Yes but on top of the other issues noted... recruitinment has always been an issue. But quoting a recruiter "I never had met so many kids who couldn't read"
So many of these songs are gonna become my all time favorite Taylor songs. I’m definitely someone that had a major mental break when my dad died and had to be hospitalized and I’ll tell ya I have not been the same person sense. Also getting an autism diagnosis has really opened my eyes about all of my meltdowns growing up and even now. And now even though I know those moments aren’t me I really embrace those feelings when they happen.
I’m so sorry if this is an invasive question and please feel free not to answer it. I’m an only child with depression and anxiety. My parents dying is my greatest fear, and I worry about how I’ll handle it. Is there anything you would have or could have done differently to help you during that time?
Honestly, I don’t totally blame Lorelei in that situation. Could it have waited? Absolutely. But what Sookie did was so over the line and selfish, trying to force the two back together in a very public way with her only motivation being that she was bored and wanted to plan a wedding
But that wasn’t the reason Lorelei was disruptive and left; she was freaking out over the fact that Rory had given Sookie her new cell phone number but hadn’t given it to Lorelei.
You can do VRE if you have no GI Bill remaining; you just won’t get housing allowance while going to school under VRE. If you have GI Bill remaining, you get BAH for the entire time you’re utilizing VRE, even if GI Bill would have run out.
Omg I would love a self-reflective song about how she created a cult! Like that would definitely be an interesting, unique, possibly even funny song that very few people could actually discuss about themselves. A whole album discusses the different nuances of fame would be interesting, too.
I think she wanted to go out there and have people clap and cheer for her, and probably thought she could do what she does best: put on an unforgettable show to heal herself. Soon, she realized that fame won't fix her. But she still wants it. She can't imagine not being famous. It's a gift and a curse.
She doesn’t know anything else but being famous. It likely gives her a full-on existential crisis to think about what she would do without that life. I mean, she does have the aspiration of being a director, so maybe there’s at least that available to her if she dedicates time to learning that craft beyond just music videos. But any retreat back into private living might trigger her Kimye drama/Twitter cancellation fears…and now that time period is also associated with Joe, so I can see her wanting to avoid that, too.
I think this album is for Matty. It’s like sending your ex a rambling email at 2 AM about how much you loved them and how much they hurt you. You don’t do it because you want to get back together - you do it for sense of bridge-burning, scorched earth closure.
Especially since I think I read he just left and ghosted her? She may not have had the opportunity to actually communicate any of this to him privately…
This feels very true. I like the album as like her unloading an emotional dumpster fire—it’s somewhat unpolished, yeah, but that’s how the feelings were. Like it’s a messy phase in an album. There are some diamonds in there, but a lot of it is just okay; it’s true to life in that respect (from my personal experience with similar phases).
I like and agree with everything you said here. I do think what she was experimenting with in this album was her level of vulnerability. People complained that she was overly manufactured and polished without actually giving enough of her true self (regardless of whether you like her true self or not is beside the point). I feel like she did push the envelope with her vulnerability with this album, and I hope that experimentation now will continue in the future and yield a truly stellar album for her.
I mean, tbh she might have bipolar. My cousin developed bipolar disorder following her second pregnancy in her early 30s. Taylor seemingly has a ton of energy, doesn’t need much sleep, is constantly overworking and traveling between the tour/Travis/New York, describes herself as manic (or was it psychotic?), is acting kind of bizarre and erratic, admits to self-medicating with alcohol, and refuses to get actual therapy.
She said very little about him. All her public statements were positive or neutral with the exception of disliking hiding her relationship. Her publicist said they broke up because they wanted different things out of life. People assumed You’re Losing Me is about Joe. They believed it even after Jack Anatoff said it was written years before their breakup. There is only so much she can do to control what other people think.
I feel like people are reading things into her lyrics that aren’t there, forming their own expectations about what the album should be and blaming Taylor when they only let themselves down, and claiming Taylor said things she never said just to blame her for this narrative they’ve constructed in their heads.
