My best friend has been single for over a year and we've been hanging out a little more, not really even that much, but it's been awesome. She just got interested in someone and they've been hanging out multiple days in a row and she's been leaving me on a read and sending non-answers when she does get around to it. I've been in a funk about it. I'm happy for her, genuinely! I met her crush and I actually really like her, but I'm also hurt. The amount of time and attention I'm hoping for here is so fucking minimal. But of course once an allo gets in that romance-fueled haze, they're fucking gone; for weeks or months. I have a qpp and I'm poly, I understand new relationship energy, believe me I do, but I don't blow off the rest of my people. They don't suddenly matter less just because I'm excited about a new connection. I will NEVER understand allos for this.
She seems comfortable with you. I'd head to her place with the intention of just hanging out and catching up, but with the understanding that she may be open to more. If you don't want more to happen, insist on hanging out in public but offer to give her a ride.
I do this. Dating apps are how I make friends. By trying to "date"/fuck people and then... failing? Friendship isn't a boobie prize though, I genuinely value the Friendships often more than the fuckship, and I usually end up recycling lol.
Came here to say this. My medium-tall self has more time; to either gently catch it and lower it down like a footbag pro or boot it into the stratosphere like a FIFA goalie. It's a binary state. Shrodinger's save.
I said he makes you feel bad about it. I didn’t mean on purpose. The disparity exists, and it makes you feel bad. I don't believe in soul mates but if I did, mine wouldn't be someone who's desires are so mismatched to my own.
I don't really have a word for the feeling I have about us still being able to "talk" to that lil guy. Nostalgia, a little pride, comfort for some reason? We made something and put a little snapshot of our soul on it and now it's 15 billion miles away! I will never be able to conceive of a distance that large or an isolation that immense. But we can still check in. And we still want to. It's just, idk, cute or something.
I had my first attack ever the month after I weaned my son. They were bad bad and responded to NOTHING until I got back on birth control. Then I survived on CGRP inhibitor shots like emgality for 7 years. Then I stopped birth control AND the shots because of a different medical issue and they stopped entirely?! I've only had shadows and 2 or 3 breakthrough but abortable headaches in over a year. So hormones definitely caused/triggered my attacks, and they also stopped them, but with no discernable pattern as to how. Fucking annoying.
My wife and I both changed our names. New family, new name. Our son was born 14 months later. It's his name now more than ours, he's never had another.
I had a car with a bad battery. I called AAA to provide assistance. When the tow guy jumped the battery, I told him I was under the impression that I had to pay AAA for the service, not him. As I was calling AAA, the tow truck driver pulled in front of me and started backing up toward my car, intending to tow my now functional car to the station. I backed up and drove around the truck. He then jumped out of the cab and chased me through a parking lot. All this while I frantically explained to the AAA agent what was happening.
I bought a chargeable jump from an autoparts store. Basic ones for normal cars are like 50 bucks. My car's cold cranking amps demand is higher but I still only paid like $80.
Don't feel bad for being you! Having a primarily responsive desire is super attractive and ideal for certain matches. First of all, no one is one OR the other, it's a continuum. Typically the mismatch happens when two people are on opposing sides of that spectrum and then do what pretty much everyone in a normative relationship does for some freaking reason. They avoid talking about sex with their, ya know, sex partner. Also they put a LOT of their own validation and self-worth on their perceived sexual appeal, which kinda sets them up for failure, but I digress.
There are often a LOT of attraction misalignment in relationships that normative folks just ignore (at their own peril, tbh). I know way too many men who don't really like their girlfriends as people, they are not plantonically attracted to them. I know a lot of women who are romantically and platonically attracted to their male partners but the sexual attraction is meh or fades (more women might be fraysexual than is realized, I think it's an evolutionary thing, but I digress.)
This is false. Your making assumption based on your ideology. Reddit will downvote anything that doesnt align to their ideological belief regardless of what is fact or easily found in credible sources.
