... I hope things are fine now.
Same.
Exactly my thoughts as I read the question.
Same
Oof sorry. So fucked up that that’s a reality for a lot of girls around the world - being forced to marry someone who raped them. Anyways I hope that person gets a ton of massive kidney stones and then dies from sepsis after being unable to pass one 🙏
Same boat here. I’m sorry friend.
Same
Same here!
Honestly have no idea where she is. But things between us ended mostly amicably, so maybe they would still be going well
I’d be divorced.
She brought me coffee in bed this morning and we had our 21st anniversary last week
Wholesome af
I would be married to a south asian hooker
in a mental hospital
I’ve thought about this from time to time. She ended up getting engaged a few times but never married. Ended up getting pregnant from a sperm donor and has been a single mom by choice for the last decade. Recently she came out not exactly as transgender but more like non-binary. Seems to be happy. I honestly have no idea what would have happened if we’d ended up together. I didn’t and still don’t want kids so that may have been a stumbling block. Also I had severe wanderlust after graduating from university and ended up on the other side of the country. Not sure if I would have been interested in staying in our home town and I’m pretty sure she never had any interest in leaving. So… either things would have hit some major roadblocks and we’d have split up after a few years. Or maybe I’d end up comfortable and lose the desire to move away and maybe settle down and have kids. Unlikely though.
Probably amazing I miss him fr
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It wouldn't be terrible, he's a good dude and we agree on a lot of life stuff. We'd have a fun lifestyle except in the bedroom, we stopped being sexually compatible and that's why I broke up with him.
sooo bad. he was so mean to me!
It’s been 45 years. Haven‘t a clue.
Well she was a shitty person. So it would be miserable.
I need therapy just from having to imagine this, thanks
I'd be married to the person I'm dating right now, life is great.
I would be divorced. And if that wasn't an option, probably dead.
Happened to me. Equaled 15 years of hell. I will never forgive my parents for it.
Did your parents pressure you? My first marriage was an absolute nightmare. My parents nagged us to get married even though they barely knew him. He ended up being an absolute psycho.
The guy I lost my virginity to is Turkish, and we broke up partly because his mum hated my guts because he wasn't dating someone of their own religion, and then partly because I discovered he had a 'thing' for girls like Bella Poarch and who acted like her. So if I married him? I wouldn't know sanity if it smashed me in the head with a brick rolled in glue, then dipped in a bowl of razor blades and lemon juice.
I was raped. Not good.
i’d probably unalive myself
JFC OP, this question is enough to end lives. 😅
All I can say to that is EW NO THANK YOU
Not too bad. We are still friends ... 48 years later.
Yikes… More than likely loveless & still be in our hometown. Definitely banging anyone else but each other, and living on her daddy’s money:under his control. Massive bullet dodged.
Well my uncle does like watching sports so no arguing over tv time
Dark humor is like food. Some people do not get it
No different as I married him 💕 I’ve seen this comment a few times which is so lovely to see! We met at 17 and will celebrate 17 years together this coming March 😊
I'd be your daddy
that's hot
How does marrying a married person work?
The mormans have entered the chat
Polygamy
A little weird, its frowned upon in my area to marry your dad. Mom would be pissed.
im sorry..I- are you okay?
So… I would still be a virgin
I'd be married to a gay guy. FWIW, we are still friends after 40+ years.
She married someone else. Divorced them, married me, divorced me when someone better off came along. So, if I was forced to marry her now, apart from the bigamy, it would mean I'd have to be a lot better off, financially, than I am actualy am.
She’s dead.
It feels weird to marry my hand
I think it would be a lot of fun
I’d probably have been murdered. Sounds bad but the vibe was sometimes there 😬
Same!! At least severly abused and completely destroyed emotionally.
The exact same
Cheated on and manipulated into thinking I'm the bad guy
I'd be married to my former baby sitter, so I'd have a pretty hot older wife.
Not great. He was a POS and I deserved way better.
I'd be married to a stripper at least 20-30 years older than me. So, probably not that great.
Can't marry your sister.
Sweet home Alabama…
We were 15 and in love (aka horny) and he said he would marry me and buy me a double wide while he perused professional wrestling. I was heartbroken when he dumped me for the hoe next door 😂 Ps- only 1 of his promises came true and it wasn’t me or the wrestling gig
So how’s that double wide?
No idea what she’s doing now. But if the last couple months of our relationship were any indication we would probably be in a loveless, miserable marriage.
Yikes
would be a widower.
Hmm. I'd probably be really annoyed all the time.
A widow. Cops shot and killed him.
Pretty good, she’s sleeping on my chest as I write this.
Bad, he would have cheated again and we would end with a divorce
Pretty sure I’d be in some religious cult and suffering from severe mental illness but I’d have a hot AF wife
Well, I was raped, so...
I wasn't forced to marry her, but I did. Divorced a few years later and moved on with life.
Life would be weird… I’d be happy as fuck, but I wouldn’t have my kids
The exact same, married him last april
Same sex marriage was not legal back then
I wonder that myself. Wish I could see the “alternate ending” version of things. He’s a sweetheart and we could’ve made a good life together but I’m happy with the way things are.
Miserable she cheated on me several times I’d probably be dead already from some form of STD
Miserable
pretty fucking bizarre for sure
I wouldn't be poor, don't know if I'd be happy. It'sbeen 20 years.
There would be a 20 year age difference. She was my nanny.
Personally I’d be eating a gun right now if that were the case. Bad enough there’s one crazy in the relationship, but two? Oh Hell No!!!
Honestly, probably be doing great. I still love the guy with all my heart and he loves me. He just had and still has a lot of shit going on rn
AWFUL. He was deeply misogynistic.
In therapy at the very least. He was 11 years older and it turned out those “jokes” about me being too old for him….weren’t jokes.
I'd have shot myself before middle school