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  1. This could just be a matter of overthinking - are you constantly thinking about what to say as you are saying it? The key is loosening up your "inner critic" and just talking, regardless of what comes out. This may seem like a horrible idea at first, but I think you'll find yourself not only expressing yourself more in general, but also more clearly and spontaneously.

  2. its like switching the game difficulty from easy mode to hardcore veteran mode lol. did you even think this through?

  3. Can you explain why you think this? In terms of the job, I do realize working in Turkey is not ideal, but since it is only for one of us it should not be too bad.

  4. Thank you for the suggestion! Do you have any other areas you would recommend?

  5. Thanks for the advice, you've been one of the most helpful people so far! Two areas no one has really mentioned but I´d like to know about are Kocaeli and Ankara. Are there any Russian speakers in those areas? Any other area specifications or suggestions are welcome as well.

  6. Hello. I wish you luck in your search. I don’t have anything helpful in regards to your question but I just wanted to (hopefully) alleviate some of your concerns.

  7. Thanks for the advice, you've been one of the most helpful people so far! You are actually the first person to suggest Ankara, are there really Russian speakers there? Another area we are considering is Kocaeli; are there any Russian speakers there?

  8. My Estonian fellow, aparting from known places, just stay away from other Russian populated areas such as western outskirts of Mersin (Anamur, Aydıncık, Akkuyu, Taşucu and Silifke), as they're populated by families of Russian engineers and technicians work for Akkuyu Nuclear Powerplant.

  9. Thanks for the advice, you've been one of the most helpful people so far! Two areas no one has really mentioned but I´d like to know about are Kocaeli and Ankara. Are there any Russian speakers in those areas?

  10. Turkey is an interesting choice. Western Turkey would be your best bet, likely Izmir or Antalya, but I wouldnt go any more inland than that. You wont find too many Russian speakers in Turkey outside of large cities.

  11. Thanks for the advice, that is helpful! What makes you suggest not going any more inland? Two areas no one has really mentioned but I´d like to know about are Kocaeli and Ankara. Are there any Russian speakers in those areas?

  12. Thanks for the advice, you've been one of the most helpful people so far! Two areas no one has really mentioned but I´d like to know about are Kocaeli and Ankara. Are there any Russian speakers in those areas?

  13. Well, I can only give my own perspective as a single/unmarried guy who likes to hang out in the night. So, take my advice with a grain of salt.

  14. That is a lot of information, thanks a lot! Do you have a main suggestion out of all the cities, I am guessing perhaps Izmir? The 2 main things we are looking for are cheapest real estate (thus I think Antalya is out of the question) and getting by with Russian.

  15. You want to be able to drive but also fly using the same vehicle :) That's difficult... Antalya was suggested because of the Russian community, basically you wouldn't have any communication problems. If Antalya is too expensive for you, İzmir will also be. These two are on the same level of life quality. Between İzmir and Antalya, you should pick the letter because İzmir has no Russian community.

  16. Thanks for the advice, you've been one of the most helpful people so far! Two areas would still like to consider are Ankara and Kocaeli, though perhaps smaller towns elsewhere would suit us better. If those 2 areas really don't have many Russian speakers at all, I would take them off the table. Kocaeli sounds really good though, especially for the proximity to Istanbul.

  17. I can totally relate to your situation. The first thing I would suggest is fully implementing the concept of "full relaxation-full engagement" into your life. See if you can cut down your work hours to very dense spurts where you focus on only what you absolutely need to, and when you finish up for the day, fully let go of all of your guilt and relax. I would suggest using the 50/10 method for work (50 minutes of work, 10 minutes rest) during your work hours (you can learn more about it in this video if you'd like -

  18. These outer forms of confidence like validation, comparison, etc are ultimately hollow and always changing. Even a millionaire has lots of other billionaires to compare himself with that can make him feel miserable, if he chooses comparison as one of the values of his life. Most people live by such values, and I think you can take awesome advantage here by replacing them with deeper, inner values that build what you might call "adult" confidence.

  19. So basically, the main reason for not going is guilt? What I would say is that your relationship will likely not be quite the same if you sacrifice your interests just for the sake of him. Guilt is this hidden tool that most of society runs on, and letting go of it is one of the most mentally freeing things you can do, and ultimately true love and appreciation come much easier and more naturally from that place.

  20. You are not alone in this (no pun intended); many people, especially in modern society feel this way. Modern views on life have given us a lot of independence and "freedom", but often at the price of feeling any real connection with life and/or other people. I would suggest Michael Singer´s book "Living Untethered" for transcending this issue.

  21. If you stayed and hid your true feelings, the relationship with your boss would no longer be the same; it would slowly deteriorate. In these cases, it really is best just to honestly do what is best for you, and not take into account any other factors. Not only will your life be easier, but people will develop a respect for you over time that no amount of guilt/hiding can ever achieve.

  22. Even if your mother is being very difficult, I think it is worth doing your best not to let your relationship get out of hand. Having a loving and compassionate relationship with your mother can be one of the crown jewels of life, and it is not worth giving up on.

  23. Sadly i wish i had a good loving mother but it has never been the case, The reason I'm moving out is because I'm hoping maybe our relationship will be better after doing so.

  24. That is reasonable, just make sure the relationship does not get ruined in the process while keeping your integrity in check. I would still suggest you try the things I mentioned - doing those will set the basis for your future relationship with her.

  25. It's awesome that you are pursuing things like this regardless of the circumstance, a quality that I suggest you never lose. Honestly, even if you fail to find your "dream job", I think having the courage to look for it anyways will be worth it as opposed to working at a factory. I imagine there are many jobs in the water that would accept you given you have the necessary knowledge, but I think others here will be able to help you more with that.

  26. Helpful. It does. I would have respond sooner but I actually wanted to give the video a watch first. I’ve always told myself that I always bounce back. I remember when I lost my license and had finally gotten it back. On the drive back home I played tubthumping by chumbawumba because it seemed so appropriate haha, seems silly now. I’m going to give the exercise a try this evening and see what I come up with. I actually used to like to write a lot too but new responsibilities have kind of taken place of it. Thank you for responding. Hopefully someday you will see me on shark week teaching a whole generation. That’s the hope anyways. On a side note it it genuinely makes me happy to see already two people responded so quickly. It’s easy to think your alone with your problems sometimes. You’ve been a nice reminder of kindness for sure.

  27. That bouncing back story is hilarious. I didnt know what song what you were referring to but immediately recognized it when I listened to it just now.

  28. You don't have any obligation to take care of others' feelings; that should be a voluntary decision that benefits both of you. So unless you are directly hurting anyone, feel free to make the decision that feels right for you.

  29. As an overall "life-turnaround" guide, you may want to pick up "The Almanack of Naval Ravikant". It will give you ideas as to how to pursue something bigger, but it also has much deeper teachings that can make the path actually worthwhile and fulfilling.

  30. Yes, I think it is. The owner is quite strict about that.

  31. also, you may call 157 (Turkey) or +90 312 157 11 22 (intl') at any time.

  32. One thing to always remember in these kinds of situations is to state yourself in positive action language, rather than saying what he shouldn't do. By telling someone they are wrong, should know better, or anything like that will almost always make the other person defensive and not lead to actual change. In this case, you may want to take a general interest in it first and support him, before maybe offering some alternatives and expressing your feelings.

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