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  1. Unfair?!???! No. Just no. Absolutely not the least bit unfair in the slightest.

  2. I don’t blame you for being furious with your wife and not forgiving her. She was an adult who made the choice over and over again to lie to you for years about your son. I understand why you are angry with your son, but you should remember that he was a child when he discovered the truth about his parentage, and I’m sure he lied out of fear and bad advice/manipulation from his mother. I think you should apologize to your son and accept his apology for both of your poor choices in a terrible situation that was none of either of your doing. You two should both speak to a family therapist and figure it out because you ARE family, no matter what the DNA test says.

  3. I think that’s lovely. I’m an older woman, myself, and I have taken younger people under my wing because I care for their well being and wanted to help them as they grew into adulthood, and my husband has done the same. And honestly, it didn’t matter the age, sex, gender, or orientation of the person we brought into our fold because we just love them and want to nurture them and help them in any way we can. We don’t have any children of our own, but we have so much love to share, and we have been so fortunate to have known so many wonderful people who have come into our lives. Family is not always blood. Family is often built on the love in our hearts and what we give of ourselves to those we meet along the way. But be aware that not everyone will have good intentions as this woman appears to have. So just pay attention to how people treat you and listen to your instincts.

  4. NTA. You need to get in touch with your therapist and see them immediately. Screw anyone who is giving you any shit about this. You did the absolute correct thing. I’m sorry this happened, but it’s a good thing that it happened before you got married to someone who has shown that they cannot be trusted in any way whatsoever.

  5. Absolutely not. You have made a choice to handle this in the least destructive manner possible while still ensuring that your children and you are protected from harm after you learned the truth about the lying cheating POS you married. What you did was not even sneaky or underhanded, but rather it was the result of your clear thinking in a crisis where once you had learned that your entire life and marriage that you had spent over a decade making a home and then having children with this person, all in good faith, which turned out to be nothing more than a sham and a cover for your wife to have access to her family’s money and connections while also cheating on you, her husband, in order to carry on an illicit affair with her high school sweetheart. You have been lied to, manipulated, and used the entire time. TBH, there have been books & movies, blockbusters that have been wildly successful, about less outrageous behavior than what your spouse has done to you and your family. She has chosen to knowingly bring children into her convoluted scheme to make sure that both you and her parents will not question the legitimacy of your marriage. And she has been the only one with all of the information necessary to make informed decisions about anything. It’s outrageous that she is playing victim at this point,,knowing who and what she is, but it’s not surprising in the least. You should probably prepare yourself for her behavior to get worse as you move forward because it’s very clear that she only cares about herself, and nothing & no one else is important to her. Even your children are nothing but a means to an end for her. Gird your loins, man, because I think you are probably going to have to use the proof of her infidelity to get her to go through this process as quickly and as quietly as possible, and you will probably need to have that Sword of Damocles until all of your children are on their own, and I suggest you always keep a sharp pocket knife handy or anything sharp enough to cut through that strand of hair.

  6. This may have been the first time he hit you, but it won’t be the last. And it will get worse. If you can’t get away from your husband to save yourself, then do it for your babies because if you don’t, you will be dooming them to learning how to learn to function in an abusive environment and teaching them that that is what love looks like. And if you love your children, you must want more and better for all 3 of you than to live in fear until all of your lives are destroyed by this abuser. Please listen to everyone here. We have no dog in this fight & only want you and your children to be safe and healthy. Read Lundy’s book.

  7. Former teacher here. You make a B-line straight for your principal’s office, and you you tell them everything that happened. Document, document, document. Next you tell everyone you are close to about this situation, and then you make sure that your school/school system follows the law and makes sure that you are protected and that this girl is dealt with appropriately through the juvenile justice system because you know that she’s already had some run-ins with the law/cops. This is NOT a situation where pretending that she has not been following you & threatening you didn’t happen will make it go away because she knows exactly what she’s doing. She is attempting to skirt the law by not doing anything overt, but what she is doing is a very clear threat to your safety, and you need to take steps to protect yourself which also means that you need to get her out of your classroom immediately and make sure that she doesn’t get access to you at any time during the school day and that she knows that any attempt to approach or harm or harass you will result in both legal action and scholastic consequences including expulsion. Don’t play this game with her.

