Most likely misery. My suggestion is you prioritize friends who have a relationship, in your life and whose goals align with urs, maybe its marriage, maybe not.
I think the correct answer is a mix of all those things, it’s really the attitude of the woman. Understanding from the response that she is willing to bring something to said table as opposed to most women who just want to take take take and take you to court for divorce and take child support from you and take and take and keep taking. The good answer is in the attitude imo
You don’t know this but you are top tier in the dating market. Assuming your looks are on point, it’s really around 25 where the best guys pick u up like nothing. Be cool, have fun but don’t feel the pressure to go to bed with a man you know is not serious about a long term relationship
The fact that you own a iPhone don’t mean you can’t use a Samsung, ESPECIALLY WHEN ITS NEW.. give him that Samsung and in months, he will be looking at a HTC or whatever is out there these days
okay so basically i was talking to this girl and i told her my standards and what i wanted from her in the relationship which was very simple shit if you ask me. she wasnt listening to what i say so i decided this is a waste of time and i blocked her on everything because she pissed me off and was frustrating me over and over again.
Yah leave her on read. Something about her wants that reassurance that she can still get you despite her bad behaviour. This is coming from a guy that spinned the block. After a short while, bad behaviour comes out again!
I think so too. But no matter how excited you are about a trip, you do not put the cart before the horse. Babies should be inside the confines of a marriage.
Is the man paying most, if not all of the bills? Is it 50/50? The finances matter. The man should be more inclined to split household chores and child care assuming he does not have the full burden of providing financially for his family. Cases where men would say I get up and go to work everyday is fair assuming the woman does not work and pay for the finances. It’s just division of labour at that point. But if the mortgage is split, car payments are split, then it’s fair to split chores and child care imo
So come along with me here. 4 guys, sex is like a patty, you know, just the meat inside a burger, but it’s not complete. We want the buns too, it makes for a complete meal. The buns in this case, is everything else - Your attitude/personality, how you treat him back, so on and so forth. So in your case, this guy comes into the burger shop and you give him buns but no patty (I know, they always screw my order up too :p). So what does he do, he takes a seat in the corner and waits, he might have small talk here and there, like how is your mom, forcing you think he really is into me, but he is just waiting for the full meal, keep in mind. So time passes and you finally come to it, you give the patty, he stacks it between the buns, has a mouthful or two and wipes his hands clean, says thanks and leaves (most pple don’t say thanks these days, no closure, they just walk out, rudeeee!). You are like awww, but he is my fav customer. Cool. Your fav customer just sat there and waited, months maybe weeks for the patty and bun, it could be he didn’t like one of those things as you hoped he would have. Savvy customers, you know, will always find other burger joints right?! So in application, you have to serve that burger like it was a 5 star dish baby or else the customer won’t be thrilled and the shop will just be a revolving door. This is what I have observed of dating in 2024. Maybe they don’t like the personality/behaviour, maybe they don’t like the other p*word. Whatever! But if they are not satisfied, they are going to leave. And I hate to use this analogy but it serves from a M pov! Gd luck
I see your point, but on the same token I’m not a customer either. But you putting it into perspective makes sense. I mean in my opinion, if you were uneasy about it, the least you can do is provide an explanation instead of just giving me a number and agreeing to a date. Cause that can cause more conflict. You can say no and just say that in you wouldn’t think it be appropriate in a work environment. I’d honestly take that over this whole situation. Then I’d have your answer already and wouldn’t feel more awkward than I do now. Cause I just feel led on now and have to battle with the fact that you ghosted me knowing you’d see me again.
