*at 23 I can’t handle high- intensity work for 8 hours. It’s not about work ethic, it’s about physical fitness (I am out of shape, I had a child recently<3) I was in tears because I hadn’t eaten a singular thing all day, and was hangry AND because (shocker) I’d never worked so hard in my fucking life.
No idea about the deleted comment, but you do need a plan. Make sure you have a cooler/thermos with drinks, a box of granola bars, with a couple in your pocket, a sandwich in a cooler, hand wipes too.
I’m sorry, I should have clarified. It’s not a vet clinic. It’s a a horse farm (boarding and training). That being said, it’s not an under the table job. I filled out tax paperwork- I should be getting breaks. But what am I even gonna say? It’s my first day, and they set the tone I guess. I have no desire to be like “you all are legally mandated to give me x amount of breaks” because it’s just not that environment, I guess. Everyone (apparently) doesn’t mind working for 8 hours without taking a piss.
You just go to the bathroom, get a drink and a snack. Sit in your car for 5 to10 minutes. At lunch go out and do the same for longer. I work at a barn and am far older.
“ I have social anxiety” might work. It works for me most of the time. Then look down and shake your hands back and forth so it’s really obvious you want them to leave. Edited to add: I do actually have this, but don’t think it’s necessary to have it if you are trying to get a guy to leave you alone.
If you can vanish for a bit with a vague excuse. An important phone call with a family member for instance. If at a hotel for example. Sit through dinner or most of it, then vanish for that phone call. Rejoin for the beginning of the presentation, then go to the restroom and "run into a friend Iin the hall who had to tell you all about their vacation/child/need house" plan your escapes and excuses ahead of time. Go to the room or a quiet area to rest. Later get a headache and excuse yourself for the night. Enjoy the parts you do attend.
I used to pick up guys as a joke. I'd walk up, lift them, put them down and go lift another guy until they asked me what I was doing. The answer was "picking up guys". Then I would pick up women so I could say I picked up more women than they did.
Can you explain to me what you mean when you say you weren’t standing in the stirrups? I’ve ridden for many years but am not an expert. But my feet still rest on the stirrups in rising trot. Do you just mean you don’t push from your feet and rather lift your hips?
They scare the kids and keep multiplying year after year. Almost every nook and cranny in all of our outbuildings has a barn swallow nest. I have to figure something out this year.
You can ride at your weight! Sexism and misogyny towards weight is very prevalent in the equestrian community. There are dozens of cowboys pushing 300 pounds that ride. People just like to call women fat. (I’m not assuming you’re a woman I’m just pointing it out!). There are lots of warmbloods and strong, well muscled quarter horses that could accommodate your weight easy peasy. Size doesn’t always equal load capability, though it is a contributing factor.
Just because the men are doing it, doesn't make it right. I'd never buy a horse from one of those guys and I'd never let them touch my horse. Stop using that as an excuse for bad horsemanship. 300 is 20% More than 250.
So, I've been trying to figure something out. Years ago as a 12-13 year old, I basically taught myself to ride. I was never coached on proper positions, and never really learned about contact, but I almost always rode bareback, and at one point I had a level of balance where I could gallop while holding my arms out. I did this sometimes for fun. If I was at that level where I could stay on without holding the reins, does that automatically mean I was doing everything right, or could I have still been doing something very wrong while still being able to maintain my balance?
Riding bareback does force you into some good habits. Hard to say what your posture and hands are like. So some things were probably right and some were youthful ignorance
Dogs don't like electric fence and tend to learn the first time.
*at 23 I can’t handle high- intensity work for 8 hours. It’s not about work ethic, it’s about physical fitness (I am out of shape, I had a child recently<3) I was in tears because I hadn’t eaten a singular thing all day, and was hangry AND because (shocker) I’d never worked so hard in my fucking life.
No idea about the deleted comment, but you do need a plan. Make sure you have a cooler/thermos with drinks, a box of granola bars, with a couple in your pocket, a sandwich in a cooler, hand wipes too.