  8. My husband is a driver, and even he can’t count on his scheduled off times because you never know when rush will end or who’s going to call out of work that day. And you really can’t just leave the crew hanging in the middle of a crazy rush when it’s slamming hard. I used to work fast food. So I completely understand how that works. If you want a more reliable schedule, then I suggest that you get an office job, but even working at a desk with the standard 8-5 hours, you will possibly still times when your job will need you to work late. TBH, I have had to be in my office or work from home and then go in early the next morning where I had to work until 1:00 AM & be back in the office at 7:30 that same morning, and I was an administrative assistant. And don’t get me started on other jobs that I’ve had where I’ve had to work crazier hours to get my work done for a deadline at my office. And I didn’t always have advanced notice of having to work late. For example, I had to work late on Valentine’s Day one year with no notice, and I didn’t get home until after 10pm that night.

  9. Natural consequences are way more than enough for her. I wish she had tried using an app to see how she would’ve looked before she did this IRL, but no. This didn’t happen. No one needs to punish her more than her peers will do this to her. What needs to happen is that the parents should listen to and support her and help her through this difficult process & nothing more. By the time it’s over and she will have recovered, she will have been through enough and will have learned many lessons from this. And no punishments will have been necessary. Poor girl.

  10. I recommend that you immediately seek out the advice of both a therapist and an attorney to help you navigate this impossible situation. Both of your children are going to be devastated to learn that their father is not who they believe he is, and there will probably be some blowback into you if for no other reason than that you will be the only parent they can trust to be there & take it. Also, I am quite sure that you have heard the phrase “kill the messenger”. It’s a real thing, though it’s not literal in most cases. You are aware that your POS spouse has been busy setting up bombs throughout your marriage and family that would inevitably be detonated by someone or something, and that he did not care about who or what he destroyed in the process of him getting what he wanted. I don’t know if you have considered that your son’s girlfriend is also a victim of your husband in that she was certainly groomed prior to her turning 18 when she was no longer “jail bait” and your husband was finally able to plant his “flag” on new ground. Who knows how long this was going on, and what tactics your husband employed to manipulate her into this situation? I know that you are destroyed and outraged by your husband’s behavior, but your family members are not the only victims of your husband. He has also been in this child’s head for who knows how long, and the damage he has done is going to be enormous to her, as well. And her parents will need to know what your husband has done to her so she can get counseling, too. I don’t think anyone should expect you to not be angry at her, but I do think that as a parent, you should at least think about that & not just leave her to deal with this alone because once this all comes to light, she will be isolated and labeled quite badly when she is a victim, too. But before you do anything, book appointments with a therapist and an attorney. Do not discuss anything with anyone else until you have made a plan to make sure that everyone is safe and that you can get things handled in the best possible way for your children and yourself because this is the priority. Also, make sure that you have a safety plan for your family which includes making sure that your husband cannot find you & the kids if things go sideways. You do not know how things will go or how he will react when he discovers that the jig is up. Plan for everything that you can imagine. I am so sorry for everything that you’re experiencing right now and what’s going to happen because you & your family are in for a difficult period of time, but you can get through it together as a family.

  11. You’re only confused about how to give everyone their own way, but that’s just not going to happen. Here’s what you need to do: Make it clear to your parents that you and your fiancé are grateful for them wanting to throw a dinner party while your whole family is in town for the wedding and that they want to include your future in-laws. However, you and your fiancé are not interested in participating in an elaborate pre-wedding before your actual wedding and that once you’re married, you will be making your own family traditions. They will include some elements of both sides of the family, but they will also include new traditions that will be uniquely your own, and they will grow and evolve as your family grows over the years to come. Thank them for their generosity, love, and support. And then you and your fiancé should ask your parents to discuss the plans for the dinner and what changes you need to make together. If your parents refuse to be flexible, remember that you are not required to attend the party, and that if you do choose to attend, you do not have to do anything that you don’t want to do, including wearing something that you don’t want to wear or doing anything that you do not want to do.

  12. She was not even a little bit subtle about her intentions. It sounds like she had no interest in actually being with you or being on a date with you because when you go on a date with someone, you show interest in them over the course of the date & leave your phone in your pocket or purse. And if you want to get something to eat on the date even though it wasn’t part of the plan, you don’t try to be sneaky about it and then turn around and try to manipulate your date into paying for your food. In fact, it’s rude and presumptuous to even think that your date is going to buy your drinks. It’s expensive to go out drinking when you’re paying for 2 people, especially when 1 of them is actually dating your wallet rather than the person attatched to it. And to then phone it in with the fake emergency immediately after she finished her meal only to top that off with a smorgasbord of poorly attempted manipulation,, I think you won the Shit-Bag-Bingo, man. That winning ticket is that she bolted earlier than she could have rather than turning in a classic Stage 5 Clinger claiming to be pregnant with your baby even though she only gave you a blow job, making the outrageous statement that she “didn’t swallow, but had instead put it in its intended place for its intended purpose.” So yeah, just be grateful that you only spent time with her in public because you had a very near miss. Thank fuck for healthy boundaries, man.