Typical Reddit interaction. Post uninformed, ideological driven information usually sourced through a tiktock of a screaming fanatical person. And, when somebody has an opinion, otherwise demand a credible source.
Oh come off it smarty pants. I'm a parent in my late 30s who looked extensively into adoption, both private and from foster care. I was discriminated from the former for being gay and the latter because I lived full time in an RV. I'm an old bitch, I don't have tik tok and loath the platform. Get fucking bent.
We play Spacelines. Not sure if it's still on Game Pass but my son is 8 and we've played it since it was released on Game Pass. Sometimes his shenanigans make the game harder so my wife and I have to team up to compensate. None of us are super competitive on a silly game like that so it's really fun and funny.
If you stood next to one when it blew up, it’d be more accurate to say you ablate. It’s not so much a phase transition as its biology turning into physics, skipping over chemistry in the process.
Hmm I thought falling in love was a sort of uncontrollable obsessive feeling, rather than just loving people? Taking those aspects into account, I definitely have not fallen in love with a person. I would actually be interested to know if you meant loving people or if you have ever experienced that “falling in love” thing with other people in your life. Maybe it is possible? I don’t know.
My only worry is the biphobia K will experience. As a bi girl myself, many queer women will avoid dating us for the potential reasons in the post. They often believe we will cheat with or end up with a man at some point anyway. 😓
I sort of theoretically understand why biphohia exists (men can and do use women's bad bi-havior to justify corrective rape and it's adjacent culture ie: all wlw are only queer until the right peen comes along) but I never personally related to the lesbians shunning bi gals thing. A bisexual woman who is even only 30% preferenced towards men is statistically likely to "end up" with a man. That isn't them being fake bis, glorifying men, or internalized misogyny/homophobia, that's math! My best friend is a self-identified "barely-bi" and has been single for a long time as she is primarily searching for a woman partner. She finds it annoying to know that if she opened herself up to a male partner she could have 3 dates a week for the foreseeable.
Your mom seems confused about like, every form of sex?! Most women can't even get a vaginal orgasm and I think the percentage is even lower for afab trans men, come ON mom. Some trans guys don't mind it but why the FUCK would enjoying vaginal sex even stop someone's transition when, depending on your medical plans, you can continue to do it after!!
I asked chatGPT what a good collective noun would be for a group of trans lesbians as I was very impressed with this quorum of em who came together very quickly and precisely to concurr on the very important matter of NOT engaging sexually with this bigot. The first offering was a "parade" which felt too obvious and has been used for other subgroups of queers but the second offering was a "blossom" which, frankly, is annoyingly clever.
Every lesbian too. Women flirting is in 4 dimensions of space-time and the punishment for misreading shrodihger's flirt is high. Decoding the wormhole is too hard even, for some fucking reason, when you are also a woman who flirts that way. Better to avoid the trap altogether lest you get sucked into and trapped on an eternal event horizon of "is she into me or not" until the heat death of the universe.
I don’t think the classic lesbian cluelessness is entirely the fault of 4d lady flirting, after all the posts I’ve seen that amount to “she told me she’s never felt so safe and happy with anyone else before and we made out last night and also she grabs my ass daily, but I think I’m reading too much into this and she just sees me as a good friend” lmao
My best friend has been single for over a year and we've been hanging out a little more, not really even that much, but it's been awesome. She just got interested in someone and they've been hanging out multiple days in a row and she's been leaving me on a read and sending non-answers when she does get around to it. I've been in a funk about it. I'm happy for her, genuinely! I met her crush and I actually really like her, but I'm also hurt. The amount of time and attention I'm hoping for here is so fucking minimal. But of course once an allo gets in that romance-fueled haze, they're fucking gone; for weeks or months. I have a qpp and I'm poly, I understand new relationship energy, believe me I do, but I don't blow off the rest of my people. They don't suddenly matter less just because I'm excited about a new connection. I will NEVER understand allos for this.
