It’s a tough job and don’t forget to take care of yourself. Does your dads doc know about the getting lost and is that getting worse? Like placing things in weird places, trouble recalling recent conversations or even the day before? I’m probably just over examining, but might be something to mention to his doctor next appointment. Kudos for caring for parents!
I feel for you... I essentially take care of both my grandmas and it's absolutely straining and sad and depressing but on the flip side anytime I'm able to give both of them a hug on the same day it generally boosts my mood but makes me miss my grandfathers that much more
I read a unhealthy amount too and still game. How much time are you putting in a week? At my highest I read about 40 hours a week. Lowest 21 hours -3 hours a day.
Curious. I have owned guitars for years and can play a little. How did you get past that early stage where you like a dopey idiot every time you try to play anything. I have a hard time with it mentally.
I assumed that every response was going to be 3 of 4 things. Like, I am serious lifter, have played instruments for years, and play video games but don’t watch tv.
I do these exact 3, just throw a wife and a toddler in the mix so they take about 95% of my free time, I divide the remaining 5% among these 3 activities
A lot of people can do both. I usually game with my kids when I game but sometimes they need to play by themselves or with each other. I think it’s good for kids to be “bored” sometimes instead of the parents always entertaining them or telling them what to do. If they’re outside exploring, reading or otherwise playing I’ll sometimes play some rocket league if I don’t have anything pressing to take care of.
Glory holes are weird. There's a moment where a penis is presented to you through the hole... and it's not an attractive penis. I know I'm on my knees in a dark booth after feeding monopoly money into a video machine, but I still have dick standards.
Read, cook, watch movies, hang out with my wife, play with my kid, go out for drinks/dinner with friends, take photos, edit photos, work, clean…and there’s always some DIY that could get done.
My days are pretty regimented. I play basketball on Mondays, I usually go to an open jam session on Tuesdays to play guitar, or I go to the gym. Wednesday is a rest day from almost any social activity and I try to use it for meal prep/tidying up. I just signed up for a stand up comedy class on Thursdays. Fridays and the weekend is seeing family and friends.
Some people will watch tv and scroll on her phone for 3-4 a day after diner and relaxing. I play video games with my friends that are spread all across the country. The first is somehow more acceptable than the second.
We don’t work on cars, don’t exercise regularly if we do it at all, don’t really cook (most of us not me but like most of my friends) and specially we don’t sociallize like what is this?
Feel weird because my friends play, all of them, and then there's me who doesn't. We excercise(I haven't in a while tho lol), go out once in a while, do stupid shit for fun (without harming anyone) and have a lot in common, but I just don't play video games, which is what they talk about half the time. And it's not one group of friends, it's all of them. Only my group of female friends don't play VG but they talk about stuff that sometimes I don't really care but I listen to them because they are my friends and I care if they care
Be an involved parent. Work a demanding job. Coach little League. Build motorcycles. Mountain biking with the kids. Camping with the family. Try like hell to get some alone time once a year with little success 😁
The first one takes up 99.9% of my time outside of work hours. In fact it pretty much mandates my work hours. I'm not staying back at work, I'm heading home to play lego and read stories to my 4yo.
Listen man, you are loved and appreciated. It’s a lonely ass place being a family man. Your kids will see the world from on top of your shoulders. Even though they are not smart enough know how heavy they are.
After years of dominating COD servers, I realized one night, after a few shitty matches, that I wasted a lot of my life doing something that brings no joy to my soul. I then took up glassblowing. Find something that moves you beyond the temporary joy of a win. Do something to grow yourself.
I've always been fascinated by glassblowing. How does one get into it? I'm not very artsy when it comes to making physical art (I'm more of a musician/music producer), but I'd be open to trying it or learning more about it.
This feels like where I'm at except I have no idea what to start doing. Everything seems like it requires way too much investment, creativity, or physical activity. Glassblowing seems to require all 3 lol.
Do blowjob skills transfer into glass blowing? Or are they one of those activities that seem related but really are two completely unrelated activities.