“I am a woman of my words” - said no woman ever. Dude it’s life. Women don’t owe you any explanation for their poor/misleading behaviour. Good thing, someone has stepped up and explained exactly what happened so you don’t have to keep guessing. Armed with this information, you must move on… I hope you don’t forget this lesson bc it will happen in many different other ways if you continue to date for a while. If you see her or any woman who passed on a chance with you, pretend they are a bro from HR, “hey good to see you” and keep it moving…
I will tell you this, you are right to feel that way. I mean as a single guy I only add women I’m interested in on socials. You kinda have them hanging out there, till opportunity presents itself to escalate things. So I can see how this is wrong for a girl in a relationship. Anyone that cannot see that is either naive or sitting on a moral high ground. But what do you do? Because we don’t pray for problems to go away, we pray for skills to solve all the problems right. So you have to talk to her in a calm manner, explain your point of view and ask what she thinks, if she is really your girl she would understand that men push the envelope, it is only right for a woman in a committed relationship to not make her address known in this scenario. If she doesn’t see that, don’t hold it against her, thank your stars for putting those men there to expose your girl for the type of gf she is and you can say, this is not what I want so I want out. If you don’t leave, your inability to act upon knowing her stance which does not support your views will further crush you in this relationship. GD luck
Wrong! She, like most women want you to put them in a pedestal and do the most, not the least as in coffee or walk, I’m talking buddy roll out the red carpet, “I’m sending the limo, be ready at 8” type of conversation, but soon as she reads you are not going in that direction, they run! They say stupid made up stuff and run for the heels. Trust me I hang with all these chicks and they say “he is giving broke energy”. Bro their mindset is warped, you did nothing wrong, keep on pushing.. stand ur ground like this is Florida.. a lot of men simp, go all out and set a standard of ass kissing for the rest of the relationship but that’s not you. Kudos!
Far older men can PROVIDE and do things that far younger men cannot from accumulating the experience and resources over TIME..kinda like the man you may call “daddy” unless he is a deadbeat 💀
They stare so much, imagining what could be. But never approach bc of the assumed high chance of a rejection. As a guy, I find it creepy but as a woman if you know the man just doesn’t have the courage to approach just brush it off and carry on with your day, no point in escalating things…
If its a case where i haven't expressed anything to them regarding my relationship. which of the two would they fall under?
Most likely misery. My suggestion is you prioritize friends who have a relationship, in your life and whose goals align with urs, maybe its marriage, maybe not.
A wise WOMAN once said. Misery loves company..
I think the correct answer is a mix of all those things, it’s really the attitude of the woman. Understanding from the response that she is willing to bring something to said table as opposed to most women who just want to take take take and take you to court for divorce and take child support from you and take and take and keep taking. The good answer is in the attitude imo
Humble brag… take it how you want
It does not always make a terrible argument
This is grounds for SEPERATION in my opinion. But if she choose to stay with her it won’t be all too bad bc no one else will be her victim but YOU.
You don’t know this but you are top tier in the dating market. Assuming your looks are on point, it’s really around 25 where the best guys pick u up like nothing. Be cool, have fun but don’t feel the pressure to go to bed with a man you know is not serious about a long term relationship
It doesn’t come natural to me or my guys
She is so immature, I would not want someone with this mindset in my life at all.
Hey Chatgpt, write me an excuse to bail on a date using the covid vaccine,go!
The fact that you own a iPhone don’t mean you can’t use a Samsung, ESPECIALLY WHEN ITS NEW.. give him that Samsung and in months, he will be looking at a HTC or whatever is out there these days
Good luck healing ❤️🩹
okay so basically i was talking to this girl and i told her my standards and what i wanted from her in the relationship which was very simple shit if you ask me. she wasnt listening to what i say so i decided this is a waste of time and i blocked her on everything because she pissed me off and was frustrating me over and over again.
Yah leave her on read. Something about her wants that reassurance that she can still get you despite her bad behaviour. This is coming from a guy that spinned the block. After a short while, bad behaviour comes out again!
I think so too. But no matter how excited you are about a trip, you do not put the cart before the horse. Babies should be inside the confines of a marriage.
