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Sept 5, 1992: A small boy about 3yrs old, dressed in a child-sized KKK robe & pointed hat, touches his reflection in a riot shield as a Black trooper holding the shield looks down at him. The iconic photo was taken by Todd Robertson at a Gainesville, GA, KKK rally.

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Half of Americans anticipate a U.S. civil war soon, survey finds.

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  1. I started wearing a bra at 8 years old, was 5’10” tall with DD breasts by 14 and DDD breasts by senior year of high school…all without the aid of any penetration! It’s almost like puberty and genetics had something to do with it…

  2. THANK YOU. So many people have told me that it’s bad to “self diagnose” when self diagnosis is how I went to a doctor and got diagnosed with ADHD! Self diagnosis (in moderation) is a good thing.

  3. Doctors get so mad if you come in and say “I read about XYZ on the internet”, but they give you all of 7-15 minutes of their time (after an hour of waiting in the lobby). How in the world am I supposed to give you all the information you need about me and my experiences/symptoms, plus time for you to mentally process the information to diagnose in just 15 minutes?! We don’t have a choice but to look online for answers. I spent 10 years in constant pain and exhaustion going from doctor to doctor, each of them telling me my symptoms were psychological, even after my psychiatrist and psychologist said “no, your symptoms are not psychosomatic…go back to the MDs”. I finally got diagnosed with Lupus about 3 years ago, but now I’m paying the price with the damage in my body thanks to 10 years of undiagnosed conditions. And now any new symptoms I have are immediately blamed on my autoimmune condition, instead of investigating further. The doctors now say “talk to your rheumatologist about this” and the rheumatologist says “it’s not my job to treat this…go back to XYZ specialist.” It’s just them pushing off responsibility onto someone else because they don’t have the time to deal with a complex case. Sometimes I wish I was well enough to go to medical school so I could properly diagnose myself!!

  4. And at 23 weeks a 3lb baby would be near impossible (most are less than 2lb), much less 9

  5. My cousin was born at 24 weeks and weighed 1 lb 6 oz. He fit in the palm of your hand with his head at the tip of your longest finger and his feet at the bottom of your palm. The smallest diapers they had at the hospital went from his chin to his toes! He lost down to 12 oz a few days after birth and they didn’t know if he would make it. Remarkably, he did!

  6. We had a 1lb 8oz-er today, so I hear you! So glad to hear he’s doing well!! Twins that big, bless you for not going insane towards the end of it!

  7. I just reread my original statement and realized that how I phrased that made it seem like I had twins! My boys are 2.5 years apart…no way I personally would have survived twins that big! Though I did have a friend who carried twins to 37-ish weeks and they were both over 8 pounds! I cannot even imagine the agony!

  8. I have no idea. I’ve asked some beauticians and they said not to use box dye. I had my hair professionally colored once and it still didn’t cover it. Just the way I am I guess. I wish it was more silver than dull grey, though. It starts at my temple and swirls away from it. It would look so glamorous.

  9. Has it always been there? A girl I grew up with had a large-ish gray chunk that grew out of the crown of her head. It was gray even in childhood and never took color. It’s actually like some kind of birthmark!

  10. Stiffness and rake were my two biggest concerns. But neither have been problematic. Took it on a steep uneven trail today and it didn’t miss a beat. Super comfortable ride on pavement. Fifth Wrangler I’ve owned since 2000 and the ride is the best I’ve had so far.

  11. As a European I truly believe that Donald Trump has been the most poisonous phenomenon in US politics ever. No matter if someone believes he was a good or a bad president of the most powerful country in the world, his existence and his influence on the American public will be studied by future generations for being the most erratic and corrosive events of all time. And for this fact alone he must be labeled as the most unsuitable politician to ever roam this land. Unbelievable to what extent he has brainwashed so many people. It’s so unique and so sad at the same time. Instead of people uniting against the governments and the oligarchies around us, we are sitting here and fighting over a sick manipulative sexist arrogant and illiterate orange turd. I’m out of words.