I work, clean, cook, rock climb, play music, learn a foreign language, go to shows and bars, and spend time with my partner. If I had time for games I would play them, but I prefer all the things I listed (except for cooking and cleaning of course)!
I spend a great deal of time looking through my game library deciding what game to play, give up because of too many options and then rewatch some movie I've seen a dozen times instead.
You know people are just flexing when they don't include reddit/social media/tv even though they had to be on reddit to comment. Bro if you were just shredding guitar and rock climbing and fixing your motorcycle you wouldn't be here.
Spending time with my family, working on old cars, playing guitar, projects around the house. camping, hiking, backpacking, going out with friends. There's an amazing world out there away from screens.
I watch a ton of tv, I also read, and I have almost a year long streak on duolingo, there's tons to do outside of gaming (I personally only have a month or two out of the year where I'm even interested in videogames, I get it out of my system pretty quick after that)
Play multiple instruments in bands, work on and ride bicycles, maintain my health, enjoy time with and take care of my dogs, try to read more. There aren’t enough hours in a day, can’t imagine getting into a game time sink unless I’m sick or something and can’t focus on a book or movie at least
Full time Animator, content creator and drummer. I also prefer, when I have a moment to breathe, to get up and walk away from the many screens and build with my hands actual tangible things. Games are a time suck and I’d personally rather entertain myself using non digital methods.
I really liked rdr2, and would try to fit in time late at night to do it, but I found it to challenging to keep up on it time wise, my schedule with work and family is too busy. Then when I try to get back into it once in a blue moon i can’t remember the controls and that kind of stuff so I just give it up.
Browse my steam library.
386 titles and not a single thing to play!
Why is this so relatable? I used to play all the time but now when I have some rare free time I can never decide what to play.
I felt this in my bones.
Then I browse my wishlist, which is twice the size of my library.
I like you.
Gym, cook, bake, watch YouTube, house improvements, reading, anxiously contemplate life
U love that last one. One of my favorite things
I like your answer contemplating on life :)
Sounds lifeful
Take care of my parents.
Sorry your mom is 70 and still has to work. I fear never getting to retire.
Respect to you
Best wishes to you all.
Respect my man, cheers from a random Redditor
Much care to you all ❤
You are a good man. Best of luck for everything!
I have a lot of respect for those who do what you do.
Your a good man
sending air hugs and love ! thank you for caring for your parents, so many people dont care or dont have the ability to do it financially
It’s a tough job and don’t forget to take care of yourself. Does your dads doc know about the getting lost and is that getting worse? Like placing things in weird places, trouble recalling recent conversations or even the day before? I’m probably just over examining, but might be something to mention to his doctor next appointment. Kudos for caring for parents!
Care taker fatigue is real. Be conscious of it and make sure to keep your mental game strong
I feel for you... I essentially take care of both my grandmas and it's absolutely straining and sad and depressing but on the flip side anytime I'm able to give both of them a hug on the same day it generally boosts my mood but makes me miss my grandfathers that much more
You're doing the right thing
Yard work lol. Not a joke. It’s a good stress reliever to pull out some weeds
Loads of gamers also regularly pull out some weed
I like reading.
Skyrim has loads of books to read.
I remember being little and reading like there was no tomorrow…
I like YOU. I need more reader friends in my life
I read to take breaks from games. Really relaxing.
What do you like to read? When I try to read I end up going back to the same type of books.
I read a unhealthy amount too and still game. How much time are you putting in a week? At my highest I read about 40 hours a week. Lowest 21 hours -3 hours a day.
Play guitar, lift, watch TV
Curious. I have owned guitars for years and can play a little. How did you get past that early stage where you like a dopey idiot every time you try to play anything. I have a hard time with it mentally.
This ^ I do game but guitar and lifting are fantastic, especially with girls. Do something to better yourself.
play guitar, lift, wood work, but mostly watch youtube videos about playing guitar, lifting, and woodworking.