For the first time in her life, she may have found a supportive talented peer group. They have zero reason to compete with her and have nothing but love. It’s like being welcomed into a very large, warm, loving family, even though they know you could spend your time elsewhere.
I definitely think having a peer group and boyfriend around her that is famous in a completely different arena is hugely beneficial for her! I think all the artsy guys felt like she was competition. There’s none of that with Travis, and I think that’s so much healthier for her.
You need to listen in order it basically tells the final part of her and Joe mixed in with her emotional cheating and her insane rebound with Mat and finally being fully recovered and the entry of Travis with a scathing KK diss track for good measure.
As you guys know I'm a very new Swiftie if that, I'm an NFL guy but this album is the type of music I love. Mid tempo and seriously deep and multiple themes that isn't some bs pop shit that I can't think on and really understand.
Welcome to the community! It’s great to have more men around. I think the crossover of NFL fans to Swifties and vice versa is an awesome side effect of Taylor and Travis’ relationship. My boyfriend is also a fan of the type of music on this album, so I’m hoping he will enjoy it with me!
I just have to forget AYITL exists. I can’t believe what they did to Rory professionally. She had rich, well-connected grandparents, as well as a rich, well-connected father and affair partner (Logan). I have a hard time believing she couldn’t get a stable journalist job at a decent news outlet at a minimum with her credentials and personal connections, especially after covering the Obama campaign. It also seemed incredibly at odds with Rory’s personality. Why had she accomplished so little in 10 years? Obama campaign and that one big article…that’s all? The whole thing just seemed way off and made me uncomfortable.
I love this so much. It’s been so long since she’s posted content like this 🥹 after listening to the whirlwind that’s ttpd, it’s honestly really nice to see these clips of her enjoying herself and her life and the people around her. I truly hope she’s in a much better and happier place now.
Yes, TTPD is an emotionally difficult album about a really rough time in her life. The juxtaposition of those sad, angry songs with the current happy videos of her and Travis creates such whiplash, going from the very dark end of the emotional spectrum all the way to the very light end. After listening to the album, I do sincerely hope she is in a much better state of mind and that her relationship with Travis fills the voids in her life that no one else has been able to. We all want to be loved, seen, and appreciated for who we really are, and I hope Travis gives her that.
I have three stepchildren. I have a great relationship with my 11-year-old stepdaughter (SD11) and 9-year-old stepson (SS9), but a terrible relationship with my 17-year-old stepdaughter (SD17). They primarily live with us. We were very open to them about trying for a baby for years and ended up needing IVF. The only one with any real issues about the pregnancy was SD17. We tried to include her in everything to get her excited, but she was adamant that she did not want another sister, mostly because she thinks she should be the only lady in my husband's life. She, my mom, and my sister planned the gender reveal, and she only got excited when she realized the baby was a boy.
This is exactly what I would say. The kids don’t get to be rude to the other adults in their lives (or at least they shouldn’t be), so they know how to treat others respectfully. They need to know that stepmom gets treated with that same respect, regardless of whether they like her or not. Husband is absolutely at fault for letting this behavior continue.
I wish there was… but there’s not. I’m basically another parent. I drop them off at school. I do pick ups etc. tonight was their first day back for the week, and the 11M already called my daughter and I “jerks” for absolutely nothing :)
Sounds like you should tell your husband you will not be doing anything for his mean, rude, ungrateful children anymore — to include pick ups and drop offs at school — until he gets their behavior toward you under control. Then let him figure it out while you focus on having a less stressful, healthy pregnancy. I think that’s really the only way to drive the point home to your husband that this situation is untenable and unacceptable long term, and he’s the only one capable of fixing it. NACHO until he does fix it. Your health and your baby’s health are the priority right now.
He’s totally right. Allowing Sara Netanyahu to fire Eylon Levy just shows how dire the problem is: the government is more interested in domestic political gains than the fundamental interests of the State of Israel.