  12. It’s not brainwashing, per say, for most of them…it’s representation. For decades people who were equally as racist, bigoted, misogynistic, etc as Trump were “forced into the closet” by the “progressive” Civil Rights Movement. They never stopped feeling this way, it just wasn’t socially acceptable anymore so they kept their mouths shut in public and continued to spew their venomous rhetoric at home to their children/families. When Trump came out “loud and proud” of being an asshole who doesn’t care about anyone but himself, those who had been silent because of social pressure for so many years became emboldened to speak their “truth” of white supremacy and hatred of all things not white, “Christian”, and male. They were no longer relegated to just the safety of the their family reunions, where maybe only one or two individuals would speak up against their vile rhetoric. They have continued to spread their venom at home through the years, passing their self righteous beliefs from one generation to the next. When Trump came on the scene and continuously pressed the limits of socially acceptable behavior, they jumped on the bandwagon in droves. There was no brainwashing needed. Trump is literally preaching to the choir.

  13. I’ve been diagnosed since I was around 15 and I am now 26. Though I have had symptoms since I was in middle school so I understand how you feel about being diagnosed early. I’ve had a lot of ups and downs in my life with Lupus.

  14. Not OP, but what were your first symptoms? My 12 year old (almost 13) is having symptoms that we’re watching. It took 10 years to get my diagnosis(started at age 30) but I know we’ll be able to get my daughter help much faster if she needs it because of my own diagnosis.

  15. You’d think I’d have more than 2 bars with 5G activated in my body.

  16. You’ve got 2 bars?! Damn. I’ve only got 1 bar. And I’ve been boosted twice! What the hell? I got ripped off!

  17. I have this exact rash and swelling on my neck and upper chest. Its really painful to touch and i itch all over. I have scle aswell as sle and am used to all that goes with it but this us different. I had my moderna booster and flu jab at the same time two days before this appeared- is there a connection?

  18. No connection for me. This was from 2.5 years ago and has been going on for years…long before Covid vaccines! It comes and goes depending on many things…light, temperature, food, sometimes just out of nowhere. Just one of those things I’ve learned to live with.

  19. A picture is worth a thousand words, or so they say....this one says "here is proof that hate is taught"

  20. Yea, that date got me! I was 12 when this happened just 30 minutes from where I lived and I had NO idea it had even happened! Makes me sick

  21. Speaking with no knowledge or authority on the matter, laughter definitely is like 95% physiological. It's why people can't really control what noises they make when they laugh (like, actually laugh) and why family members (siblings, mostly) tend to have very similar-sounding laughs.

  22. And why I snort when I laugh hard no matter how hard I try not to!

  23. "Zero to purple connect like long running tall fish by the fight outside." What I accidentally say in ASL when I stub my toe and then smack my face falling over and my hands flail trying ti figure out what to grab but also try and shake away the pain.

  24. Me, knowing ASL, trying to imagine seeing this! 🤣🤣🤣

  25. I have Lupus, so my body is slowly and creatively killing me. It’s a role of the dice as to which organ it will take out first, but my brain and central nervous system are taking a big hit right now. 😒

  26. They probably had no idea what they were posing for. The photog doesn’t even always know what exactly they’re shooting the photo for.

  27. My daughter does acting, so I see the casting calls that come through in real life. They’re brutally specific when the want someone “plain”, “significantly over weight”, “classically ugly”, etc. Can’t speak for how it was when this photo was shot, but now you know exactly what you’re signing up for! 😳

  28. I remember when I told my brother about my diagnosis. He said “Damn, which god did you piss off?!” I said “All of them, I guess! Either that or someone has a voodoo doll of me.”

  29. Thank you. I am so grateful to read your words this morning. Acceptance is not saying it’s ok…

  30. No, it certainly isn’t. Acceptance is saying “it is what it is” and dealing from there.

  31. When I was younger and not a home owner I couldn't understand why people would pay others to mow the lawn when they could save money and just do it themselves.