She seems comfortable with you. I'd head to her place with the intention of just hanging out and catching up, but with the understanding that she may be open to more. If you don't want more to happen, insist on hanging out in public but offer to give her a ride.
I do this. Dating apps are how I make friends. By trying to "date"/fuck people and then... failing? Friendship isn't a boobie prize though, I genuinely value the Friendships often more than the fuckship, and I usually end up recycling lol.
Nope because tall people have more time to react and break the fall with their foot
Came here to say this. My medium-tall self has more time; to either gently catch it and lower it down like a footbag pro or boot it into the stratosphere like a FIFA goalie. It's a binary state. Shrodinger's save.
I have a feeling I’m going to lose then man of my dreams because I simply can’t keep up with his sex drive
I don't think the person of my dreams would make me feel bad about my sexuality.
If anything he has been super supportive. Never pressures me, is kind and compassionate, but I can tell he is disappointed
I said he makes you feel bad about it. I didn’t mean on purpose. The disparity exists, and it makes you feel bad. I don't believe in soul mates but if I did, mine wouldn't be someone who's desires are so mismatched to my own.
I don't really have a word for the feeling I have about us still being able to "talk" to that lil guy. Nostalgia, a little pride, comfort for some reason? We made something and put a little snapshot of our soul on it and now it's 15 billion miles away! I will never be able to conceive of a distance that large or an isolation that immense. But we can still check in. And we still want to. It's just, idk, cute or something.
I had my first attack ever the month after I weaned my son. They were bad bad and responded to NOTHING until I got back on birth control. Then I survived on CGRP inhibitor shots like emgality for 7 years. Then I stopped birth control AND the shots because of a different medical issue and they stopped entirely?! I've only had shadows and 2 or 3 breakthrough but abortable headaches in over a year. So hormones definitely caused/triggered my attacks, and they also stopped them, but with no discernable pattern as to how. Fucking annoying.
In other words, me me me me me...right after they officially became a "we". Well she did but he's still a "me".
I wish I had kept my name. Kids make logistics weird, but I should not give up my identity just because we are married.
My wife and I both changed our names. New family, new name. Our son was born 14 months later. It's his name now more than ours, he's never had another.
My work hours are 7-3, but the bus comes at 7:30 and I’m not allowed to drop my daughter off at the school before 8:15.
Janet's awareness of how bad of a mother she would be is comforting.
I had a car with a bad battery. I called AAA to provide assistance. When the tow guy jumped the battery, I told him I was under the impression that I had to pay AAA for the service, not him. As I was calling AAA, the tow truck driver pulled in front of me and started backing up toward my car, intending to tow my now functional car to the station. I backed up and drove around the truck. He then jumped out of the cab and chased me through a parking lot. All this while I frantically explained to the AAA agent what was happening.
I bought a chargeable jump from an autoparts store. Basic ones for normal cars are like 50 bucks. My car's cold cranking amps demand is higher but I still only paid like $80.
omg, thank you so much for your service! Thats too funny.
Hmm… well, this pair of comments makes me feel bad for being— uhh.. looks up in chat. responsive? Lol
Don't feel bad for being you! Having a primarily responsive desire is super attractive and ideal for certain matches. First of all, no one is one OR the other, it's a continuum. Typically the mismatch happens when two people are on opposing sides of that spectrum and then do what pretty much everyone in a normative relationship does for some freaking reason. They avoid talking about sex with their, ya know, sex partner. Also they put a LOT of their own validation and self-worth on their perceived sexual appeal, which kinda sets them up for failure, but I digress.
There are often a LOT of attraction misalignment in relationships that normative folks just ignore (at their own peril, tbh). I know way too many men who don't really like their girlfriends as people, they are not plantonically attracted to them. I know a lot of women who are romantically and platonically attracted to their male partners but the sexual attraction is meh or fades (more women might be fraysexual than is realized, I think it's an evolutionary thing, but I digress.)