I’ve searched long and hard for a cis man that is not into video games. I found one. It’s the best. I’ve always tried to pretend like it was acceptable, but it’s just not for me lol
Yeah, as a non gamer guy that dates all genders, I discovered that I have a preference against gamers and anime enthusiasts. It filters out a lot of people and I’m ok with that.
How do you explain your objection to anime enthusiasts? I have the same preference against them. I just can’t put my finger on why it gives me the ick.
I just found myself one who doesn’t play video games either. It is SO much better! I’m like you and have been trying to be cool with it, but I’m just not.
the difference is ppl were mostly picking fun at how ridiculously awful the palace was at handling the situation, with meghan people would drag her through the mud for just breathing. it’s not a double standard
I think the most likely theory is that Joe and Taylor had been on a break for quite some time before officially announcing the break-up. It explains why they were still kind of interacting very late into the timeline. Maybe they were still 'trying to work things out' when Joe suddenly, unexpectedly pulled the plug on her. That in turn caused a very dramatic response from Taylor—replacing Invisible String on the setlist, her friends unfollowing Joe, and simply her overall erratic behaviour at the time.
I agree with you. I definitely think it was Joe who broke up with Taylor. Her erratic behavior has not been that of someone who was the one to end a relationship. I do hope we get an answer as to WHY he broke up with her when TTPD drops.
I think the truth is somewhere in the middle. He's not as good as a guy as his fans want him to be, but he's also not the Antichrist his detractors make him out to be either. He basically just comes across as an edgelord who likes attention and sometimes takes "contrary" views for the hell of it.
Having following The 1975 for years, this is the most accurate take on MH I’ve seen online. I think people took a lot of things he said/did out of context, but he has also done some idiotic things, too.
But they didn’t seem keen to actually include OP in the threesome when they started making out, and why would you risk outing your affair to your girlfriend like that?
Fuck cancer. Lost my beautiful mom to cancer last month. Today is her birthday 😢 she was American but loved the royals and especially Princess Kate. Prayers for Kate and her family 🙏🏻 having access to great healthcare doesn't mean that cancer treatment always works. We lost music super star Toby Keith this year to cancer and he was getting better had even begun to tour again. Once again, 💔 Fuck cancer🖕
I’m so sorry for your loss. May your mom’s memory always be a blessing. Take care of yourself and reach out to bereavement resources if you need help coping with her loss. Grief is such a difficult thing.
This is good info! Hopefully I’ll never need it or know anyone who will, but it’s nice to know. I guess this doesn’t work with regular chemo as opposed to preventative?
For me it’s the implications of her missing/seriously unwell/divorcing/ect…. would have on the monarchy. I don’t think she fared well in the court of public opinion over the Harry and Meghan drama but the most recent “where’s Kate” has proven she is far and away the most well-liked of all remaining Royals at the moment.
The implications of Kate’s illness/death/divorce/disappearance on the monarchy as the most popular royal is a good point that I think a lot of people are overlooking.
Yep, I think the media landscape is rapidly changing, and while the British media has been slow to catch up, William has been even slower. Like I’m not even sure he’s left the starting line yet.
I wonder if it’s because: a) he’s too controlling, stubborn, and arrogant to follow the advice of the KP PR team, AND b) William and Kate don’t personally use social media and never have, so they don’t fully understand it well enough to make good decisions.
Hard agree
Idk if this is possible, but can her VA mental health records be subpoenaed?
Correct
Do not agree to let her move. Cross-state legal custody battles are expensive and awful.
Yes but on top of the other issues noted... recruitinment has always been an issue. But quoting a recruiter "I never had met so many kids who couldn't read"
Yeah, the whole Genesis thing is terrible for recruiting.
So many of these songs are gonna become my all time favorite Taylor songs. I’m definitely someone that had a major mental break when my dad died and had to be hospitalized and I’ll tell ya I have not been the same person sense. Also getting an autism diagnosis has really opened my eyes about all of my meltdowns growing up and even now. And now even though I know those moments aren’t me I really embrace those feelings when they happen.