I’m sorry, I should have clarified. It’s not a vet clinic. It’s a a horse farm (boarding and training). That being said, it’s not an under the table job. I filled out tax paperwork- I should be getting breaks. But what am I even gonna say? It’s my first day, and they set the tone I guess. I have no desire to be like “you all are legally mandated to give me x amount of breaks” because it’s just not that environment, I guess. Everyone (apparently) doesn’t mind working for 8 hours without taking a piss.
You just go to the bathroom, get a drink and a snack. Sit in your car for 5 to10 minutes. At lunch go out and do the same for longer. I work at a barn and am far older.
He wants a free maid. Plus it will make it harder for you to rent a place on your own, so it will be harder to leave
Is she bappy? Is the other dog happy? If yes to those, then you have done well.
“ I have social anxiety” might work. It works for me most of the time. Then look down and shake your hands back and forth so it’s really obvious you want them to leave. Edited to add: I do actually have this, but don’t think it’s necessary to have it if you are trying to get a guy to leave you alone.
I mean, acting super weird is a turn off, but a little weird may not be enough
If you want to avoid confrontation, start wearing a fake engagement ring. Gush about your engagement.
Your trainer needs to be training you on this.
If you can vanish for a bit with a vague excuse. An important phone call with a family member for instance. If at a hotel for example. Sit through dinner or most of it, then vanish for that phone call. Rejoin for the beginning of the presentation, then go to the restroom and "run into a friend Iin the hall who had to tell you all about their vacation/child/need house" plan your escapes and excuses ahead of time. Go to the room or a quiet area to rest. Later get a headache and excuse yourself for the night. Enjoy the parts you do attend.
I haven't. I have just been completely ignoring it because I worry too much about hurting peoples feelings lol
Seriously, just look at him and say "what is wrong with you?" While looking a little confused. Then let there be awkward silence.
I used to pick up guys as a joke. I'd walk up, lift them, put them down and go lift another guy until they asked me what I was doing. The answer was "picking up guys". Then I would pick up women so I could say I picked up more women than they did.
Pass. The navicular is not a deal breaker, but the kissing spine is a no. 5 figures? Definitely a no.
Both.
She wants to play or to urge you into some other action
Can you explain to me what you mean when you say you weren’t standing in the stirrups? I’ve ridden for many years but am not an expert. But my feet still rest on the stirrups in rising trot. Do you just mean you don’t push from your feet and rather lift your hips?
The horses motion lifts you into the air and you slow your descent on the "fall" in a rising trot / when posting.
They scare the kids and keep multiplying year after year. Almost every nook and cranny in all of our outbuildings has a barn swallow nest. I have to figure something out this year.
They eat mosquitoes. You're better off with the birds.
Lol, I want to know more about this crazy rental agreement
You can ride at your weight! Sexism and misogyny towards weight is very prevalent in the equestrian community. There are dozens of cowboys pushing 300 pounds that ride. People just like to call women fat. (I’m not assuming you’re a woman I’m just pointing it out!). There are lots of warmbloods and strong, well muscled quarter horses that could accommodate your weight easy peasy. Size doesn’t always equal load capability, though it is a contributing factor.
Just because the men are doing it, doesn't make it right. I'd never buy a horse from one of those guys and I'd never let them touch my horse. Stop using that as an excuse for bad horsemanship. 300 is 20% More than 250.
20 years. Diamond natural the entire time. Veggies and lean unprocessed meat for snacks. Raw eggs for a treat when he was elderly.
You are a great size for a large pony.
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I appreciate seeing this. I hadn't heard about it and have friends that live there
So, I've been trying to figure something out. Years ago as a 12-13 year old, I basically taught myself to ride. I was never coached on proper positions, and never really learned about contact, but I almost always rode bareback, and at one point I had a level of balance where I could gallop while holding my arms out. I did this sometimes for fun. If I was at that level where I could stay on without holding the reins, does that automatically mean I was doing everything right, or could I have still been doing something very wrong while still being able to maintain my balance?
Riding bareback does force you into some good habits. Hard to say what your posture and hands are like. So some things were probably right and some were youthful ignorance
I have several years of cycling experience. Do you think this would be useful for learning to ride horses?
Unfortunately, no. You probably have great balance though and that will be helpful
Scam
He's burying it
Yes
Uhm.. excuse me..
Yep, it's. 22 with tiny buckshot. I was told to could shoot rats and snakes in the house with very minimal damage