Go to your admin as though you are looking for help and ask them what they think you should do for a student who is not present in your class. I mean, Iām assuming that youāre already giving the kid accommodations based on the IEP with the work that is sent home and itās just not getting done. What else are you supposed to do?
Even though I am enjoying this school year after a couple of really rough ones, I was still really excited to have a month off and not go to work when I had abdominal surgery in December š
I mean, itās curious that he had to look at the menu to know what he usually orders. How is he expecting a waitress who serves countless people every day to remember his order when he doesnāt even remember himself?
Well, there is still quite a stigma around being a single woman, especially of a certain age. And so there are a lot of women who fell into that and got married because they felt like they should.
Iām sure some women do, but most (myself included) prefer coffee or drinks as a first date because itās low stakes, especially if youāre meeting a stranger. If it was somebody I knew a little bit more in real life then Iād probably be more comfortable with them and would be OK with going to dinner or something.
Yes. One guy I had been on a few dates with tried to stick it in without a condom and did not ask if that was OK before he tried. When I said āHold on, Iām not on birth controlā he said, āNo cum for you then,ā and continued to try to get it in. When I told him that I wasnāt having sex without a condom, he just laid down and was basically pouting the rest of the night. I shouldāve gone home, but it was late and he lived in the hills so I didnāt wanna risk driving. Stupid me also just tried to chalk it up to the awkwardness of being together for the first time and offered to get a condom. He tried it for a little bit but couldnāt stay hard. He didnāt finish. Needless to say, neither did I. Because a man who is that careless and reckless doesnāt give a shit about his partnerās pleasure.
When behaviors feel out of control, it can be very draining and challenging, especially when you get hit withsomething, even if there is no major injury. There have been a few times in my 12 years where I had to step out of my classroom because I couldnāt stop crying.
Did I say that? Did I say there arenāt women out there upholding the patriarchy? In fact thatās exactly what I said. They act like this and they expect these things of men because they have been raised in this patriarchal society that sees āfeminine ātraits as being less, which is why men are made fun of or thought of as less when they act āfeminine.ā And itās not right. Everyone should be calling it out. Quit denying we live in a patriarchy. Quit denying that living in a patriarchal society is harmful to both men and women.
How does it deny women of any agency? You know, women uphold patriarchy as well, right? Also, do you realize how recently women actually had agency? When were women able to vote? When were we able to own property on our own? When were we able to have our own bank accounts and credit cards? Seriously, you think women have had all this agency in the past? And now in the past one or two generations, since women have been able to do all these things on their own, we finally have some agency. And we are realizing that the patriarchy hurts everyone. We are trying our damnedest to stop how the patriarchy treats everybody. But then there are people like you who still just seem to wanna blame women for all of this. To blame feminists. When we are the ones that are trying to do something about it. You just donāt wanna take any responsibility. You just wanna keep blaming women. Iām done with this conversation because itās literally going to go nowhere until you do some reflection on how the world works and what traits it values and which traits it doesnāt.
Sure, sealioning is a thing for sure. However, it would be pure conjecture to assert that he was doing so, absent any other information. OP said it was their friend, and there was no other judgement of that particular individual. So as much as you might automatically assume the inquiry is in bad faith, it doesnāt seem unreasonable to me to respond to the inquiry as though it is in good faith. It could be a very pivotal learning moment for him, depending on his receptivity and OPās desire to expend that sort of energy.
Again, I donāt think you realize how often it happens. Itās like the men who love to shout ānot all men!ā And yet every single woman I know has experienced these things many many many times. So given what Iāve experienced, and what tons of women I know personally have experienced, a man doesnāt send you something like this if heās not trying to start something. because heās dying to prove you wrong.
in my discharge papers, if stated the anesthesia used sugammax, I believe) renders birth control useless. So, that could be a factor, if that was used. I, too, was advised waiting 6 months to conceive.
I mean, Iām sure thatās a factor, but not everyone takes birth control, and these discharge papers are literally given to everyone. The main reason why they tell you to wait is because your uterus is still healing.
I was living in sweatpants for about two weeks. And then I graduated to high-waisted yoga pants that went over my incisions, and actually it was kind of comforting. After that, I was in sweatpants at home and if I had to go out, Iād wear yoga pants. And even when I went back to work, 4.5 weeks I was still wearing yoga pants and/or loose dresses to work and sweatpants at home for about a month longer before I felt OK to wear jeans again. As far as the underwear went, my incisions are in line with my belly button and my underwear are low rise so they werenāt an issue.
