YWBTA. Maybe you could consider other ways of helping him, for example, help him find a rental and support him for half a year, help him find a good part-time etc...basically offer help or financial assistance whenever possible, without encroaching on your gf's space.
I had suggested that! She was looking into work as a remote medical language interpreter because of her language fluency and educational background, but apparently, most require you to be physically present in the U.S. during work. I earn roughly $8k-$10k a month. $4500 is our total bills monthly. I also pay her credit cards and mine which is about another $1500/mo. I spend another approx $1k/mo on work related stuff. I drive OTR and I am a realtor as well, so income can vary month to month. I would like to be putting at least $2k/mo into our retirement portfolio, but that's been difficult. It's usually that anything leftover after bills and necessary expenses are paid, goes to her when she's gone. The thing is, I've never asked her to repay a dime of what I send her while she is traveling. She will go and spend like $3k-$5k on black Friday, shopping for gifts for her family for when she returns back, and everyone gets like an iPhone or a gopro or a dji drone, or iPad etc. etc. That's fine, usually that's her money she's spending on stuff like that, but I know she is paying the rent for the apartment, and the living expenses of her mom, and when she isn't there, her eldest sister and her nephew and maybe a niece or two are living there, but they aren't paying anything, because my wife said she can't ask them to pay any household expenses because she asked her sister to go there to take care of her mom, so she left her job to do so. Also, she has land and a house she owns back home, it's in a rural area and her other family is staying in it, she doesn't charge then rent or anything at all. I get it, that the culture is like, if anyone goes off to the UK or USA, they have a lot more opportunities to make money, so they should always take care of their family back home. So I feel like I'm financing more than her travel for her Moms medical issues here TBH. And it leaves me with contributing nothing to our retirement when she's gone, that's the most frustrating part. Oof sorry for the long-winded response! Just stressed out.
Hmmm, i calculate my affordability by whatever is leftover AFTER i contributed into my retirement. I dont know how much of the $4500 is fixed bills but is it achievable if both of your expenses do not exceed that amount even when she go back to her country, for example, $2500 for you and $2000 for her in her home country? If i were her, I would look into selling the land/house and use the money to hire a full-time live-in nurse and install CCTVs in the house to remotely monitor.
4500 is fixed. That includes mortgage, utilities, car notes, insurance, cell phones, groceries. I pay 100% of that. Ideally, putting $2k a month into our IRA is what I'd like to be doing. But then there is the other monthly expenses as well.(credit card bills and work related expenses/advertising/memberships to monthly leadboards/licensing fees/MLS dues etc) There is virtually no money left for saving when she is abroad. None.
At least you've sent a firm message that your income is not sufficient to finance her and that she has tried (hopefully still is) looking for remote jobs..though i'd suggest that she venture into other fields, not necessary those related to her educational background, not be choosy and just snag any opportunities that arise.
NTA. You don't own the shop. 15% is fair enough. Social anxiety disorder can make you feel insecure about your decisions involving other people. That's what you have to handle now.
I have an aunt who only goes on vacation to the places she knows she has cousins or other family members to stay with. She doesn't have any financial issues and can be very generous (pays for meals, give money allowances, gives gift baskets during festives...etc). Also, in return, all family are welcomed to stay with her when they're in town. So it's not always about the money or a "free pass vacation".
YTA. Your sister is already living with the fact that she will be practically raising a village and probably with some insecurities for the future. You don't have to voice it out if you don't have anything encouraging to say.
“Your fate is in your hands”. That’s the only advice I remembered from my mother before Alzheimer took over her at an early age of forty five. Thereafter, the adolescent me was left to fight for survival.
NTA. Your stepdad sounds a bit extreme.
NTA. You're only 14. Sorry to hear that you were bullied.
| this whole thing is....none of my business|
YWBTA. Maybe you could consider other ways of helping him, for example, help him find a rental and support him for half a year, help him find a good part-time etc...basically offer help or financial assistance whenever possible, without encroaching on your gf's space.