I’m so sorry if this is an invasive question and please feel free not to answer it. I’m an only child with depression and anxiety. My parents dying is my greatest fear, and I worry about how I’ll handle it. Is there anything you would have or could have done differently to help you during that time?
Honestly, I don’t totally blame Lorelei in that situation. Could it have waited? Absolutely. But what Sookie did was so over the line and selfish, trying to force the two back together in a very public way with her only motivation being that she was bored and wanted to plan a wedding
But that wasn’t the reason Lorelei was disruptive and left; she was freaking out over the fact that Rory had given Sookie her new cell phone number but hadn’t given it to Lorelei.
Don't use the last month! You can do vre if you have gibill remaining
You can do VRE if you have no GI Bill remaining; you just won’t get housing allowance while going to school under VRE. If you have GI Bill remaining, you get BAH for the entire time you’re utilizing VRE, even if GI Bill would have run out.
This.
Omg I would love a self-reflective song about how she created a cult! Like that would definitely be an interesting, unique, possibly even funny song that very few people could actually discuss about themselves. A whole album discusses the different nuances of fame would be interesting, too.
I think she wanted to go out there and have people clap and cheer for her, and probably thought she could do what she does best: put on an unforgettable show to heal herself. Soon, she realized that fame won't fix her. But she still wants it. She can't imagine not being famous. It's a gift and a curse.
She doesn’t know anything else but being famous. It likely gives her a full-on existential crisis to think about what she would do without that life. I mean, she does have the aspiration of being a director, so maybe there’s at least that available to her if she dedicates time to learning that craft beyond just music videos. But any retreat back into private living might trigger her Kimye drama/Twitter cancellation fears…and now that time period is also associated with Joe, so I can see her wanting to avoid that, too.
I think this album is for Matty. It’s like sending your ex a rambling email at 2 AM about how much you loved them and how much they hurt you. You don’t do it because you want to get back together - you do it for sense of bridge-burning, scorched earth closure.
Especially since I think I read he just left and ghosted her? She may not have had the opportunity to actually communicate any of this to him privately…
This feels very true. I like the album as like her unloading an emotional dumpster fire—it’s somewhat unpolished, yeah, but that’s how the feelings were. Like it’s a messy phase in an album. There are some diamonds in there, but a lot of it is just okay; it’s true to life in that respect (from my personal experience with similar phases).
I like and agree with everything you said here. I do think what she was experimenting with in this album was her level of vulnerability. People complained that she was overly manufactured and polished without actually giving enough of her true self (regardless of whether you like her true self or not is beside the point). I feel like she did push the envelope with her vulnerability with this album, and I hope that experimentation now will continue in the future and yield a truly stellar album for her.
Well….. blowing up a long term relationship for a bag of shit is actually EXACTLY the type of behavior exhibited in manic episodes.
I mean, tbh she might have bipolar. My cousin developed bipolar disorder following her second pregnancy in her early 30s. Taylor seemingly has a ton of energy, doesn’t need much sleep, is constantly overworking and traveling between the tour/Travis/New York, describes herself as manic (or was it psychotic?), is acting kind of bizarre and erratic, admits to self-medicating with alcohol, and refuses to get actual therapy.
She said very little about him. All her public statements were positive or neutral with the exception of disliking hiding her relationship. Her publicist said they broke up because they wanted different things out of life. People assumed You’re Losing Me is about Joe. They believed it even after Jack Anatoff said it was written years before their breakup. There is only so much she can do to control what other people think.
I feel like people are reading things into her lyrics that aren’t there, forming their own expectations about what the album should be and blaming Taylor when they only let themselves down, and claiming Taylor said things she never said just to blame her for this narrative they’ve constructed in their heads.
That's quite a reach.
Uh, yeah. That’s a big reach.
For the first time in her life, she may have found a supportive talented peer group. They have zero reason to compete with her and have nothing but love. It’s like being welcomed into a very large, warm, loving family, even though they know you could spend your time elsewhere.
