Thankyou for the suggestions! I’ll admit, I’m unfamiliar with all three haha. I really need to step my cooking game up but I’m afraid of the potential harms from improperly prepared meat. I’ll definitely look into it, especially raw soup bones!
I keep a pack of canned tuna from Costco on hand and canned salmon & sardines — those last 2 can be pricey, but loaded with good stuff and great for those particularly fussy days. Ps my mutt pit is more bougie than my niece’s Yorkie. She’s figured life out.
I received an empty MacBook Pro box from UPS. I had to sign for it and thankfully, I noticed it felt light. I asked him if he could stay while I opened it and he did. He said it’s been happening quite a bit at UPS. This was about 9mos ago. It was replaced, but bummer when you’re in a rush to get it, like I was at the time.
Do not cancel . Keep all messages in the Airbnb app . Then call Airbnb and ask for assistance . They’ll make the host cancel on their end so you’ll get all of the money back . And I’d ask for help getting another place ( discount )
This is what many Christians do to bring the damned into their faith. I’m sorry your sister and parents lack respect for any views beyond their own. Enjoy your life and those in your life who respect you.
yes, but that’s after i have backed myself into a wall. it didn’t feel that way at first. and i still would be absolutely crushed if this is the reason why our relationship fails
Ugh. Some hikers and trail runners do this, too. So rude. It’s one thing if it’s a trail where mountain lions etc are around AND they’re on their own, but when there are enough people around it’s so rude and presumptuous.
I agree. Do people just not hire babysitters anymore? I can understand if people can’t from a financial standpoint, but relying on family to be babysitters every time because you don’t want to hire one doesn’t make sense. But I grew up having babysitters so it’s just considered normal to me.
And even if that is the case and it’s financially infeasible and one has willing family/friends then at the very least have the courtesy to be selective and truly use it for emergencies, not for your conveniences.
Your son was a legal adult, but not a fully developed adult at 20. He clearly knew it was wrong, but it is important to acknowledge that they don’t fully develop until mid (to upper) 20s. This included their emotional development.
She wasn’t approved yet! She just applied and she’s asking me for prices in the prime locations. I think she thinks she gets to choose whatever then govt will pay for it
Talk with your older daughter and see how she actually feels about this, rather than what she may think she is obligated to do. She should be paid if she wants to be paid. Other than that, I don't see a problem here. You are allowed to want a child-free vacation once in a while. You can plan kiddo-friendly trips with your teenager another time. Just remember that the older kid does not exist to be a free babysitter for her sister and she absolutely has the right to demand payment or even say no outright. But if she happens to actually want to have some "sister-time", that's perfectly fine and cool too.
Offer if not to pay, which she may want, at the very least to pay for some fun activities and/or dinners, brunches, etc. It should be “fun” opportunity for everyone.
I’m sorry it was over whelming. They wanted you to know that you are welcomed with them and likely are aware you may not have received many gifts in the past and wanted you to know they were thinking about you.
This is on your parents. They should not have left you to oversee your siblings and especially with one sick. You did your best. Your parents should be embarrassed and apologize to you for putting you through this.
I understand it can be challenging to find a dress that you like and that covers all of the bits you don't want exposed because I am 52 and wear plus-size dresses. Speaking from my heart, this dress makes you look older, and I don't think that dress is as flattering on you as something like I am linking below. It comes in any color, and the style would look beautiful on you. Just a thought.
Deep Lake, Hunter Green or Green Mist would lovely on you, OP. That said, dress that you could return easily if the quality sucks is important here so consider ordering several different styles, colors as long as you can return them without fees. Ordering from a reputable (less fast-fashion) site/designer is preferred. Or shop in person but I know that can be exhausting.
Let's say you got a 2 bed apartment. You went for a nice place with a pool in a prime location. I'm guessing minimum of 2500 a month? With 235k, that is only 94 months of rent covered, or 7.8 years of housing. That sounds like a lot, but you haven't added utilities. Let's say, between electric, water, heating, internet, and maybe garbage, you are at an additional 300 a month. Don't forget food, that is expensive for a family of three; let's say conservatively 500 a month. Up to 3300 already. You have a car but don't mention if it is paid off. Assuming it isn't, that is probably another 400 a month between payment and insurance. Let's also not forget irregular purchases; things like clothes for the kids, necessary shoes, etc. for another 200 a month. Up to 3900 a month. You also need to account for emergency one off's for a fund, so about another 200 a month, or 4100 a month total.
Also, nowhere did OP mention retirement accounts/assets. admins can make decent money with good experience and some of those opportunities include benefits, but the start is not a live-able wage for a single mom of 2 — certainly not while blowing money like a Kardashian.