  32. Especially if you live in a hot area. Georgia summers are hot as hell! We’ve had times when we pay someone and times when my husband says “no, I can do that myself!” It’s so much better when we pay someone! A lawn crew has 3-4 people working on one yard and can finish in 20-30 minutes. But for one man, or one man and a lazy teenager or two, it takes hours. I am chronically ill and am sensitive to sunlight and heat, so it’s a rare occasion when I can help out. My husband makes plenty of money, so I don’t understand his stubbornness on this issue because he hates cutting the grass! 🤷🏻‍♀️

  33. Adding on to this. It's much more common for women to NOT have the usual chest/arm pain than it is for men. They may have pain in different parts of their body or sometimes barely any pain at all.

  34. As a woman who lives with chronic body pain, I am fairly certain I would be fucked if I ever had a heart attack. I would just assume it was my Lupus acting up and go about my day like usual. 😖

  35. I have RA and same. Every once in awhile my ribs decide they aren’t having it and my whole midsection hurts. I don’t know if I could distinguish that from a heart attack.

  36. Yea I’ve got costochondritis, so I definitely understand that!

  37. I’m in Florida, here wasps form honeycomb type hives off the ground and yellow jackets/hornets live in underground bunkers. I equally despise all of them, but the woodpeckers seem to prefer the wasps. Easier to harvest I guess

  38. I lived in New Jersey for a while and one house had a huge honeycomb type hive hanging off the top gutter and the other house (which had a lot of fruit trees) had an underground wasps nest, so even up north they do the same thing. I would assume they were different types of wasps, especially since the underground wasps were alway mucking up my peaches, but that was still a big nope for me either way! The underground wasps were surprisingly not aggressive as long as you stayed away from the actual nest. They would fly out of a peach I was trying to pick and scare the shit out of me, but they never attacked or stung me. The other ones…we had to pay someone to come get the nest down and they came in full protective gear!

  39. Yes. I'm finally in therapy now for it. I started showing signs of lupus at 11 and i was diagnosed at 12. I suffered emotional and mental abuse along side religious traumas from a narcissistic father. I got diagnosed this year with anxiety and ptsd. Most of my life I've been in survival mode, putting more stress on my body.

  40. “Religious traumas from a narcissistic father”…do we have the same dad?! I felt that one deeply 😢

  41. My heart goes out to you OP 💕 but the fact that you stopped the generational traumas when it came to your child is absolutely amazing. I'm not a mother but from a child who came from an extremely abusive home while trying to manage this disease for almost 2 decades (I'm 29 now) thank you 💜

  42. I can’t tell you how much that means to me…thank you! It’s been my life’s ambition to be the best mom I can possibly be to my kids. Most people want to give their kids all the material things they never had growing up, and we were no different. But the one thing I wanted more than any material possession was unconditional love and acceptance…something I am very proud to say my children have had in abundance!

  43. I think it has more to do with gay men getting married and reducing the overall potential husband options for women. Which is still dumb, but he’s counting on those closeted religious gays to stay closeted and marry a woman. I guess he thinks making gay marriage legal will somehow help them to overcome all that brainwashing that keeps them closeted in the first place. And by reducing the population of potential husbands, women, being wild with lust as they are, will turn to the streets and get knocked up and become unwed pregnant people. And since women obviously can’t raise children without a proper husband, they will choose abortion instead. (Obviously I’m being sarcastic!)