I assumed that every response was going to be 3 of 4 things. Like, I am serious lifter, have played instruments for years, and play video games but don’t watch tv.
I do these exact 3, just throw a wife and a toddler in the mix so they take about 95% of my free time, I divide the remaining 5% among these 3 activities
Hello, me if I wasn't overworked!
Shit, are you me?
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You dont quit OSRS, you just take a long break
A lot of people can do both. I usually game with my kids when I game but sometimes they need to play by themselves or with each other. I think it’s good for kids to be “bored” sometimes instead of the parents always entertaining them or telling them what to do. If they’re outside exploring, reading or otherwise playing I’ll sometimes play some rocket league if I don’t have anything pressing to take care of.
I got rid of my console to focus on IRL stuff...... like visiting glory holes.....
Where strangers become friends.
That sounds glorious
This is a cause I can get behind…
Ew, gross, where are these glory holes specifically? So I can avoid them, obviously.
Glory holes are weird. There's a moment where a penis is presented to you through the hole... and it's not an attractive penis. I know I'm on my knees in a dark booth after feeding monopoly money into a video machine, but I still have dick standards.
There's a place in France where the naked ladies dance, there's a whole in the wall where you stick your cock and balls...
omg matthew is that you?
They’re illegal in NY so we have sleezy video booths. It’s really not the same.
Well well well Deandra...
Baking, cooking, playing the piano, sucking cock, etc
wait what???? playing the piano?
Dude knows the good life of house husband
Baking? What you baking bro
Piano is pretty gay tbh. Pick up a more hetero instrument like the flute.
LOL. Same 👌🏻
Kinda gay honestly
This is me PLUS videogames.
Roses on the piano, tulips on the organ.
Holup moment right there
this is a little bit gay… cause why are you as a man plays the piano?
Read, cook, watch movies, hang out with my wife, play with my kid, go out for drinks/dinner with friends, take photos, edit photos, work, clean…and there’s always some DIY that could get done.
Yeah hanging with this dude's wife is very time consuming.
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I always feel better there. Even in wild weather, and now it's like a pavlovian reaction where the dopamine hits just leaving the house
That’s pretty neat
My days are pretty regimented. I play basketball on Mondays, I usually go to an open jam session on Tuesdays to play guitar, or I go to the gym. Wednesday is a rest day from almost any social activity and I try to use it for meal prep/tidying up. I just signed up for a stand up comedy class on Thursdays. Fridays and the weekend is seeing family and friends.
That's the last console I got. I do have some newer stuff on PC. Bought on sale. I do have trouble finishing games. They're too repetitive.
I work on cars, exercise, cook, socialize. Honestly to me idk how gamer dudes find the time
Easy, you just let your responsibilities pile up
Well I dont work on cars or socialize much so there ya go
We get into it when we're younger and have more free time, and then (try to) hold onto it as we get older and busier.
Some people will watch tv and scroll on her phone for 3-4 a day after diner and relaxing. I play video games with my friends that are spread all across the country. The first is somehow more acceptable than the second.
We don’t work on cars, don’t exercise regularly if we do it at all, don’t really cook (most of us not me but like most of my friends) and specially we don’t sociallize like what is this?
I do all and game except work on cars. Instead, I play weekly mens soccer
I read that as exersize cock.
Fucking milfs
You motherfucker.
Best part is they’re always in my area and they’re always ready. The sketchy porn site pop up told me so.
yung gravy is that you?
Is it possible to learn this power?
Build Lego sets and listen to audiobooks
The gym, walk the dogs, spend time with my lady, work etc.
M’Lady*
Me n my lady game
Mer lady
Feel weird because my friends play, all of them, and then there's me who doesn't. We excercise(I haven't in a while tho lol), go out once in a while, do stupid shit for fun (without harming anyone) and have a lot in common, but I just don't play video games, which is what they talk about half the time. And it's not one group of friends, it's all of them. Only my group of female friends don't play VG but they talk about stuff that sometimes I don't really care but I listen to them because they are my friends and I care if they care
So what do you do?