This is false. Your making assumption based on your ideology. Reddit will downvote anything that doesnt align to their ideological belief regardless of what is fact or easily found in credible sources.
Typical Reddit interaction. Post uninformed, ideological driven information usually sourced through a tiktock of a screaming fanatical person. And, when somebody has an opinion, otherwise demand a credible source.
Oh come off it smarty pants. I'm a parent in my late 30s who looked extensively into adoption, both private and from foster care. I was discriminated from the former for being gay and the latter because I lived full time in an RV. I'm an old bitch, I don't have tik tok and loath the platform. Get fucking bent.
I would die mainly because it's my obligation
It counts my dude.
We play Spacelines. Not sure if it's still on Game Pass but my son is 8 and we've played it since it was released on Game Pass. Sometimes his shenanigans make the game harder so my wife and I have to team up to compensate. None of us are super competitive on a silly game like that so it's really fun and funny.
If you stood next to one when it blew up, it’d be more accurate to say you ablate. It’s not so much a phase transition as its biology turning into physics, skipping over chemistry in the process.
Hmm I thought falling in love was a sort of uncontrollable obsessive feeling, rather than just loving people? Taking those aspects into account, I definitely have not fallen in love with a person. I would actually be interested to know if you meant loving people or if you have ever experienced that “falling in love” thing with other people in your life. Maybe it is possible? I don’t know.
Commenting on porn is weird af
This is where I'm at. I wouldn't leave my spouse out of betrayal, I'd leave out of repulsion. 🤨
My only worry is the biphobia K will experience. As a bi girl myself, many queer women will avoid dating us for the potential reasons in the post. They often believe we will cheat with or end up with a man at some point anyway. 😓
I sort of theoretically understand why biphohia exists (men can and do use women's bad bi-havior to justify corrective rape and it's adjacent culture ie: all wlw are only queer until the right peen comes along) but I never personally related to the lesbians shunning bi gals thing. A bisexual woman who is even only 30% preferenced towards men is statistically likely to "end up" with a man. That isn't them being fake bis, glorifying men, or internalized misogyny/homophobia, that's math! My best friend is a self-identified "barely-bi" and has been single for a long time as she is primarily searching for a woman partner. She finds it annoying to know that if she opened herself up to a male partner she could have 3 dates a week for the foreseeable.
Your mom seems confused about like, every form of sex?! Most women can't even get a vaginal orgasm and I think the percentage is even lower for afab trans men, come ON mom. Some trans guys don't mind it but why the FUCK would enjoying vaginal sex even stop someone's transition when, depending on your medical plans, you can continue to do it after!!
Hahahahhahhah this whole thread
I asked chatGPT what a good collective noun would be for a group of trans lesbians as I was very impressed with this quorum of em who came together very quickly and precisely to concurr on the very important matter of NOT engaging sexually with this bigot. The first offering was a "parade" which felt too obvious and has been used for other subgroups of queers but the second offering was a "blossom" which, frankly, is annoyingly clever.
No, he’s referencing the double slit experiment.
One of the gayest sounding experiment names tbh. But, like, that one is in the other gender bathroom.
Every lesbian too. Women flirting is in 4 dimensions of space-time and the punishment for misreading shrodihger's flirt is high. Decoding the wormhole is too hard even, for some fucking reason, when you are also a woman who flirts that way. Better to avoid the trap altogether lest you get sucked into and trapped on an eternal event horizon of "is she into me or not" until the heat death of the universe.
I don’t think the classic lesbian cluelessness is entirely the fault of 4d lady flirting, after all the posts I’ve seen that amount to “she told me she’s never felt so safe and happy with anyone else before and we made out last night and also she grabs my ass daily, but I think I’m reading too much into this and she just sees me as a good friend” lmao
Very true. Useless lesbian stereotypes make clueless men stereotypes look like gotdamned savants.
I apologize in advance for the anxiety I might cause, but: