I'd agree with that. I think it's fairly normal to share your hopes and plans with your immediate family. It would be different if OP was already pregnant and didn't want to announce it until they were sure it was viable, but right now these are just future life goals so NAH.
I leaning more towards YTA. Honestly, if I were him, I wouldn't accept your deliveries. I can kind of get where you're coming from, but each delivery to you means his missing a tip from another potential customer.
Honestly a grandparent excluding kids from a traditional vacation to a place designed for children suggests to me that something is off with grandma’s attitude full stop. This isn’t about being owed anything. It’s about the weird vibes from granny.
yeah, the place is meant for kids, but not exactly meant for very young kids. the kids are still pretty fresh, they're not really gonna remember anything - especially the 2yo. it's better to wait til they are older so they can fully enjoy the place, like 6-8 bc they will be able to go on more rides.
I think that’s fine…but I’ll stand by it being very off to me to say you straight up don’t want the grandkids attending. It just sounds poorly handled by every adult involved
I just stare at them for a sec and say “…pardon?” After they start to squirm. If they were dumb enough to repeat it I would say “what a strange thing to say” and giggle and then move on.
if she wanted space she should be the one to relocate. Kicking him out is AH behavior. It is funny tho that OP (also an AH, I voted esh) says he was immasculated by it. What a dummy.
………you’re with a dud who wants it all on his terms. He’s a good dad but only when he’s not prioritizing himself?! He can watch his shows and game when kiddo is asleep at night like every other parent.
The fact is that he likes having her in control. It means less accountability for him. He doesn’t want 50/50 custody even if he says he does. He doesn’t want the full responsibility so he engages in the drama instead. It’s worth it to him.
Answer: Agree with the above / below comments but also it’s a fallacy, those most successful showcasing this “lifestyle” on social media are actually rich so they can afford to do this. Completely ridiculous to expect “normal” people to be able to afford it.
I mean why wouldn’t you show him the same proof
I'd agree with that. I think it's fairly normal to share your hopes and plans with your immediate family. It would be different if OP was already pregnant and didn't want to announce it until they were sure it was viable, but right now these are just future life goals so NAH.
Except mom is a judgmental AH and chances are both OP and husband know that
“Just my mom!”
I did suggest this to him but he said that he likes checking up on me while he's out delivering.
Your man sucks. Get ready.
I leaning more towards YTA. Honestly, if I were him, I wouldn't accept your deliveries. I can kind of get where you're coming from, but each delivery to you means his missing a tip from another potential customer.
Oh no!!! He has to miss a few bucks because he delivered to the woman carrying his baby! His poor PC! Whatever will he do
You are a special person OP. You are compassionate and kind. And you can do more for your siblings by leaving than staying.
NTA
Why am I already thinking she’s the real issue.
Honestly a grandparent excluding kids from a traditional vacation to a place designed for children suggests to me that something is off with grandma’s attitude full stop. This isn’t about being owed anything. It’s about the weird vibes from granny.
yeah, the place is meant for kids, but not exactly meant for very young kids. the kids are still pretty fresh, they're not really gonna remember anything - especially the 2yo. it's better to wait til they are older so they can fully enjoy the place, like 6-8 bc they will be able to go on more rides.
I think that’s fine…but I’ll stand by it being very off to me to say you straight up don’t want the grandkids attending. It just sounds poorly handled by every adult involved
No. You have to leave even if just for a time. Because here’s the thing.
I just stare at them for a sec and say “…pardon?” After they start to squirm. If they were dumb enough to repeat it I would say “what a strange thing to say” and giggle and then move on.
….you are 29 years old. You know better, I know you do.
I've talked to him about it before and he doesn't want me to and got mad so I feel like I would have to do it behind his back.
What right does he have to get mad???
…why do you need permission OP?
Why not both
It’s a $$ issue on my part. I’m paying for everything and I just want something affordable.
No one would be willing to go potluck with a salad? :/ sorry OP that sucks for you
if she wanted space she should be the one to relocate. Kicking him out is AH behavior. It is funny tho that OP (also an AH, I voted esh) says he was immasculated by it. What a dummy.
Yep. As I said she was an AH. But she’s also not dripping with contempt here so
yeah seriously that guy says he enjoyed his partner's suffering. That is messed up.
Yep and he waited this out for her birthday.
………you’re with a dud who wants it all on his terms. He’s a good dad but only when he’s not prioritizing himself?! He can watch his shows and game when kiddo is asleep at night like every other parent.
ESH
NTA where the heck is your husband in all this? He should be advocating for you. He should have been advocating for you months ago.
It’s some bad stuff I’ve done (not cheating with another person but bad stuff) about 3 years ago.
Ok.
ESH Frankly they never should have involved you in this conversation, and you should have referred them to another professional.
NTA
The fact is that he likes having her in control. It means less accountability for him. He doesn’t want 50/50 custody even if he says he does. He doesn’t want the full responsibility so he engages in the drama instead. It’s worth it to him.
NTA
I was divorced due to an abusive relationship so, yes I do need therapy
Just end this OP, take time for you. It’s ok to end things even if he’s not done anything wrong
The only thing that doesn’t seem as cohesive here is the dill lime rice. Might make sense to choose a simpler flavor for that.
I’ve suggested solutions. I’ve made a basic observation. I’ve empathized with the challenge. It’s fine. I’m happy with things.
I think you’ll be happier if you let this go.
Answer: Agree with the above / below comments but also it’s a fallacy, those most successful showcasing this “lifestyle” on social media are actually rich so they can afford to do this. Completely ridiculous to expect “normal” people to be able to afford it.
Ballerina Farm is just so cringy to me. Like I would love to make bread all day and garden and shit but not like that lol
Why would waiting til December make any real difference?
NAH