Dude is in virtual twitch
I make things. Woodworking, sewing, embroidery, programming, etc. it doesn't matter, I just like making things.
They're my words but I don't remember typing that.
I like this guy
Does D&D at a table with real people count?
Be an involved parent. Work a demanding job. Coach little League. Build motorcycles. Mountain biking with the kids. Camping with the family. Try like hell to get some alone time once a year with little success 😁
The first one takes up 99.9% of my time outside of work hours. In fact it pretty much mandates my work hours. I'm not staying back at work, I'm heading home to play lego and read stories to my 4yo.
Wow, you BUILD motorcycles. Nice.
Scrolled way too far to see someone mention their kids.
Read
Exercise, reading, hobbies, family stuff.
Working, cleaning, cooking, gardening, hunting, woodworking, improving my bushcrafting skills.
How many bushes does the world need that you have to spend so much time crafting them?
Nunchuck skills, bow hunting skills, computer hacking skills…
Golf, read, watch sports, go out to movies, go to bars, go to concerts, sleep, walk, dart league, go on trips.
Must be nice having enough money to actually have a life
GOLF!
I stopped gaming when I started fucking. Now that the fucking has stopped gaming is back on the menu.
I read about your penis paper shredder accident on Linkedin. Stay strong.
Ah yes I too browse le reddits good gentle sir
Work, gym, hunt. I'm 45 with 2 kids so their activities take up ALOT of my time including most weekends. Yes, I am tired....and broke.
Hi, Tired and Broke, I'm [a] Mom.
Listen man, you are loved and appreciated. It’s a lonely ass place being a family man. Your kids will see the world from on top of your shoulders. Even though they are not smart enough know how heavy they are.
After years of dominating COD servers, I realized one night, after a few shitty matches, that I wasted a lot of my life doing something that brings no joy to my soul. I then took up glassblowing. Find something that moves you beyond the temporary joy of a win. Do something to grow yourself.
I've always been fascinated by glassblowing. How does one get into it? I'm not very artsy when it comes to making physical art (I'm more of a musician/music producer), but I'd be open to trying it or learning more about it.
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This feels like where I'm at except I have no idea what to start doing. Everything seems like it requires way too much investment, creativity, or physical activity. Glassblowing seems to require all 3 lol.
Do blowjob skills transfer into glass blowing? Or are they one of those activities that seem related but really are two completely unrelated activities.
I, too, left after beating everyone in CoD like a rented red-headed stepson of a mule, but I just moved to single-player and co-op games.
Drugs. Sports. Fitness. Exersize cock.
SPORTS???? Thats kinda sus
Like...cock pushups?
This guy jelqs
Drink. Fulfills every insecurity. And only asks years off my life. Fair.
Why not drinking while gaming?
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Play my cello, work on my model trains, volunteer at a railroad museum, bowl on a league, work on any other side projects
I work, clean, cook, rock climb, play music, learn a foreign language, go to shows and bars, and spend time with my partner. If I had time for games I would play them, but I prefer all the things I listed (except for cooking and cleaning of course)!
I spend a great deal of time looking through my game library deciding what game to play, give up because of too many options and then rewatch some movie I've seen a dozen times instead.
I read this as "Guys that have no game what do you do instead". Responses still work out the same
Lifting weights
work, urgent chores, workout, spend time with my wife/walk/date/travel with her, less urgent chores
Lol love the urgent chores. Can definitely relate.
Jerk off more... and better.
I see a lot of “I don’t have time because I do x y z” listing things they probably do once a week.
Yeah evenings are pretty long. I can easily cook, eat, do sports, and come home and game for at least an hour if I wanted to.
I play video games, and:
Yeah but maybe they just don’t care to play games.
I was thinking the same thing. Like damn bro doesn’t take all day to exercise and cook
You know people are just flexing when they don't include reddit/social media/tv even though they had to be on reddit to comment. Bro if you were just shredding guitar and rock climbing and fixing your motorcycle you wouldn't be here.