  44. Hot Shower, and Tylenol works best for me. I went through the opioid route and I really regret it. If you are able to, cannabis with both CBD and THC has worked for me too

  45. For some reason, CBD doesn’t help me unless it also has THC with it. Unfortunately, my state currently only allows CBD. You can get a medical license for CBD with low THC, which my doctor is willing to give me, but we have NO dispensaries in Georgia! The closest place with reciprocity is D.C. Even if I was physically able to make that trip weekly or even monthly for the medication (which I’m not), I’d still have to pass through several states where it isn’t yet legal, which means I’d be subject to search and seizure even with a medical card. Georgia was originally on track to have dispensaries by 2021, but of course that got delayed. 🙄 The vape shops here can sell Delta 8 through a loophole in our state laws, and I’ve tried it, but it’s not the same as the real deal because it’s fluffed up with other chemicals. I seriously miss living in New Jersey. Medical marijuana was a game changer! I keep holding out hope that Georgia will get their shit together, but right now it feels like trying to breathe under water. 😖

  46. Ask your doctor about metamizole. That's what they gave me in the hospital when they didn't want to risk worsening my condition with ibuprofen.

  47. Nah look up the theory of clean living. Your body being too clean and not getting to fight anything is the reason you get an autoimmune disease. Richer countries have something like 2-4x the incidence rate of autoimmune disease compared to third world countries.

  48. Um…no. As a person with an autoimmune disease who definitely does not have and didn’t grow up with “clean living”, I can call bullshit on that theory. In fact, there is far more evidence to support that cleaning up your food/environment helps autoimmune diseases. Our immune systems are so strong and keyed up that they run out of things to fight and start attacking our organs instead.

  49. What is the clear-ish-white line down the center of picture number 6?

  50. The way this division is set up America cant go to outright war. The division is inter-county, even inter-city. Far right vs Left. There are centrists in the middle that don’t care, and think it all sucks. It will be little groups bombing planned parenthood’s or going after politicians or something, it’s like a highly volatile powder keg that has been sitting too long and can’t blow up because it’s all too mixed. There is no state vs. state.

  51. Georgia is a good example of this. The metropolitan Atlanta area is predominantly blue, while the rest of the state is predominately red. The reason so many [uneducated/uninformed] Georgians lost their shit when the state as a whole counted as blue in 2020 is because of sensationalized maps showing the vast majority of Georgia, by land mass, was red. What they didn’t realize (or wouldn’t acknowledge) is that half of the state’s entire population lives in the metro-Atlanta area. You cannot compare a backwoods county with a population of 1,500 people to a county, say like Gwinnett, which has close to a million residents just because the counties themselves are relatively the same physical size. How does civil war work then? Metro-Atlanta stays a part of the union while the rest of Georgia succeeds? Do I then I have to show my passport to drive out of Atlanta and to another state in the union? This is a very common setup for a lot of states. True civil war would be very difficult with population distribution the way it is nowadays. So do all the rednecks unite and start bombing the shit out of the state capital? What’s to stope them? They tried to do the same with our US capital!

  52. For my daughter, my wife purchased her some "period panties". They look and wear like normal underwear, but basically have a built in pad function. We got them for her when she was about 12 and was stressing about a first period coming when she wasn't expecting it or at school. She loved them and they worked great! My wife bought herself some. My daughter now uses them with a pad/panty liner and is all good to go. She is likewise disinclined to use a tampon at this time, although she knows that is an option should she want to go that way. Open communication about stuff like this is key. My wife travels, and I'm really encouraged that at 15, she is willing and able to talk to me about these personal issues. Really working hard to keep that line open and develop it with my boys who are a little younger.

  53. You’re a good father! I bought pads long before our child actually started their period, and I made sure my husband knew where the pads were kept and how they are “installed” into the underwear, just in case I wasn’t around on the big day. I loved it that my husband’s response was “I got this, babe! Don’t worry.” That made me feel so proud! It’s so very important for girls to have dads like you guys who are fully supportive. 😁

  54. No worries. Sometimes things get lost in translation depending on which comments you’re replying to.

  55. Churches that preach the KJV being the only true English translation (and 100% infallible) generally go for the 1611 KJV.

  56. Yes, I’m fairly certain my friend’s grandparents were IFB. It would make sense because he also have her shit for going to a Southern Baptist church. One time he did it front of me and being the loud mouth that I was (am), I said “shouldn’t you just be happy she’s going to church and reading the Bible?!” He didn’t like that. 🤪

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