Honestly she might be able to work it out if she is wise. She'd be scraping by, but if she got a job for say 66k a year, that would be a monthly gross income of 5.5k, probably after taxes more like 3.5k? Depends where she lives honestly, I'm just basing that off of me making 95k and taking home 5k gross. If she found a cheap place that's a bit more remote, she could get a rent down around 1.2k-1.5k for a two bedroom. Comfortable? No. But liveable? Yeah. That would free up 2k for the rest of the month for other expenses, which is definitely doable.
Yes. I meant live-able based on anything near her current spending habits. When I first read the title I thought perhaps she was being financially abused. And possible she was and this is a spending binge based off this, but her cavalier Apple-product trifecta purchase makes me think this is actually more like what her spending is truly like left up to her own choices. Either way, salvageable, but if she didn’t have the fore site to negotiate retirement, and she appears unlikely to be prioritizing it now, she’s definitely in trouble. EA’s can make some excellent money and managers well, this would all be fine or even great. It just doesn’t seem like this is where she’s truly going.
Is it unfair? Maybe. It’s also unfair that Tina was not raised by her bio mom and dad, the parents she did have died when she was only 23 and she has very little relationship with her brother/father, nephews and stepmom/SIL. You’re focused on the money that Tina has received, but forgetting about the relationships she did not.
And please stop calling Tina “daughter”. Your entire tone is dismissive of her adoption, of the fact that your in-laws took on your husband’s early responsibility, and the fact that your husband is still dealing with this and clearly still trying to make up for it; that can’t be surprising to you and I’m guessing you were aware of all of this before you married. In addition, YOUR family is “cordial” with Tina. No warm fuzzies, but fine. It sounds like you also have some feelings to deal with regarding Tina.
Thankyou for the suggestions! I’ll admit, I’m unfamiliar with all three haha. I really need to step my cooking game up but I’m afraid of the potential harms from improperly prepared meat. I’ll definitely look into it, especially raw soup bones!
I keep a pack of canned tuna from Costco on hand and canned salmon & sardines — those last 2 can be pricey, but loaded with good stuff and great for those particularly fussy days. Ps my mutt pit is more bougie than my niece’s Yorkie. She’s figured life out.
I received an empty MacBook Pro box from UPS. I had to sign for it and thankfully, I noticed it felt light. I asked him if he could stay while I opened it and he did. He said it’s been happening quite a bit at UPS. This was about 9mos ago. It was replaced, but bummer when you’re in a rush to get it, like I was at the time.
Do not cancel . Keep all messages in the Airbnb app . Then call Airbnb and ask for assistance . They’ll make the host cancel on their end so you’ll get all of the money back . And I’d ask for help getting another place ( discount )
I told him I wasn’t canceling and that he will need to initiate it himself. Airbnb auto basically just told me to tell the host to cancel.
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I’m not wasting that kind of time. And I’m not looking to make money. I just want a place to stay — one that I made while it was available.
This is what many Christians do to bring the damned into their faith. I’m sorry your sister and parents lack respect for any views beyond their own. Enjoy your life and those in your life who respect you.
I see boxer mug/lips forming and that coloring, too. He’s adorable! Enjoy!
Tell me you have a video cam to capture some of the craziness. I can only imagine the chaos of these four!
Yesss, idk how to put ir on reddit
You need a channel. Or IG of their shenanigans at the very least!
yes, but that’s after i have backed myself into a wall. it didn’t feel that way at first. and i still would be absolutely crushed if this is the reason why our relationship fails
Your bf’s choices have backed you into this wall. Your relationship is failing because your boyfriend is refusing to prioritize it.
100%
Ugh. Some hikers and trail runners do this, too. So rude. It’s one thing if it’s a trail where mountain lions etc are around AND they’re on their own, but when there are enough people around it’s so rude and presumptuous.
I agree. Do people just not hire babysitters anymore? I can understand if people can’t from a financial standpoint, but relying on family to be babysitters every time because you don’t want to hire one doesn’t make sense. But I grew up having babysitters so it’s just considered normal to me.
And even if that is the case and it’s financially infeasible and one has willing family/friends then at the very least have the courtesy to be selective and truly use it for emergencies, not for your conveniences.
Pure love bug! Enjoy all the cuddles.
YWBTA if you stayed with a person who does not want to love your child. Run with your son and don’t look back.
Your son was a legal adult, but not a fully developed adult at 20. He clearly knew it was wrong, but it is important to acknowledge that they don’t fully develop until mid (to upper) 20s. This included their emotional development.