I had suggested that! She was looking into work as a remote medical language interpreter because of her language fluency and educational background, but apparently, most require you to be physically present in the U.S. during work. I earn roughly $8k-$10k a month. $4500 is our total bills monthly. I also pay her credit cards and mine which is about another $1500/mo. I spend another approx $1k/mo on work related stuff. I drive OTR and I am a realtor as well, so income can vary month to month. I would like to be putting at least $2k/mo into our retirement portfolio, but that's been difficult. It's usually that anything leftover after bills and necessary expenses are paid, goes to her when she's gone. The thing is, I've never asked her to repay a dime of what I send her while she is traveling. She will go and spend like $3k-$5k on black Friday, shopping for gifts for her family for when she returns back, and everyone gets like an iPhone or a gopro or a dji drone, or iPad etc. etc. That's fine, usually that's her money she's spending on stuff like that, but I know she is paying the rent for the apartment, and the living expenses of her mom, and when she isn't there, her eldest sister and her nephew and maybe a niece or two are living there, but they aren't paying anything, because my wife said she can't ask them to pay any household expenses because she asked her sister to go there to take care of her mom, so she left her job to do so. Also, she has land and a house she owns back home, it's in a rural area and her other family is staying in it, she doesn't charge then rent or anything at all. I get it, that the culture is like, if anyone goes off to the UK or USA, they have a lot more opportunities to make money, so they should always take care of their family back home. So I feel like I'm financing more than her travel for her Moms medical issues here TBH. And it leaves me with contributing nothing to our retirement when she's gone, that's the most frustrating part. Oof sorry for the long-winded response! Just stressed out.
Hmmm, i calculate my affordability by whatever is leftover AFTER i contributed into my retirement. I dont know how much of the $4500 is fixed bills but is it achievable if both of your expenses do not exceed that amount even when she go back to her country, for example, $2500 for you and $2000 for her in her home country? If i were her, I would look into selling the land/house and use the money to hire a full-time live-in nurse and install CCTVs in the house to remotely monitor.
4500 is fixed. That includes mortgage, utilities, car notes, insurance, cell phones, groceries. I pay 100% of that. Ideally, putting $2k a month into our IRA is what I'd like to be doing. But then there is the other monthly expenses as well.(credit card bills and work related expenses/advertising/memberships to monthly leadboards/licensing fees/MLS dues etc) There is virtually no money left for saving when she is abroad. None.
At least you've sent a firm message that your income is not sufficient to finance her and that she has tried (hopefully still is) looking for remote jobs..though i'd suggest that she venture into other fields, not necessary those related to her educational background, not be choosy and just snag any opportunities that arise.
Frugality forces me to see a car as a means of transportation from one location to another, nothing more.
Did the cats move in with your roommate's permission?
NTA. You don't own the shop. 15% is fair enough. Social anxiety disorder can make you feel insecure about your decisions involving other people. That's what you have to handle now.
NTA. If you think your best friend is making the biggest mistake of his life, absolutely do let him know.
I have an aunt who only goes on vacation to the places she knows she has cousins or other family members to stay with. She doesn't have any financial issues and can be very generous (pays for meals, give money allowances, gives gift baskets during festives...etc). Also, in return, all family are welcomed to stay with her when they're in town. So it's not always about the money or a "free pass vacation".
NTA. Did she pay deposit for the lease or utilities? Maybe you could find a way to deduct from there.
YTA. Your sister is already living with the fact that she will be practically raising a village and probably with some insecurities for the future. You don't have to voice it out if you don't have anything encouraging to say.
It's been a month. How's it going?
hey dude could you list some of the ingredients just by taste ? (for example is it beef, potatoes. mushrooms etc) so the estimation gets easier
Sure, its grilled pork, probably marinated with sugar and spices. No other filling ingredient.
hey ezone :)
Unfortunately no..bought it from a hawker stall
Save as much as you can.
It's not like she's your MIL or smthg. She can stay at a hotel and meet up your husband + cat at a park. No need to step into your house.
Why are they together?
This is about free-babysitting. Please move out to your mom's as soon as possible!
Well, she has no roof over her head, and you own 5 houses. Is it that hard to just extend a helping hand?
I would report a stranger. I wouldn't report a friend without prior notice or report anonymously.
And while you were watching your wife, the security guard was watching you.
What kind of jobs do you expect him to do at 15?
“Your fate is in your hands”. That’s the only advice I remembered from my mother before Alzheimer took over her at an early age of forty five. Thereafter, the adolescent me was left to fight for survival.
Ticket collectors
They will most likely go up and it’s sad but then they question why people are stealing
I know...
SEA is Southeast Asia? Rice.
Definitely, thank you.