I definitely think having a peer group and boyfriend around her that is famous in a completely different arena is hugely beneficial for her! I think all the artsy guys felt like she was competition. There’s none of that with Travis, and I think that’s so much healthier for her.
You need to listen in order it basically tells the final part of her and Joe mixed in with her emotional cheating and her insane rebound with Mat and finally being fully recovered and the entry of Travis with a scathing KK diss track for good measure.
Yes, it’s definitely meant to be listened to in order!
As you guys know I'm a very new Swiftie if that, I'm an NFL guy but this album is the type of music I love. Mid tempo and seriously deep and multiple themes that isn't some bs pop shit that I can't think on and really understand.
Welcome to the community! It’s great to have more men around. I think the crossover of NFL fans to Swifties and vice versa is an awesome side effect of Taylor and Travis’ relationship. My boyfriend is also a fan of the type of music on this album, so I’m hoping he will enjoy it with me!
S6 Rory is arguably the worst unless you count AYITL. The whole dynamic with her and Logan put a really nasty taste in my mouth.
I just have to forget AYITL exists. I can’t believe what they did to Rory professionally. She had rich, well-connected grandparents, as well as a rich, well-connected father and affair partner (Logan). I have a hard time believing she couldn’t get a stable journalist job at a decent news outlet at a minimum with her credentials and personal connections, especially after covering the Obama campaign. It also seemed incredibly at odds with Rory’s personality. Why had she accomplished so little in 10 years? Obama campaign and that one big article…that’s all? The whole thing just seemed way off and made me uncomfortable.
I love this so much. It’s been so long since she’s posted content like this 🥹 after listening to the whirlwind that’s ttpd, it’s honestly really nice to see these clips of her enjoying herself and her life and the people around her. I truly hope she’s in a much better and happier place now.
Yes, TTPD is an emotionally difficult album about a really rough time in her life. The juxtaposition of those sad, angry songs with the current happy videos of her and Travis creates such whiplash, going from the very dark end of the emotional spectrum all the way to the very light end. After listening to the album, I do sincerely hope she is in a much better state of mind and that her relationship with Travis fills the voids in her life that no one else has been able to. We all want to be loved, seen, and appreciated for who we really are, and I hope Travis gives her that.
I have three stepchildren. I have a great relationship with my 11-year-old stepdaughter (SD11) and 9-year-old stepson (SS9), but a terrible relationship with my 17-year-old stepdaughter (SD17). They primarily live with us. We were very open to them about trying for a baby for years and ended up needing IVF. The only one with any real issues about the pregnancy was SD17. We tried to include her in everything to get her excited, but she was adamant that she did not want another sister, mostly because she thinks she should be the only lady in my husband's life. She, my mom, and my sister planned the gender reveal, and she only got excited when she realized the baby was a boy.
This is exactly what I would say. The kids don’t get to be rude to the other adults in their lives (or at least they shouldn’t be), so they know how to treat others respectfully. They need to know that stepmom gets treated with that same respect, regardless of whether they like her or not. Husband is absolutely at fault for letting this behavior continue.
I wish there was… but there’s not. I’m basically another parent. I drop them off at school. I do pick ups etc. tonight was their first day back for the week, and the 11M already called my daughter and I “jerks” for absolutely nothing :)
Sounds like you should tell your husband you will not be doing anything for his mean, rude, ungrateful children anymore — to include pick ups and drop offs at school — until he gets their behavior toward you under control. Then let him figure it out while you focus on having a less stressful, healthy pregnancy. I think that’s really the only way to drive the point home to your husband that this situation is untenable and unacceptable long term, and he’s the only one capable of fixing it. NACHO until he does fix it. Your health and your baby’s health are the priority right now.
He’s totally right. Allowing Sara Netanyahu to fire Eylon Levy just shows how dire the problem is: the government is more interested in domestic political gains than the fundamental interests of the State of Israel.
