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  1. This feeling of the days just passing by as if they’re nothing and like you’re just existing doesn’t go away with a partner. I have a husband and I feel exactly the same about this.

  2. I’m 36 and not yet ready to have a kid because I had a really tough year with my mental health last years and it makes me really worried about being a mom. I just started the process to freeze my eggs so hopefully that will allow me to postpone the decision a little longer.

  3. I feel exactly the same way as you. On one hand I’m happy coasting and collecting a paycheck but on the other hand I’m not intellectually stimulated. I know I should make a change but I don’t know what it is. The drudgery definitely gets to me too.

  4. I am married and would like to have a kid but scared to because of my mental health issues. I wish was ready to have a kid by this age but I am not yet. My reason for wanting one kid is to have the experience of seeing this little human grow and teaching them things. It to me feels like a life experience I would like to have but I’m unsure if I’m cut out for it.

  5. I wanted to be a doctor. I was smart enough to be a doctor. I still love being in medical settings to this day, they fascinate me.

  6. I’m the same. I had the smarts to be a doctor but I was scared off by the amount of schooling and time it took. I have a career in tech that I find super boring. Major regrets not pursuing medicine.

  7. Own a travel agency. Best business ever. I get to travel the world and make decent money. Everybody who works for me travels for pleasure and business several months out of the year with their spouse. It is a dream.

  8. Look at HostAgencyReviews.com and the articles there. It has everything you need to know to get started. It does take time, and you will need great people and sales skills to succeed. We didn't start making good money immediately, and cash flow can be a pain. For example, we have one luxury booking that doesn't travel until 2026, and we don't get paid commission until they travel. Half our bookings we are making today travel in 2025.

  9. I’m living the life I thought I wanted on paper. I’m married, have a good stable job, own my house, I have a dog, travel a decent amount but there are things I feel really stuck and unhappy about. I love my husband but I sometimes dislike being married. I dislike the city I live in, I am super bored in my job and dislike my career path and have been having a hard time with my mental health. I thought I’d have a kid by now but instead find myself in the Fencesitter community at 36.

  10. I think this idea of being madly in love with someone is like a Hollywood ideal that we’re fed. I mean that whole line of “I love him but not in love” is really cliche and not realistic. I think feelings of love change and morph during the course of the relationship.

  11. I’m obsessed with fitness classes. My usual class is a strength and conditioning boot camp / circuit training type class at a local boutique gym. I love adding in yoga, pilates, spin and trying new boutique fitness studios. Working out is my only good habit.

  12. Feeling stable in my mental health, specifically as it relates to my health anxiety and fear around getting pregnant and having something going wrong with it. I had a couple of mental health/ health anxiety episodes recently that puts a big question mark on motherhood. I would like to feel stable for a few months but time is running out and I’d like to be able to try this year.

  13. I want to have the experience of motherhood and I want to help a little human learn and grow. Plus I think it will give me purpose and fulfillment. A less important reason is wanting to know what my mixed race baby would look like.

  14. I wish I actually focused on building a career I enjoyed. I wish I got a masters degree and I wish I enjoyed being single more. If I’m being honest, I regret some decisions I made in my 30s rather than in my 20s.

  15. Something I’ve noticed is that we spend a lot of our teens, 20s, and sometimes our 30s with “check boxes” of milestones we’re “supposed to” hit.

  16. This is so accurate. I think there’s also an uncertainty of what to do next when you’re in your mid 30s

  17. I can relate to this a lot. I see pregnant women, know a lot of women who are pregnant/ just had babies and it makes me sad. I am married and for a while, and I was on the fence about wanting a kid. But lately, seeing pregnant women makes me want it too. I feel sad every time I get my period. We’ve been rolling the dice but not actively trying to conceive and so far it hasn’t happened.

  18. or my personal favourite - get a dog... like, how can you POSSIBLY compare a human child with a fucking dog

  19. Lol I love my dog but if anything she makes me desire a human child more because if I can love a creature of another species so much, I can’t even fathom what it would feel like to love a child that came out of me.

  20. Ha I just commented this same thing before I saw your comment lol. Literally just finished this book yesterday!

  21. This is such a tough situation that I can relate to. When we first started dating my husband moved out to where I was living and he hated it there. He wanted to move back home for all the same reasons as your husband. We ended up moving to his hometown and I absolutely hate it. I want to move back. Luckily my job is remote so that’s not a factor.

  22. I find myself in the exact same situation and I don’t know how to fix it. Would love to know the answer

  23. I can relate completely to the feeling of doing nothing and just wasting time scrolling. I’m doing it right now.

  24. I think about this question a lot. I’m almost 36 and while there is a part of me that wants a kid, there’s a part that’s not sure if it’s a good idea. My husband and I have not actively started trying yet but we aren’t being careful either. I feel like in my heart, I would like to become a mom but I’m terrified of the reality of it.

  25. I feel like my brain constantly plays what if scenarios of both past decisions and things that could be in the future and it keeps my stuck in a loop of depression and anxiety.

  26. Don’t give in to pressure to get married by 30 or any nonsense like that. Enjoy being single.

  27. I’m in a similar position as you. I’m feeling bored and unfulfilled with my corporate job but I’m uncertain on what change to make because anything else will probably be more work for less pay. I think I’m interested in healthcare but it’s not like I can just try it out without making a big up front investment of going back to school, and I worry about what if I make the switch and don’t like it.

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