He could be one of those thatās just testing the waters. Saying slightly more benign things that are aligned with the red pill movement to see how you react and then get further into it later. Guaranteed if he has shared those attitudes with you already, he probably has worse ones.
The more interesting comment is the red flag because she's "putting that little effort into her appearance at 22". But I bet if she was all dressed up with makeup and a tiny little skirt, their opinion would do a complete 180.
Kind of off-topic, but I assumed that the freshman was all dressed up and the senior was the one dressing all comfy. Like the freshman is a try-hard and the senior has been around the block a few times so she hasnāt give a shit what she wears.
Iām excited for you! Living alone is definitely nerve-racking at times, but there is just so much freedom! And as far as sleeping alone, maybe you could have a noise machine or some music playing?
Iāve lived alone for over a decade and I still get nervous. It hits more when I think too much about it or if Iāve watched some thing more on the creepy end. I do have locks on all my windows and doors. Things that block them from being opened. I also have metal screen doors with deadbolts. I keep a baseball bat under my bed.
I had a laparoscopic myomectomy in December. The day of surgery, I just wore a loose T-shirt and some very comfy loose elastic waist pants. They gave me funky underwear with a pad in it. I went home the same day as well. I also suggest some kind of pillow to protect your stomach from the seatbelt in the car. I actually got myself one of those small Squishmallows š I used it in the car and I also used it over the next couple weeks to support myself around the house if I was getting up from the couch or coughing or sneezing. I also slept with it pressed against my stomach and that was nice.
You have birds in your hair? Why does he want to pull on them? Thatās animal abuse š
Itās like PBIS. Great in theory and when practiced well, but so many people do it wrong.
Go to your admin as though you are looking for help and ask them what they think you should do for a student who is not present in your class. I mean, Iām assuming that youāre already giving the kid accommodations based on the IEP with the work that is sent home and itās just not getting done. What else are you supposed to do?
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He was so sexy in This Is Us ššš
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Even when he had wigs and fake facial hair and was aged up. Still so handsome and just as Jack Pearson in general, he was magical. So warm.
Even though I am enjoying this school year after a couple of really rough ones, I was still really excited to have a month off and not go to work when I had abdominal surgery in December š
Not many people would admit that they are looking forward to abdominal surgery...............
I mean, it was laparoscopic, but still š¤£
I mean, itās curious that he had to look at the menu to know what he usually orders. How is he expecting a waitress who serves countless people every day to remember his order when he doesnāt even remember himself?
Iām 5ā8 and 3/4. I guess that makes me a psychotic spoiled brat?
Well, there is still quite a stigma around being a single woman, especially of a certain age. And so there are a lot of women who fell into that and got married because they felt like they should.
Probably the most obvious where theyāve told me they arenāt looking for something serious but I keep hanging around at their beck and call.
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Iām sure some women do, but most (myself included) prefer coffee or drinks as a first date because itās low stakes, especially if youāre meeting a stranger. If it was somebody I knew a little bit more in real life then Iād probably be more comfortable with them and would be OK with going to dinner or something.
I live alone and I only sleep naked when itās warm out, but I keep a robe nearby in case of an emergency.
Yes. One guy I had been on a few dates with tried to stick it in without a condom and did not ask if that was OK before he tried. When I said āHold on, Iām not on birth controlā he said, āNo cum for you then,ā and continued to try to get it in. When I told him that I wasnāt having sex without a condom, he just laid down and was basically pouting the rest of the night. I shouldāve gone home, but it was late and he lived in the hills so I didnāt wanna risk driving. Stupid me also just tried to chalk it up to the awkwardness of being together for the first time and offered to get a condom. He tried it for a little bit but couldnāt stay hard. He didnāt finish. Needless to say, neither did I. Because a man who is that careless and reckless doesnāt give a shit about his partnerās pleasure.
omg....as a guy "no cum for you then" would make me lose my boner out of self cringe for even saying thatššš
Dude, I could not believe he said that! He legit thought he was funny!