Wait…wtf…Eylon Levy got fired?
I’ve searched long and hard for a cis man that is not into video games. I found one. It’s the best. I’ve always tried to pretend like it was acceptable, but it’s just not for me lol
Yeah, as a non gamer guy that dates all genders, I discovered that I have a preference against gamers and anime enthusiasts. It filters out a lot of people and I’m ok with that.
How do you explain your objection to anime enthusiasts? I have the same preference against them. I just can’t put my finger on why it gives me the ick.
I just found myself one who doesn’t play video games either. It is SO much better! I’m like you and have been trying to be cool with it, but I’m just not.
Wait another 6 months. You are right to worry. Take your time. Don't rush to move in, because it completely changed the dynamic.
What do you mean by completely changed the dynamic?
Like people were literally just pointing out that they were obviously covering something up and they were covering something up.
They literally said it wasn’t cancer, and it turns out to be…cancer. Smh
the difference is ppl were mostly picking fun at how ridiculously awful the palace was at handling the situation, with meghan people would drag her through the mud for just breathing. it’s not a double standard
Yeah, like I don’t remember seeing a single comment anywhere actually making fun of Kate herself.
I think the most likely theory is that Joe and Taylor had been on a break for quite some time before officially announcing the break-up. It explains why they were still kind of interacting very late into the timeline. Maybe they were still 'trying to work things out' when Joe suddenly, unexpectedly pulled the plug on her. That in turn caused a very dramatic response from Taylor—replacing Invisible String on the setlist, her friends unfollowing Joe, and simply her overall erratic behaviour at the time.
I agree with you. I definitely think it was Joe who broke up with Taylor. Her erratic behavior has not been that of someone who was the one to end a relationship. I do hope we get an answer as to WHY he broke up with her when TTPD drops.
I think the truth is somewhere in the middle. He's not as good as a guy as his fans want him to be, but he's also not the Antichrist his detractors make him out to be either. He basically just comes across as an edgelord who likes attention and sometimes takes "contrary" views for the hell of it.
Having following The 1975 for years, this is the most accurate take on MH I’ve seen online. I think people took a lot of things he said/did out of context, but he has also done some idiotic things, too.
But they didn’t seem keen to actually include OP in the threesome when they started making out, and why would you risk outing your affair to your girlfriend like that?
Fuck cancer. Lost my beautiful mom to cancer last month. Today is her birthday 😢 she was American but loved the royals and especially Princess Kate. Prayers for Kate and her family 🙏🏻 having access to great healthcare doesn't mean that cancer treatment always works. We lost music super star Toby Keith this year to cancer and he was getting better had even begun to tour again. Once again, 💔 Fuck cancer🖕
I’m so sorry for your loss. May your mom’s memory always be a blessing. Take care of yourself and reach out to bereavement resources if you need help coping with her loss. Grief is such a difficult thing.
I didn’t either! I thought I’d comment in case someone was interested. Chemo is hard enough as it is :(. More info:
This is good info! Hopefully I’ll never need it or know anyone who will, but it’s nice to know. I guess this doesn’t work with regular chemo as opposed to preventative?
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Also an American in Texas. Wholly agree!
For me it’s the implications of her missing/seriously unwell/divorcing/ect…. would have on the monarchy. I don’t think she fared well in the court of public opinion over the Harry and Meghan drama but the most recent “where’s Kate” has proven she is far and away the most well-liked of all remaining Royals at the moment.
The implications of Kate’s illness/death/divorce/disappearance on the monarchy as the most popular royal is a good point that I think a lot of people are overlooking.
Yes, please!
Yep, I think the media landscape is rapidly changing, and while the British media has been slow to catch up, William has been even slower. Like I’m not even sure he’s left the starting line yet.
I wonder if it’s because: a) he’s too controlling, stubborn, and arrogant to follow the advice of the KP PR team, AND b) William and Kate don’t personally use social media and never have, so they don’t fully understand it well enough to make good decisions.