Is the man paying most, if not all of the bills? Is it 50/50? The finances matter. The man should be more inclined to split household chores and child care assuming he does not have the full burden of providing financially for his family. Cases where men would say I get up and go to work everyday is fair assuming the woman does not work and pay for the finances. It’s just division of labour at that point. But if the mortgage is split, car payments are split, then it’s fair to split chores and child care imo
So come along with me here. 4 guys, sex is like a patty, you know, just the meat inside a burger, but it’s not complete. We want the buns too, it makes for a complete meal. The buns in this case, is everything else - Your attitude/personality, how you treat him back, so on and so forth. So in your case, this guy comes into the burger shop and you give him buns but no patty (I know, they always screw my order up too :p). So what does he do, he takes a seat in the corner and waits, he might have small talk here and there, like how is your mom, forcing you think he really is into me, but he is just waiting for the full meal, keep in mind. So time passes and you finally come to it, you give the patty, he stacks it between the buns, has a mouthful or two and wipes his hands clean, says thanks and leaves (most pple don’t say thanks these days, no closure, they just walk out, rudeeee!). You are like awww, but he is my fav customer. Cool. Your fav customer just sat there and waited, months maybe weeks for the patty and bun, it could be he didn’t like one of those things as you hoped he would have. Savvy customers, you know, will always find other burger joints right?! So in application, you have to serve that burger like it was a 5 star dish baby or else the customer won’t be thrilled and the shop will just be a revolving door. This is what I have observed of dating in 2024. Maybe they don’t like the personality/behaviour, maybe they don’t like the other p*word. Whatever! But if they are not satisfied, they are going to leave. And I hate to use this analogy but it serves from a M pov! Gd luck
I see your point, but on the same token I’m not a customer either. But you putting it into perspective makes sense. I mean in my opinion, if you were uneasy about it, the least you can do is provide an explanation instead of just giving me a number and agreeing to a date. Cause that can cause more conflict. You can say no and just say that in you wouldn’t think it be appropriate in a work environment. I’d honestly take that over this whole situation. Then I’d have your answer already and wouldn’t feel more awkward than I do now. Cause I just feel led on now and have to battle with the fact that you ghosted me knowing you’d see me again.
“I am a woman of my words” - said no woman ever. Dude it’s life. Women don’t owe you any explanation for their poor/misleading behaviour. Good thing, someone has stepped up and explained exactly what happened so you don’t have to keep guessing. Armed with this information, you must move on… I hope you don’t forget this lesson bc it will happen in many different other ways if you continue to date for a while. If you see her or any woman who passed on a chance with you, pretend they are a bro from HR, “hey good to see you” and keep it moving…
I will tell you this, you are right to feel that way. I mean as a single guy I only add women I’m interested in on socials. You kinda have them hanging out there, till opportunity presents itself to escalate things. So I can see how this is wrong for a girl in a relationship. Anyone that cannot see that is either naive or sitting on a moral high ground. But what do you do? Because we don’t pray for problems to go away, we pray for skills to solve all the problems right. So you have to talk to her in a calm manner, explain your point of view and ask what she thinks, if she is really your girl she would understand that men push the envelope, it is only right for a woman in a committed relationship to not make her address known in this scenario. If she doesn’t see that, don’t hold it against her, thank your stars for putting those men there to expose your girl for the type of gf she is and you can say, this is not what I want so I want out. If you don’t leave, your inability to act upon knowing her stance which does not support your views will further crush you in this relationship. GD luck
A wise man once said to me “trust BUT VERIFY” I’m going to leave it there..
She does not qualify to be a wife. I hope you can hear me at the back of the room.
You guys are young and can’t seem to enforce your boundaries with your parents. Gd luck tho! Remember, it’s your boundary! Stay strong
Wrong! She, like most women want you to put them in a pedestal and do the most, not the least as in coffee or walk, I’m talking buddy roll out the red carpet, “I’m sending the limo, be ready at 8” type of conversation, but soon as she reads you are not going in that direction, they run! They say stupid made up stuff and run for the heels. Trust me I hang with all these chicks and they say “he is giving broke energy”. Bro their mindset is warped, you did nothing wrong, keep on pushing.. stand ur ground like this is Florida.. a lot of men simp, go all out and set a standard of ass kissing for the rest of the relationship but that’s not you. Kudos!
Far older men can PROVIDE and do things that far younger men cannot from accumulating the experience and resources over TIME..kinda like the man you may call “daddy” unless he is a deadbeat 💀
She does not value you
They stare so much, imagining what could be. But never approach bc of the assumed high chance of a rejection. As a guy, I find it creepy but as a woman if you know the man just doesn’t have the courage to approach just brush it off and carry on with your day, no point in escalating things…
I would interpret it as I dodged a bullet, the only person I look forward to seeing is the person that looks forward to seeing me!