  13. I’m so glad that you’re making progress with this because it’s really good for you, both mentally and physically. I do want to offer you a piece of advice. When you’re masturbating, don’t grip yourself too hard, and use a rather lighter touch because if you grip too hard it can cause you problems later on when you’re actually being intimate with another person. It’s actually called the Death Grip. There’s a sex advice columnist who has been writing about sex & giving advice for decades. His name is Dan Savage, and his column is called Savage Love. I don’t think there’s much he hasn’t written about in terms of answering questions about sex and relationships. I hope you continue to enjoy your self discovery & learn more about what makes you feel good because your dad is absolutely right about it being a completely normal thing that everyone on the planet does. You might even be interested in finding some written erotica that might work for you instead of or in addition to videos if videos don’t work for you.

  14. I’m in no position to judge you or to explain your motivations, but I might have some suggestions. You may be drawn to hooking up with white guys possibly because you don’t see them as viable candidates for relationships, and they are therefore “safe” to play with while you’re in school. I totally understand that as a possibility. It could also be a way to rebel against your parents’ programming, and it might feel a little bit transgressive to “walk on the wild side” knowing that a lot of people aren’t going to approve of interracial relationships, however short lived they may be. Years & years ago, Whoopi Goldberg & Ted Danson were involved in a very public romantic relationship, and it ended in a very public debacle about 2 years later. I think an important part of their relationship involved the shock factor that their relationship caused when people were faced with it. And though it was never confirmed, Ted Danson’s parents were ultimately blamed for their breakup in the end. In my younger years, I was involved in a romantic relationship with a man who was not a member of my race, and due to the fact that there were some serious risks involved, we had to keep our relationship a secret. And very few people in my life actually have any idea that he was a big part of my life and that we had planned to be married. And at one point, my two best friends found out about my relationship and confronted me about it. They were outraged and cut off all contact with me as a result, but they didn’t reveal the relationship to others. So the fact that you are able to enjoy your life in the way that makes you happy as you experiment through your college years and the fact that you can do so safely makes me happy. I hope that you will continue to enjoy your college years and that you will take the time to figure out why you’re making the choices that you are when the time is right and learn from your experiences is really an important part of your college education. I can tell you that the education that I got outside of the classroom was just as valuable as the education that I received in my the Ivory Tower during my college years.

  15. “Finding your way back to each other” when the other is a piece of lying, cheating scum of the earth is not the least bit “romantic”. His behavior has done nothing but destroy your self esteem and keep you tethered to him like an albatross around your neck that is nothing more than a carcass of dead weight pulling you down. And if you really were attacked by a group of women on behalf of one of his conquests, that should have sent you screaming naked in the night & running for your life considering the fact that he had “proposed” a life of misery to you that very evening. And the fact that it didn’t means that you are in desperate need of counseling to get yourself out of this toxic relationship and repair yourself. You certainly don’t need to be in any kind of relationship until you figure out why you don’t believe you deserve so much better than this piece of shit.

  16. NTA even a little bit. I used to be a teacher, and my summer “breaks” were the busy time for me when I was prepping for the next year, & teaching summer school. This neighbor is a piece of work. Just take her not speaking to you as the gift it is & hope she keeps it up.

  17. Look, I had a similar issue with my parents. And when my mom found out that my fiancé was living with me, she lost her shit & tried to force me to kick him out. She had no right to do that as I was an adult who was living on my own and paying all of my own bills myself. The funny thing is that we weren’t having sex even though we were living together. She actually called me a liar, but I told her that she didn’t have to believe me because I knew the truth. But the fact is that your sex life & the people you choose to have as a part of that area of your life is a private matter, and your parents are inappropriately intrusive in this regard. They have no right to be invasive or to do the things that they have done. Once you turned the age of consent, they should have stopped haranguing you about choices. And they have no right to any information about your sex life whatsoever. Even as a teenager, they should have recognized that they cannot control your every choice and behavior. They should have realized that they would have to understand that they should trust that they had taught you what you needed to know & that they could trust you to make the best choices for yourself, and they should also have known that you are human and as such that you would learn from your mistakes. They should have only been concerned with making sure that that you were safe and that you were educated on the topics of safety, consent, pregnancy, birth control, STD’s, mutual respect and pleasure, and making sure that you felt comfortable going to them with any questions you might have. Sadly, that is very rarely how children are brought up when it comes to the subject of sex.