When behaviors feel out of control, it can be very draining and challenging, especially when you get hit withsomething, even if there is no major injury. There have been a few times in my 12 years where I had to step out of my classroom because I couldnāt stop crying.
yeah right... let's fight patriarchy by denying women of the past any agency, as if they didn't live at all in the world we inherited
Did I say that? Did I say there arenāt women out there upholding the patriarchy? In fact thatās exactly what I said. They act like this and they expect these things of men because they have been raised in this patriarchal society that sees āfeminine ātraits as being less, which is why men are made fun of or thought of as less when they act āfeminine.ā And itās not right. Everyone should be calling it out. Quit denying we live in a patriarchy. Quit denying that living in a patriarchal society is harmful to both men and women.
you said the following:
How does it deny women of any agency? You know, women uphold patriarchy as well, right? Also, do you realize how recently women actually had agency? When were women able to vote? When were we able to own property on our own? When were we able to have our own bank accounts and credit cards? Seriously, you think women have had all this agency in the past? And now in the past one or two generations, since women have been able to do all these things on their own, we finally have some agency. And we are realizing that the patriarchy hurts everyone. We are trying our damnedest to stop how the patriarchy treats everybody. But then there are people like you who still just seem to wanna blame women for all of this. To blame feminists. When we are the ones that are trying to do something about it. You just donāt wanna take any responsibility. You just wanna keep blaming women. Iām done with this conversation because itās literally going to go nowhere until you do some reflection on how the world works and what traits it values and which traits it doesnāt.
Very unfair thing to say IMO, given the continued messaging to boys and girls to this day. Bouncing it off another friend a great check.
I donāt think you realize how many times a man will ask a woman a question and itās a trap so that he can go off on her.
Sure, sealioning is a thing for sure. However, it would be pure conjecture to assert that he was doing so, absent any other information. OP said it was their friend, and there was no other judgement of that particular individual. So as much as you might automatically assume the inquiry is in bad faith, it doesnāt seem unreasonable to me to respond to the inquiry as though it is in good faith. It could be a very pivotal learning moment for him, depending on his receptivity and OPās desire to expend that sort of energy.
Again, I donāt think you realize how often it happens. Itās like the men who love to shout ānot all men!ā And yet every single woman I know has experienced these things many many many times. So given what Iāve experienced, and what tons of women I know personally have experienced, a man doesnāt send you something like this if heās not trying to start something. because heās dying to prove you wrong.
in my discharge papers, if stated the anesthesia used sugammax, I believe) renders birth control useless. So, that could be a factor, if that was used. I, too, was advised waiting 6 months to conceive.
I mean, Iām sure thatās a factor, but not everyone takes birth control, and these discharge papers are literally given to everyone. The main reason why they tell you to wait is because your uterus is still healing.
Iām a single lady with three cats so I guess Iām gonna be single forever!
I was living in sweatpants for about two weeks. And then I graduated to high-waisted yoga pants that went over my incisions, and actually it was kind of comforting. After that, I was in sweatpants at home and if I had to go out, Iād wear yoga pants. And even when I went back to work, 4.5 weeks I was still wearing yoga pants and/or loose dresses to work and sweatpants at home for about a month longer before I felt OK to wear jeans again. As far as the underwear went, my incisions are in line with my belly button and my underwear are low rise so they werenāt an issue.
He could be one of those thatās just testing the waters. Saying slightly more benign things that are aligned with the red pill movement to see how you react and then get further into it later. Guaranteed if he has shared those attitudes with you already, he probably has worse ones.
The more interesting comment is the red flag because she's "putting that little effort into her appearance at 22". But I bet if she was all dressed up with makeup and a tiny little skirt, their opinion would do a complete 180.
Kind of off-topic, but I assumed that the freshman was all dressed up and the senior was the one dressing all comfy. Like the freshman is a try-hard and the senior has been around the block a few times so she hasnāt give a shit what she wears.
Iām excited for you! Living alone is definitely nerve-racking at times, but there is just so much freedom! And as far as sleeping alone, maybe you could have a noise machine or some music playing?
Iāve lived alone for over a decade and I still get nervous. It hits more when I think too much about it or if Iāve watched some thing more on the creepy end. I do have locks on all my windows and doors. Things that block them from being opened. I also have metal screen doors with deadbolts. I keep a baseball bat under my bed.
I had a laparoscopic myomectomy in December. The day of surgery, I just wore a loose T-shirt and some very comfy loose elastic waist pants. They gave me funky underwear with a pad in it. I went home the same day as well. I also suggest some kind of pillow to protect your stomach from the seatbelt in the car. I actually got myself one of those small Squishmallows š I used it in the car and I also used it over the next couple weeks to support myself around the house if I was getting up from the couch or coughing or sneezing. I also slept with it pressed against my stomach and that was nice.
I must be extra manly with my size 10 clodhoppers