She wasn’t approved yet! She just applied and she’s asking me for prices in the prime locations. I think she thinks she gets to choose whatever then govt will pay for it
Beware she doesn’t move in and break everything so it has to be replaced. Just seems like that could be her thing. The nerve.
I’m a little stuck on
So, apparently OP doesn’t use the dryer themselves.
Talk with your older daughter and see how she actually feels about this, rather than what she may think she is obligated to do. She should be paid if she wants to be paid. Other than that, I don't see a problem here. You are allowed to want a child-free vacation once in a while. You can plan kiddo-friendly trips with your teenager another time. Just remember that the older kid does not exist to be a free babysitter for her sister and she absolutely has the right to demand payment or even say no outright. But if she happens to actually want to have some "sister-time", that's perfectly fine and cool too.
Offer if not to pay, which she may want, at the very least to pay for some fun activities and/or dinners, brunches, etc. It should be “fun” opportunity for everyone.
NTA.
This right here, OP. They will absolutely ruin your peaceful home life, without shame or grace.
I’m sorry it was over whelming. They wanted you to know that you are welcomed with them and likely are aware you may not have received many gifts in the past and wanted you to know they were thinking about you.
I didn't think of that at the time. Honestly I would've done that but I was pretty stressed and didn't really think about it.
This is on your parents. They should not have left you to oversee your siblings and especially with one sick. You did your best. Your parents should be embarrassed and apologize to you for putting you through this.
I understand it can be challenging to find a dress that you like and that covers all of the bits you don't want exposed because I am 52 and wear plus-size dresses. Speaking from my heart, this dress makes you look older, and I don't think that dress is as flattering on you as something like I am linking below. It comes in any color, and the style would look beautiful on you. Just a thought.
Deep Lake, Hunter Green or Green Mist would lovely on you, OP. That said, dress that you could return easily if the quality sucks is important here so consider ordering several different styles, colors as long as you can return them without fees. Ordering from a reputable (less fast-fashion) site/designer is preferred. Or shop in person but I know that can be exhausting.
Great shot!
Let's say you got a 2 bed apartment. You went for a nice place with a pool in a prime location. I'm guessing minimum of 2500 a month? With 235k, that is only 94 months of rent covered, or 7.8 years of housing. That sounds like a lot, but you haven't added utilities. Let's say, between electric, water, heating, internet, and maybe garbage, you are at an additional 300 a month. Don't forget food, that is expensive for a family of three; let's say conservatively 500 a month. Up to 3300 already. You have a car but don't mention if it is paid off. Assuming it isn't, that is probably another 400 a month between payment and insurance. Let's also not forget irregular purchases; things like clothes for the kids, necessary shoes, etc. for another 200 a month. Up to 3900 a month. You also need to account for emergency one off's for a fund, so about another 200 a month, or 4100 a month total.
Also, nowhere did OP mention retirement accounts/assets. admins can make decent money with good experience and some of those opportunities include benefits, but the start is not a live-able wage for a single mom of 2 — certainly not while blowing money like a Kardashian.
Honestly she might be able to work it out if she is wise. She'd be scraping by, but if she got a job for say 66k a year, that would be a monthly gross income of 5.5k, probably after taxes more like 3.5k? Depends where she lives honestly, I'm just basing that off of me making 95k and taking home 5k gross. If she found a cheap place that's a bit more remote, she could get a rent down around 1.2k-1.5k for a two bedroom. Comfortable? No. But liveable? Yeah. That would free up 2k for the rest of the month for other expenses, which is definitely doable.
Yes. I meant live-able based on anything near her current spending habits. When I first read the title I thought perhaps she was being financially abused. And possible she was and this is a spending binge based off this, but her cavalier Apple-product trifecta purchase makes me think this is actually more like what her spending is truly like left up to her own choices. Either way, salvageable, but if she didn’t have the fore site to negotiate retirement, and she appears unlikely to be prioritizing it now, she’s definitely in trouble. EA’s can make some excellent money and managers well, this would all be fine or even great. It just doesn’t seem like this is where she’s truly going.
Is it unfair? Maybe. It’s also unfair that Tina was not raised by her bio mom and dad, the parents she did have died when she was only 23 and she has very little relationship with her brother/father, nephews and stepmom/SIL. You’re focused on the money that Tina has received, but forgetting about the relationships she did not.
And please stop calling Tina “daughter”. Your entire tone is dismissive of her adoption, of the fact that your in-laws took on your husband’s early responsibility, and the fact that your husband is still dealing with this and clearly still trying to make up for it; that can’t be surprising to you and I’m guessing you were aware of all of this before you married. In addition, YOUR family is “cordial” with Tina. No warm fuzzies, but fine. It sounds like you also have some feelings to deal with regarding Tina.
This is so on brand.