  18. Not even a little bit. I think you were targeted not only because you’re Muslim, but also because you are a woman and your coworker felt entitled to your food because he shouldn’t have to prepare his own food when there is a woman who is putting her food in the fridge just waiting for him to grab when he wants it. I’m not saying that all Muslims are thieves or anything like that, just that culturally women are seen as the ones who do “women’s work” like cooking, and their position in society is lower than men, regardless of where they live in the world.

  19. I would either go with “they were joke gifts” or “research/educational purposes for paper that I have been working on for an online college social prep project that I have been working on during my free time”. You can follow that up with a statement about the fact that you come from a deeply devout Christian home and that you have some concerns about going off to college and being exposed to the sinful ideas, activities, and practices, and that you are also worried about peer pressure in college. So you wanted to start your prep early to “stay on top of your worries as well as get as prepared as possible. If she buys this load of bullshit, you might be able to slide other things that you might end up getting caught doing as further “research” in your college prep”. And definitely find better hiding places for your toys, places that are not in your bedroom. You can purchase something called a “diversion stash safe”. For example, you can get one that looks like a can of shaving cream or a can of corn. They make then look like something other than what it actually is so when your mom goes tearing your room apart or even the whole house, she won’t find anything unless you stick the “can of corn” next to your bed. You’d actually stash it at the back of the cabinet in the kitchen. And you’d put the shaving cream in the back of the linen closet or wherever it goes in your house. Hidden in plain sight is your safest bet.

  20. No, that is not “just what men do before they are ‘stuck’ banging same woman for the rest of their lives”. Not only is that completely false information & a choice that he made, but it was also incredibly insulting to you in how he saw his justification for cheating on you right before he married you. He put you at risk physically by cheating, and he has lied to you about this since it happened, and he had been trying to justify his own shitty behavior by turning it around on you and saying that you shouldn’t even be upset about this outrageous behavior because “it’s just what me in America do” before they hang up their dicks & retire their balls by handing them over to their wives once they tie the knot to their new ball & chain. That’s not something that women put up with anywhere. I can tell you that before my husband & I got married, my in-laws assured me that I shouldn’t worry about their so cheating on me because he was very loyal. I was just floored by that because it came out of nowhere. It had never occurred to me to even think about that as far as he was concerned. And it was several years into our marriage when I learned that my father-in-law had a history of cheating on my MIL. So that explained that weird-ass reassurance that came out of nowhere & had nothing to do with either of us. It doesn’t matter how long ago your husband cheated on you because you have just discovered that it happened. And that makes it a fresh, new revelation of his betrayal of you and your relationship. You will have to deal with it however you need to, and it doesn’t matter when it happened even though you have three children and have built a life together. He should have thought about what he was doing when he was going to be selfish, cheat, and lie. I strongly urge you to get in touch with a therapist for individual therapy & consult with them about also getting into marriage counseling, too. Take care of yourself.

  21. I’m late to the party, but for next time, definitely order some stuffed cheese bread with pepperoni added to it. You can thank me later. Then you can order the wings of your choice, or if you don’t necessarily like the sauces they have on the menu, just order them plain & use whatever sauce you have at home. And finally, order your favorite pizza. Or if you want to get something really decadent, go for a pizza with Alfredo sauce with sausage, & extra cheese. You can also add some onions & maybe some bell peppers if you want to make it look a bit healthy. I will sometimes only add light onions, but that’s just me. Just make sure you don’t forget to take your cholesterol meds and your blood thinners before you go to bed.

  22. With friends like you, who needs enemies? There are plenty of other big dicks to climb on top of instead of your alleged “best friend’s” boyfriend, i.e. guys who aren’t married & and not in committed relationships. Unless you’re into not only destroying people’s relationships, but also fucking up their self esteem and their lives, especially when it comes to the people who have been real friends to you and cared for and gone out of their way for you, given of themselves, from their heart to you. Think about how your actions will impact the people around you when you act selfishly for whatever sweaty, short, deceptive thrill you may get from being a complete asshole. I have no problem with people who like to have the hoochie-coochie with whoever strikes their fancy—just as long as they’re not leaving a path of destruction in their wake which is what you’ll be doing if you fuck your best friend’s boyfriend who she has been with for years. And honestly, if your motives were pure, I’d recommend that you find a way to help her find out to protect her. But she actually needs to be protected from both of you. And that makes me really sad for her.

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