That's the problem I think - people spend a lot of time doing "nothing" - watching netflix/youtube, browsing reddit/tiktok etc.
I like how few people write “watch TV” even though the average person watches hours and hours weekly.
Yep, just like no one is writing "go on my phone, use social media" as they respond to a reddit post.
I like playing guitar and piano, but I guess my favorite passtime is being with people. Like just going out for a coffee or drinks.
Good question!
Spending time with my family, working on old cars, playing guitar, projects around the house. camping, hiking, backpacking, going out with friends. There's an amazing world out there away from screens.
Fantasize about a time in my life I’ll be able to get back to it.
I like to run, workout, read, cook, stretch, tai chi, barre, go to temples, musuems, eat at new places, CrossFit, libraries/book stores, festivals
Now that’s a full life got dang
I watch a ton of tv, I also read, and I have almost a year long streak on duolingo, there's tons to do outside of gaming (I personally only have a month or two out of the year where I'm even interested in videogames, I get it out of my system pretty quick after that)
Drink
Workout, skateboard, fish, snowboard (including night riding), NFL, UFC/ONE.
Guitar, mountain biking, snowboarding, hanging out with other friends that don’t game
I do lots of reading and I spend time outside
Work, raise family, cook healthy, workout, doomscroll and substance abuse
BJJ, cook, workout, go shooting or work on my guns, read, watch or go to movies, and if I'm being honest, stare at my phone for too long.
First honest response in this thread lol. Good on ya!
Spend time with my kids, they’re 5 and 2.
That’s kinda short. How old are they?
Movies, sports, gardening, landscaping
Read, weed, work, lead
Make ant farms
I read while my son and daughter game. But then they get to the boss and I help sometimes.
I’m a hobbyist photographer, which I love to do. To me photography is so relaxing and peaceful.
Cool!
TV, social media, podcasts, go for walks, cooking, etc
Workout, read, do any kind of art, gardening..
I make things and model
Play multiple instruments in bands, work on and ride bicycles, maintain my health, enjoy time with and take care of my dogs, try to read more. There aren’t enough hours in a day, can’t imagine getting into a game time sink unless I’m sick or something and can’t focus on a book or movie at least
Sometimes just lie in bed for hours and look at my phone or read. Or kind of close my eyes for a while.
Does chess count as gaming? I play chess.
So there are these wonderful things called books..
Workout, photography & hit on local MILFS.
I build robots. Big. Complex.
Play live music, podcasting, watching movies, reading, spending time with my spouse, pets, go out to local breweries…
Learn Spanish,
Work, eat, play with my kids, sleep, repeat. No time for games.
Make games.
Hang out with my wife lol or clean the house/take care of the pets. I wish I had extra time for hobbies but that is rare.
Gym, reading, piano, Chinese, growing vegetables, housework, bake pie.
Full time Animator, content creator and drummer. I also prefer, when I have a moment to breathe, to get up and walk away from the many screens and build with my hands actual tangible things. Games are a time suck and I’d personally rather entertain myself using non digital methods.
Cock
Work, read, ride my motorcycle, lift, hike, socialize. Gave up gaming a few years ago. Good decision in my opinion.
I paint portraits in oil and I lift weights
I really liked rdr2, and would try to fit in time late at night to do it, but I found it to challenging to keep up on it time wise, my schedule with work and family is too busy. Then when I try to get back into it once in a blue moon i can’t remember the controls and that kind of stuff so I just give it up.
When i am at home
Make videos, play disc golf, play piano, compose music, meditate, read, make 3d art.
When not gaming I enjoy wood working, making music, 3D printing, and making Halloween Decorations.
I'm in my 50s. I walk the dogs, enjoy making item of furniture from wood and sexy time with my gorgeous wife
I study language and repair my vehicles on a constant cycle. And work 80+ hours. Lol. I treat things like games with levels though. It helps.